True Story - I know the kids involved.

Boy and girl live in same neighbourhood (Houston Tx) and have been dating since high school ..going on 6 years now. Boy (now 21) got into a Chicago uni last year but flies home regularly because of the girl. ..all is well.

Girl (now 19) is starting University of Houston this fall, will be leaving in a hostel and already has been invited to join a sorority. Her first time of staying away from her parents and is obviously excited about all the fun that awaits her.

Girl calls the boy that there's something they need to discuss face to face. Loverboy flies to Houston right away to meet with the girl so they can discuss.

Girl breaks up with boy. Reason - she's just starting her life and wants to tests the waters...meet new guys, enjoy her sorority, enjoy the freedom of not living with her parents, etc.

Boy gets home and starts crying furiously. His parents are furious that boy wasted time and over $250 to fly to Houston only to be dumped..when he should have been back in school facing his studies.


I personally agree with what the girl did ...but she should have saved him money and time by dumping him over the phone.

I just discussed this with my wife..she said she hopes her own son does not fall in love anyhow. I laughed and told her to reverse the genders.. and then think about it.

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So, ladies in the house,

- did the girl do the right thing by facing reality and breaking up with the boy?

- Flip the script, how would it have sounded if it was the boy that broke up with the girl ..for the same exact reason? Wont he be called callous, mean and heartless?

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Dat gal na ashawo

that girl is a B. she could have sent him a letter or even an email. She made him fly home just to dump his azz? Well tell that boy to count himself lucky because she broke it off before she started whoring her azz out in college. He needs to also go back to school and meet new women. He can surly LovePeddler himself out at school too.

High school love will mostly end if the two parties decide to go away to college.

Chazzyboy: Dat gal na ashawo

by the nigerian context, yes. But the truth is, will it be better for the girl to be cheating on him (cos she definitely will)?

In a part, its nice she dropped it like that, in the other part, she is clearly,

1. A b!tch if she only wanted to fucck around.

2. A honest person of she just can't go on with the guy.

Kini big deal?

SLIDE waxie: by the nigerian context, yes. But the truth is, will it be better for the girl to be cheating on him (cos she definitely will)?

In a part, its nice she dropped it like that, in the other part, she is clearly,

1. A b!tch if she only wanted to fucck around.

2. A honest person of she just can't go on with the guy.

Kini big deal?

That's why I agreed with what she did....but she should have done it over the phone.

Again, what if the boy had done the exact same thing a year ago when he moved to college in Chicago.....would we call him an asewo..or call him mean and callous?

1. Good for her for dumping him
but
2. She shouldn't have made him to fly there for it...

Ehen,and so what? What is bad in what she did.that is absolutely normal,i dont blame her.she is being down to earth.what if she has led the guy on, given the guy the impression she loves him when she doesnt,collect money from the guy on several occassions for food,hair,clothes,books and she knows deep down in her mind that she doesnt want to have anything serious with the guy and be cheating on him while still in school,meets another guy and officially breaks up with him after her graduation,does the guy or his family want to arrest her for that.as far as i am concerned,she broke up in the most polite way and by the way do guys not break up in a worse way e.g replacing a girl and putting himself in such a situation where the lady will catch him cheating and now use that opportunity to tell her its over.so whats with the ashawo,bch,skank,flying all over the thread.what is she wasted his time,emotions,money,heart and resources.she is even a nice girl.many girls i know will not do that,they will collect money from the guy for this and that,use the money for themselves or even use it to cook for another guy and when she graduates,he will come to her house thinking now is the time to propose,only for him to be driven away in such an embarassing manner or get the shock of his life



You guys should get a grip joor besides what was he thinking.a small girl that is just starting her life to stay glued or be faithful to one guy.what for?when he hasnt even proposed or married her.abegiiii


is she the first or would she be the last girl to break up with a guy.will the world end if she dumps his arze

She should refund the money he spent to get himself to her place.

She could have done it through skype

Mynd_44: She should refund the money he spent to get himself to her place.

She could have done it through skype

see this mynd o. and if she doesnt? On the basis that i only requested if you can come,which you had an option of saying no,i cant make it,i am busy.you werent forced or coerced or placed on any form of duress,pressure or threat. So the guy came voluntarily.the guy is just compounding matters if he is asking her for a refund

kokoye:

That's why I agreed with what she did....but she should have done it over the phone.

Again, what if the boy had done the exact same thing a year ago when he moved to college in Chicago.....would we call him an asewo..or call him mean and callous?

nope! Most likely some people will refer to him as a 'sharp guy,smart guy,badt guy,brilliant guy,badoo' etc

kulyie: see this mynd o. and if she doesnt? On the basis that i only requested if you can come,which you had an option of saying no,i cant make it,i am busy.you werent forced or coerced or placed on any form of duress,pressure or threat. So the guy came voluntarily.the guy is just compounding matters if he is asking her for a refund

You failed to see the sarcasm in my post.

The deeds(dumping, waste of time and waste of money) has been done. He needs to move on and not bite his fingers.

It will hurt and his head will really spin but he will eventually get over it.......or not

Mynd_44:
You failed to see the sarcasm in my post.

The deeds(dumping, waste of time and waste of money) has been done. He needs to move on and not bite his fingers.

It will hurt and his head will really spin but he will eventually get over it.......or not

o,i get,you are right,thats very true

kulyie: nope! Most likely some people will refer to him as a 'sharp guy,smart guy,badt guy,brilliant guy,badoo' etc

Agian, that's why i'm trying to get the female perspective on this.

If the guy had dumped the girl when he was about to go to college (just as this lady recently did), what would most ladies, wives and mothers think of him?

I told my wife this story and she said she would discourage her son from ever falling in love.. lol. I then asked her how she would feel if she heard her own mother in-law (my mom) say that. She ignored my question..of course! LOL

AlbinoNinja: 1. Good for her for dumping him
but
2. She shouldn't have made him to fly there for it...

Instead for a girl to cheat on me,I would prefer this kind of treatment over and over again,so she did the RIGHT thing for a WRONG reason.