From reports available with the US Office of National Statistics, about 15% of internet users log onto online dating sites, while 30% access chat rooms online. More people are using the internet nowadays as a way of meeting new people and making friends or developing more intimate relationships.

The coming of the internet also brought along certain challenges and problems associated with its usage. There is hardly a way to tell if you are dating a trickster or a player online, but with a bit of common sense and caution you can learn to spot such persons before they strike. The following could be considered warning signals:

1. He seems too ‘smooth'
For an online Lothario (a man who behaves selfishly and irresponsibly in his sexual relations with women), the internet is a feast of the senses. His hunting ground is massive, and he has his pick of unsuspecting and often gullible women. After all they wouldn't be on the dating site unless they were looking for Mr. Right would they?
The loser will make sure he hones his approach to lure you into his spiders' web. From the minute you make contact with him he will instinctively ‘know' the right thing to say. He will shower you with compliments and insist you tell him all about yourself. After all, he is here for you right? Wrong! He wants to find what makes you tick so he can adjust his approach to suit your personality. You love chick flicks, he will have a hidden feminine side and cry along with you. You like long walks in the park, he will enjoy the same. He loves the chase, and he will set you up so you slide right into his arms. This is not to say that every man who connects with this side of you will be a player, but don't rush in until you have a sense of who you are dealing with.

2. He always seems to be online when you log on.
Some sites have the functionality so you know when someone last logged on or if they are online presently.
Lothario will be on the site almost all the time. Don't believe the excuse that he fell asleep with his computer on (every day). If he's online he's probably casting his net wide so he can pull in more pretty little fish like you.

3. He wants to move your conversation quickly offline and presses to meet even if you feel he hasn't really gotten to know you.
Conversation can be quite superficial with this one. He never really wants to dig too deep, or will dominate the conversation so you find out loads about him while your life hangs in the background. Either way, this is a sign that he doesn't want to get too emotionally attached to you. This makes it a lot easier for breaking it off when the time comes. Players like this move to a pattern: snare them, overwhelm them, shag them, run! Don't fall for this, no matter how charming or sexy he is. If he seems too good to be true there's a reason for that. He probably is!

4. Conversation almost always leads to sex talk.
You haven't met, you've only been chatting for a week. But every time you do he tries to steer you towards what's going on “down south”. He might be subtle, he might even be pushy. Whatever his personal approach, if you find that he can't hold a straight conversation without heading down the nookie route he probably won't be around much longer after the deed is done.

5. He has a ‘stalker' on the site.
This is a classic. He hasn't had much luck with the site. He was just about to cancel his membership and then he spotted your profile. He has a stalker on the site called ‘xxxx' and she has been making his life hell so he's had enough of it.
There is any number of excuses with this type. But basically they are all engineered to lull you into a false sense of security and get you to feel sympathy for him. The stalker could well be a woman that he has actually dated before on the site who is wise to his tricks and he wouldn't want you to talk to her just in case she blew his sleazy cover.
Warning bells should be going off with this guy, so if you do talk to him proceed with caution. And don't allow yourself to be rushed to divulge any personal contact details until you are ready to do so. Or before you know it, you'll be the ‘stalker' trying to spoil his chances at a new conquest.
Now, not everything is so black and white with online dating. There are guys out there who are wise to how women tick and will manipulate it ruthlessly. Maybe they are more patient than the cut and dry explanations I gave above. Maybe they slow down to your pace if you are more cautious, maybe they appear more empathetic. But one thing is for sure: never feel that you ‘ought' to do something until you are comfortable with it. Without a way of checking with mutual friends or family who this guy is, you are really just left with your gut instinct. So don't fall for the pitch before you know what you're signing up for. Like any contract, always read the fine print darling.

You may share any experiences had or currently having. Shine Your Eyes Ladies and Good luck!

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