high-chief:
Some of the people making contributions here have never stayed in Nigeria or only know about Nigeria from what they read on nairaland and believed me if u think u know about the real Nigeria because you are a nairalander then I feel sorry for u, u are what we call tolotolo obodo oyibo .The issue of having house helps is a common culture here and NO you just don't adopt the kid no matter how much u love them its not that easy. I started getting calls from a lot of my relations asking me to take one of their kids with me Immediately after my marriage they strongly believe that the child will have a better chance in life, some of these folks have over 8 kids. One time I traveled and my wife feel ill and my aunty who came around to help out left her 11 years old daughter behind, she was like our first daughter until my wife had our child, today she is loves taking care of her little sister. The point is taking these kids into your home should be about giving them a chance because if their parent have what it takes they won't let them become househelps and YES every kid in the house MUST run errands including my own because I don't want to raise lazy aldults.

Ugosample: This thing is two sided. Many women treat them like shit in the house, maltreat them, etc. On the other hand, some househelps become ingrates when they're treated well, they challenge their caretakers and cause other problems. This thing tire me. I guess it's the peculiar nature of Nigerians... Always wanting to oppress. I will relate my aunty's experience later on this thread.

Ugosample: My aunt got a help to stay with her. This girl is from the village and she took her in as her own, gave her good clothes and sent her to the same school with her youngest daughter. But as time went on, she became unruly, stealing things and engaging my aunt in a shouting match. She also left the house a couple of times to God knows where and she later came home with an STD (don't ask me which one) she was still treated and forgiven, but that did not stop her unruly behaviour. Her friends and sisters make jest of her, saying that this is what you get when you treat them with love, etc. I'm not saying they should be treated badly, but many of them are INGRATES.

greatgod2012: The fact is that, if you must have a househelp, be ready to treat him/her like one of your kids, anything short of that will definitely bring the wrath of God on that family.

Lobeez: Listen guys, I don't care how well you treat your maid and I don't care if you send her to queens college; as long as you have a minor in your house as a maid, it is illegal and you could get arrested for that.
a colleague of mine once went to the police to report an incident in which his housemaid ran away with his money and wife's jewelries he was immediately detained for child trafficking and abuse.
I advise people to always go for paid nannies that are above 18yrs of age, anything short of this is wickedness

Lobeez:

Lazy child trafficker, how would you feel if you were still in some white dudes sugar plantation huh?

Orikinla: Many families in urban areas in Nigeria and other countries in the world have housemaids and houseboys and they are the popular domestic workers in many homes.
There are those who cannot do without them.

I am not really against families with housemaids and houseboys, but I am really concerned about how they treat them.
We have heard and read of many reports of horrible and terrible things done to housemaids and houseboys by their employers.
In many homes, they treat them without respect and so they maltreat them.
I have seen where dogs in the mansion are better treated than housemaids and houseboys in Nigeria.
I mean the dogs can sit on the rug with the family, but the housemaids and houseboys cannot do so.

The worst is to deprive your housemaid or houseboy of education.
It is evil and wicked not to send the housemaid or houseboy of school age to the nearest school.
Depriving your housemaid or houseboy of basic primary or secondary school education is dangerous to your own security and welfare.
Lest we forget, your innocent children are often left in the care of your housemaids and houseboys and imagine what kind of knowledge they would share with your children if they are not educated!
And when you maltreat them, you are going to end up misleading your own children with your bad example in parenting and guardianship.

AjanleKoko:

However well you may be treating them, you are breaking the law by employing underage children.
The responsible and civic thing to do would be to adopt them as your wards, not keep them as employees.

We all want a greater Nigeria, but in our private lives, we ridicule its laws consistently

chaircover:

You did all that and 99% of your househelps are evil to the extent that they poisoned your son

Are you by any chance saying that househelps are programmed/contain the evil gene from birth?

Something not right somewhere

mfm04622:
The world isn't black & white. It is usually grey! It is great opportunity for a maid to get a good family. First question, when staying with her parents, does he/she have access to education? Answer is usually no. What of standard of living? Usually better when staying with employers. I have a maid. She attend a private school that cost me 25k per term. Of course my child attend a better school but i struggle to pay my child school fees. I can send him to that school because i have only a child. My maid eat what we eat, is attended to in the same hospital. Her main job is to take care of my child as i have an older woman come on weekends to wash and iron and other heavy stuff. I understand the law is required to protect house maids from being treated badly but to make it illegal? That is removing opportunity some of them get for social mobility.

chaircover:

Go to any church on Sunday and even a blind man can pick out the househelps amongst the congregation.

devour129: have never employed under aged person,that I want to send them to school doesn't mean they are kids.i want to send them to school cos I feel they didn't have the opportunity n I have got the means

Lobeez:

So why can't you put your maid in same school as you kid? If you care so much for them then why not become their foster parent instead of turning them to domestic labourers?

olumidazz: I sent her to a days school after a few months she was crying she was not the school type, we sent to learn hair dressing during the day when there is no one at home, after 2 months she was pregnant, now we have sent her packing.

Ninapha: I just pray there is another name to represent these children. I personally prefer calln them my wards.

To the question, yest one is in SS1 and the other took jamb. My target is to make them better than they came and i pray God helps me and my spouse to achieve it.

mfm04622:
Can't you read that i struggle to pay the fees? I can't afford to send two children to the school even if both are my biological children.

Ninapha: I just pray there is another name to represent these children. I personally prefer calln them my wards.

To the question, yest one is in SS1 and the other took jamb. My target is to make them better than they came and i pray God helps me and my spouse to achieve it.

kulyie: I remember some time ago i went to greet my aunt and so we were jisting and the next thing she said was that i was about goig to my friends house in an hours time before you came,give some minutes,let me go and dress up so we will go together but meanwhile eat.i said ok,so i went to the pot to serve myself.so anyway,i was done with the food,left it in the kitchen and then we both left the house.when we got to her friends house,we exchanged pleaseantries and my aunty asked her friend that she has been looking at this house since,its only you and your husbands bedroom, kids bedroom and play room you guys have,where does your house help sleep.the friend said in the kitchen on the floor.my auntys eyes turned towards me and i looked at her too in shock.i said concrete floor? She said ehen.i said ok,where is she now? The woman said she has gone to pick her kids from school,i said what about her,isnt she in school? She looked at me strange and said why should she be in school,na me born am,abi na me go pay for her school fees when i get 2 pikin wey me and my husband still dey struggle to pay their school fees.my aunty interjected and said ok so how do you compensate her for all the chores shes doing,she said i have paid off the agent who brought her so it is as good as i bought her.she doesnt have any right to anything in this house except food and i must make sure she has washed my childrens school uniform,socks,dishes,everybody has eating before she eats.i had to cut in and said aunty thats not fair na.even though no one knows what youre doing to her and she is vulnerable,God is seeing you o,dont let him visit his judgement upon you through your kids.she said abegiiiiii,spare me.if i send her to school now,she will start getting conscious of herself and her looks and she will start competing with me.i said haba aunty,an 11 year old girl.she said,you you dont even know anything,wait till you get in my shoes.anyway to cut the long story short,when we left her place and my aunty was driving in the car,i said aunty mi, she said aburo,i said can i advise you,she said,i am listening.i noded and said this woman you call your friend,i dont like your relationship with her.this is not the kind of woman you should be hanging around with.God forbid eveil,if your enemy dies and for one reason or the other your child stays with her,just no that your childs life will be messed up.imagine how she is treating her house help as if she is not even a human being.such a little girl like that,an illiterate, worstill sleeping in the kitchen and eating the remenants of everyones plate packed together.that is what we do for our dog.that girl is too small for that na.my aunty said,well,thats true,i will talk to her but i had the intention of talking to her however not in your presence because she might feel embarassed that she is talking to her in the presence of her friends younger one,i said better.


Infact ehen.smh