One of my close pals is in a dillema pls help advice him. He has a female friend whom he is very close that the girl comes to spend days in his house and they sleep on thesame bed but nothing happens to they have been friends 4 more than 7 years now and although dis guy has strong feelings 4 the girl he never disclosed it according to him because he felt the girl may not feel likewise and that would jeopardize the friendship they have both been in relationships with other people recently the guy decided to get married to his current girl and when he told the friend about his intention the girls mood changed and after much pessuasion the girl opened up dat she has been inlove with the guy all these while and have been waiting patiently 4 d guy to notice that she went ahead to beg him not to get married yet that he should give her a chance to be with him. Now my guy is confused he doesn't know wot 2 do cos he is already committed to his current girl on the other hand he really loves that his friend. Please advice him on what to do

D tin is ur alleged friend is in love wit d gal so y should he torture himself by getting married to anoda lady he doesn't really love, IMO ur "friend" should leave d current lady and face d one he loves, its dat simple.

your friend was stuck in the friend zone for 7 years There is nothing to do now but go ahead and marry his new love. wasting time with the "patient" woman might not lead to marriage. If the patient woman really loved him she would have made moves or even send a friend to ask him questions about her. Now that he is about to marry, she is loosing her backup and she is worried. why throw away a sure thing for an unknown?

It happens man.

25omega: your friend was stuck in the friend zone for 7 years There is nothing to do now but go ahead and marry his new love. wasting time with the "patient" woman might not lead to marriage. If the patient woman really loved him she would have made moves or even send a friend to ask him questions about her. Now that he is about to marry, she is loosing her backup and she is worried. why throw away a sure thing for an unknown?

Would it be right for him to marry the current girl while he is still very much inlove with sumone else ?

If na u,u bera come out strait...d guy shud ask himself "who I do love" who am I comfortable around" who do I want to spend d rest of my life with"?...he shud carefully and truthfully answer d questions..d answer lies in his conclustions...

he should fvck her and still go ahead to marry his current girlfriend

patemy:
Would it be right for him to marry the current girl while he is still very much inlove with sumone else ?

Umm no it wont be right but why is the dumb guy proposing to another poor uninformed woman while he is in love with someone else? He obviously loves the woman he proposed to enough to want to marry her right?

I think the love he has for the patient woman is just the regret of what could have been. He needs to suck it up and get married and stop wondering about what could have been. Trust me everyone has a what if in their minds even married couples do.

7 bloody years in the friend zone?? That's a new time record high mehn!

I just feel for the poor innocent girlfriend. The guy needs time to sort himself out and decide what he really wants

Bro we gats be realistic here...even if ur guy marries his current girl friend..one fact is sure, his happiness will never be complete...there's no need to please d current girl jst cos u are into her @ d moment...7 yrs is not 7 days...and I believe that if u can stay as good friends for that long then u will definitely fit into marriage(my thoughts though) my advice is that you tell ur guy to follow his h@, let him follow whoever that makes him happy...all the best to him!