Alikaxon: Correct ur topic "no shame dating an hausa man" not "a hausa man" d "h" is a consonant bt silent. Cheers! I wil modify nd remove dis my correctn later after u've done xo, so d thread cn flow. Cheers!!!

FlowerPower:

When you correct all the grammatical errors in your sentence, I will "correct" my title .

Alikaxon: ewo! Hahahaha. Laughing things, what a daft she goat you are; you even quoted me to make matters worse, you 've just made the public see how I corrected your imperfect tense. You know your problem? It's "pride" don't be suprised I just fathomed it. I was even trying to be humble and assist you, and you are being too proud of your frivolous tenses, a philosopher once said; "proud people don't learn, they don't take correction". Your issue even amazed me even as I tried to overlook it. What will you gain from covering your shame? Fool. As if you didn't attend primary school to know when to use "an" on a vowel. Dumb head woman, this was what a nairalander complained about; poor english constrution. Why don't you point out your so called acclaimed flaws in my tenses? Those were mere abbreviations. You idiot.

Alikaxon: ewo! Hahahaha. Laughing things, what a daft she goat you are; you even quoted me to make matters worse, you 've just made the public see how I corrected your imperfect tense. You know your problem? It's "pride" don't be suprised I just fathomed it. I was even trying to be humble and assist you, and you are being too proud of your frivolous tenses, a philosopher once said; "proud people don't learn, they don't take correction". Your issue even amazed me even as I tried to overlook it. What will you gain from covering your shame? Fool. As if you didn't attend primary school to know when to use "an" on a vowel. Dumb head women, this was what a nairalander complained about; poor english constrution. Why don't you point out your so called acclaimed flaws in my tenses? Those were mere abbreviations. You idiot.

Alikaxon: ewo! Hahahaha. Laughing things, what a daft she goat you are; you even quoted me to make matters worse, you 've just made the public see how I corrected your imperfect tense. You know your problem? It's "pride" don't be suprised I just fathomed it. I was even trying to be humble and assist you, and you are being too proud of your frivolous tenses, a philosopher once said; "proud people don't learn, they don't take correction". Your issue even amazed me even as I tried to overlook it. What will you gain from covering your shame? Fool. As if you didn't attend primary school to know when to use "an" on a vowel. Dumb head woman, this was what a nairalander complained about; poor english constrution. Why don't you point out your so called acclaimed flaws in my tenses? Those were mere abbreviations. You idiot.

virago:


The one with pride here is you , you take offence to someone correcting you as well. look at your initial post and tell me if you'll get any score for correct use of English.

Bigcake: must u let everyone know u r just 17yrs old?

Alikaxon: my dear, It was a mere abbrev. Abi person nr dy use slangs again? It's better to use slangs than to be speaking wrong correct english. I humbly corrected her, and instead of her to appreciate, she resorted to attacking me. Don't get me wrong.

Alikaxon: Correct ur topic "no shame dating an hausa man" not "a hausa man" d "h" is a consonant bt silent. Cheers! I wil modify nd remove dis my correctn later after u've done xo, so d thread cn flow. Cheers!!!

Alikaxon: ewo! Hahahaha. Laughing things, what a daft she goat you are; you even quoted me to make matters worse, you 've just made the public see how I corrected your imperfect tense. You know your problem? It's "pride" don't be suprised I just fathomed it. I was even trying to be humble and assist you, and you are being too proud of your frivolous tenses, a philosopher once said; "proud people don't learn, they don't take correction". Your issue even amazed me even as I tried to overlook it. What will you gain from covering your shame? Fool. As if you didn't attend primary school to know when to use "an" on a vowel. Dumb head woman, this was what a nairalander complained about; poor english constrution. Why don't you point out your so called acclaimed flaws in my tenses? Those were mere abbreviations. You idiot.

FlowerPower: So after all my rants and rejection of "Nigerian" men, I finally broke down and became seriously involved with one who is a US citizen. All I can say is bless the woman who trained him for me because he is a Big Boy in the pockets and the pants.
However I do have a question. He has been a Christian for many years, but I wonder if his conversion was out of necessity due to his career. He attends Catholic church, but when I talk to him about religion, I can tell he is still a Muslim in his heart. Have you known any Hausa men who converted to Christianity, then went back to practicing the Muslim faith later in life? I ask because I see where this relationship is going and I'm not trying to be wife number one out of four.

HisRib:

If I understood correstly, potentially being one of many wives is your only concern about him being Muslim? If he reassures you he won't pick another wife, you will go ahead with the marriage?

How about, how will you raise your children? Are you okay with your children being raised as Muslims?

How will you pray together as a family unit?

What religion will lead the home? Remember, two cannot walk together unless they agree.

I'm a big supporter of interracial marriages, but interregilious marriages I'm not quite sure. I have watched many interreligious marriages break apart because the couple cannot decide how to raise the children.

If he remains a Christian, that's okay. If he returns a devout Muslim during the marriage, what will you do?

FlowerPower:

Being in a multi-wife marriage is not my only concern, however it is a great concern. He knows that I am Christian and that will not change. He is a "good" person, but he once said religion is flexible (for him). If we talk about religious topics long enough, he eventually speaks on Muslim practices. I'm afraid this wonderful man is going to switch religions on me when he is old.

HisRib:

If he still speaks of Muslim practices, that means he still holds on to his religion and will most likely reconvert.

If you are okay with potentially marrying a Muslim and raising your kids as Muslims, by all means go for it.

If you want to have a Christian home, you might want to think long and hard before you marry this man.

FlowerPower: So after all my rants and rejection of "Nigerian" men, I finally broke down and became seriously involved with one who is a US citizen. All I can say is bless the woman who trained him for me because he is a Big Boy in the pockets and the pants.
However I do have a question. He has been a Christian for many years, but I wonder if his conversion was out of necessity due to his career. He attends Catholic church, but when I talk to him about religion, I can tell he is still a Muslim in his heart. Have you known any Hausa men who converted to Christianity, then went back to practicing the Muslim faith later in life? I ask because I see where this relationship is going and I'm not trying to be wife number one out of four.

Alikaxon: you really need to observe him more, sit and talk with him, voice out your fears about his possibility of marrying other wives in the near future, and be bold to take proactive decision in direction with his reaction to your questions. If he assures you; go ahead and marry him, but if he sounds double minded; don't hesitate to live the relationship. I believe you can study this guy and, thus able to predict your future together based on your findings. Cheers!!!

FlowerPower:

I have expressed my concerns to him and he assures me that he would not marry more than one woman. I do know that if he wanted to be with many women, he could easily do so. However from my observation is a faithful man. I think I will just take more time with him to make sure he has truly converted.

Yield: OP, were you able to find another girl for your Nigerian friend? LOL. Did it bother you that he wasn't a u.s citizen? Just curious. You mentioned his visa was expiring in a year and in this thread you mentioned this new guy is a u.s citizen. Is it important that your potential spouse be a citizen like you, because you're worried about being used for papers? I'm just curious.

HisRib:

I hope you understand in his religion/culture, having more than one wife isn't considered being unfaithful. Didn't you hear what Akon, Senegalese-American Muslim singer, said about monogamy? Although he was born and raised in the U.S, he still holds strong religious views and suggested that America adopt polygamy. In Islam, it's not considered "being unfaithful." It's the norm.