My best friend and I live in the same hostel in school and she lives with her boy friend!! The problem is this guy beats her all the time! Sometime she would run out of their room and the guy will chase her to wherever shes hiding,drag her to their room,locks the door and beats her to stupor!
I have adviced her on several occasions to leave this guy and park out of his room but she ends up telling him and the next day,the guy would come and threaten me. She claims that she loves this dude so much and that he is her life,she even cried to me one day saying if the dude leaves her she will DIE!! The funny thing is how sweet this guy is at first,he is so sleek and caring but those who truly know him knws he's a moster!
Many a time my friend will miss classes because of black eye and broken bones,she has even turned to a laffing stock,as our neigbours often mimick them and make jokes about how the guy beats her but she's adamant and has decided to die in his arms if dats wat it takes!!!!
My problem is I have tried everytin,I love my besty,I don't wanna lose her to this animal,what do I do or say to her dat will make her leave this guy?? Am plannin to even call the mother to let her know about this,is this right?? Pls I need advice and I blive I can get reasonable response soon!!! Tanx

ENIMONEY: My best friend and I live in the same hostel in school and she lives with her boy friend!! The problem is this guy beats her all the time! Sometime she would run out of their room and the guy will chase her to wherever shes hiding,drag her to their room,locks the door and beats her to stupor!
I have adviced her on several occasions to leave this guy and park out of his room but she ends up telling him and the next day,the guy would come and threaten me. She claims that she loves this dude so much and that he is her life,she even cried to me one day saying if the dude leaves her she will DIE!! The funny thing is how sweet this guy is at first,he is so sleek and caring but those who truly know him knws he's a moster!
Many a time my friend will miss classes because of black eye and broken bones,she has even turned to a laffing stock,as our neigbours often mimick them and make jokes about how the guy beats her but she's adamant and has decided to die in his arms if dats wat it takes!!!!
My problem is I have tried everytin,I love my besty,I don't wanna lose her to this animal,what do I do or say to her dat will make her leave this guy?? Am plannin to even call the mother to let her know about this,is this right?? Pls I need advice and I blive I can get reasonable response soon!!! Tanx

simple,call her mother to come this nite dont delay!.tel her everytin but she should keep u annoymous coz the boy is treatin u.if her mum is using a bb get som1 bb snap her injuries & send.

ENIMONEY: My best friend and I live in the same hostel in school and she lives with her boy friend!! The problem is this guy beats her all the time! Sometime she would run out of their room and the guy will chase her to wherever shes hiding,drag her to their room,locks the door and beats her to stupor!
I have adviced her on several occasions to leave this guy and park out of his room but she ends up telling him and the next day,the guy would come and threaten me. She claims that she loves this dude so much and that he is her life,she even cried to me one day saying if the dude leaves her she will DIE!! The funny thing is how sweet this guy is at first,he is so sleek and caring but those who truly know him knws he's a moster!
Many a time my friend will miss classes because of black eye and broken bones,she has even turned to a laffing stock,as our neigbours often mimick them and make jokes about how the guy beats her but she's adamant and has decided to die in his arms if dats wat it takes!!!!
My problem is I have tried everytin,I love my besty,I don't wanna lose her to this animal,what do I do or say to her dat will make her leave this guy?? Am plannin to even call the mother to let her know about this,is this right?? Pls I need advice and I blive I can get reasonable response soon!!! Tanx

u must not let anybody know u made the call.the minute ur friend mom comes pack ur tins lock ur room and vacate that hostel!
If ur parents ask tel them as wel.

Classic case of masochism. Na love cause am

Some ladies like being treated like animals,the more you beat them,the more it seems they like you. Your friend is living in a caged relationship.

She loves the bondage. Pathetic!

Yomieluv: Some ladies like being treated like animals,the more you beat them,the more it seems they like you. Your friend is living in a caged relationship.

Abuse is a form of control,after beating her and plumetting her self esteem he is the only person she believes can love her! It is horrible

@Op, I will advise you to mind your business

ignis: @Op, I will advise you to mind your business

if this was ur sista?wil u be comfortable.

ignis: @Op, I will advise you to mind your business

forgiv my inquisitivenes.do u believe that ur bf beatin u is a sign of luv or u tink the beating is becoz his rit?

baralatie:
forgiv my inquisitivenes.do u believe that ur bf beatin u is a sign of luv or u tink the beating is becoz his rit?

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baralatie:
u must not let anybody know u made the call.the minute ur friend mom comes pack ur tins lock ur room and vacate that hostel!
If ur parents ask tel them as wel.

my friend will never forgive me if I call her mum,but I belive I have to take drastic measures!! But is there any other thing I could do apart from calling the mum?

ignis: @Op, I will advise you to mind your business

I won't lie,many people have adviced me to mind my bussiness and leave my friend alone becos she is obviously enjoying the beating,but I keep reading stories of Men killing their woman during the process of assaulting them! I dnt want my frnd to die.I can't stand by and watch her destroy her life

WOW! This is a delicate issue. Sounds like she has the battered woman syndrome. Calling her mother may be your best option at the moment, but even that is not guaranteed to keep her away from this guy.

Until she comes to her senses and realizes this man is no good for her, there is nothing much anyone can do.

Please pray that God will open her eyes!

HisRib: WOW! This is a delicate issue. Sounds like she has the battered woman syndrome. Calling her mother may be your best option at the moment, but even that is not guaranteed to keep her away from this guy.

Until she comes to her senses and realizes this man is no good for her, there is nothing much anyone can do.

Please pray that God will open her eyes!

I thought as much! I just wish she could just open her eyes to see!!

Pls can I get this on front page? I know there are people out there with experience or who have gone through this!! How did they handle it? Tanx

ENIMONEY: Pls can I get this on front page? I know there are people out there with experience or who have gone through this!! How did they handle it? Tanx

call her mom!why?d day she gets to tel her mom?u wil be her no. 1 enemy!dont tink dat if u cant help that heip wil not come from anoda.

Now u see everytin!dont tink the bf is nt scheming u into his calculation.just imagin who the no 2 victim can be al becoz u minded ur busines.ur being their witnesing al these put u at a more greater risk.
Again pls Cal her mom,NOW!!!!


Unles u are just like some girlz i know who encourage oda girls to their own grave in the name of Whateva Nonsense u girls cal it.

Ifè Love ne mé. Dis her love is very stupid.

Any man that raises his hand on a woman is not fit to be called a man , if he feels he is strong enough let him face his fellow man, btw ladies sometimes amazes me someone that says he loves you maltreats you regularly and you're still staying with him, sincerely it beats my imagination. The young lady in this case should just quietly wrap that love in a foil and throw it in the dust bin...The case of that famale banker comes to mind. Remember a broken relationship is better than a brolen marriage.