Circle-Of-Wilis:
huge

lomprico:
I tire o! He must be a yoruba dude with 'H' factor dat reflects his write up.

Hackerjay: Guy,u need deliverance ooo.or better still,u can see ur pastor.

Climaths: what is the meanin of H factor

brosss: First I congratulate you both on the arrival of your Bundle of blessings, I also wish to congratulate the girl in question for the bravery and dedication. For not being a hypocrite and choosing a one year spill-over rather than a few minutes abortion. If you are reading this, you have my respect and I am sure I speak for some others too. Now to the topic.
@ poster, from your write up, u seem like a person who has a bit of spiritual inclination. See, I know for certain that you are not yet determined enough. Determination is not just saying no to premarital sex, its been able to avoid senarios that encourages it. My people say " Person whe no one taste soup, make that person no use him teeth share meet" that is, "a man who is abstaining from soup shouldn't use his teeth in sharing meet for the kids." You both love each other and its obvious you don't like the idea of premarital sex, then avoid the enviroment, occassions etc.. I am very experimental. One certain day, my girl visited and I just wanted to know if I(and she) were in it for the sex or love, so this faithful day, rather than the usual jumping into bed and the ravaging things, we just layed still, looked each other and talked. Yes, we had a few kisses. But we talked and played and joked. And for the "first time" I wasn't in doubt , I really do love her. So love is possible without sex. I made up my mind since then and we decided together to threat sex as sacred and forgoe it till marriage.
So, in a nutshell my friend,if you stop the sex thing by way of determination, you'd discover tons of other fun things you can do together and which to a greater extent ties your bond.
We cook together, joke, fight mock wrestling(my favourite), act, pray, watch movies, take a stroll, teach her driving, tickle,tease (I'll stop here so she doesn't decode my identity)
And the good thing is that you guys have a baby already. Care for the baby together and you'd realize that the urge will die down naturally.
Let's know how well you are doing in a few weeks time....

Oyinprince: OP, lemme ask first. Are you born again or you just a church goer

Oyinprince: OP, lemme ask first. Are you born again or you just a church goer

AjaraEwuro: dump her before she leads you to hell.

Climaths: bro am a born again christain. And i know what it takes 2 be born again.

technophantom: My guy , don't try it again o.... Is it because you are not the one carrying the pregnancy? Or do you want her to drop out of school because she loves you....? Ahn ahn! Thank goodness you guys didn't opt for abortion. You would have had murder to deal with. Ok I know its your first relationship but that excuse is so lame. You don't just jump into a relationship because you see brad pit kissing angelina jolie in mr.andmrs smith, no, relationships is not like what hollywood movies paint na. You have to be matured enough for it. Anyways.. About the matter at hand, what you are doing is dangerous. If the only point of attraction you have to your woman is sex, then dude, You are in for some serious ssshit. What that means is that d period when she can't give you, within or without marriage, you 'l get so fraustrated that you might play away match. Learn to be friends with her, biuld some other point of contact. Gist, back ur baby, dance , play, pretty much many things one poster(bros) said above. That way, you enjoy more quality time and sex becomes a means of showing love not getting satisfaction. Go outdoors together. Hang out. Fresh air has a way of dealing with libido. So please.. Please don't do it with her again till you marry.
Thanks

jansie: if ur gf already has a child for u, then what's stopping u 4rm getting married instead of punishing urself like this

Climaths: Here is my story. I and my girlfriend, hv been through a lot. 2 cut long stroy short. She jst put 2 birth for me recently, and becus of dat pregnacy we went through alot. She even have 2 get 1 yr spill over in her sch. But i really want 2 make amends 2 my ways, i really wnt 2 stay out of sex wit her until we get married. Becus we both love God, bt it seems my love for God can't hold me back wen ever am wit my girl. D look as if am be posses by another force. I can't jst control my emotions any more. I prayed abt it. Done all d best i can. But wen ever she cums around i would lose control. She would even try 2 correct me bt most times i don't listen.. And my spiritual ambition is on d line here. Jst yesterday wen she came down i almost hv sex wit her. And that would hv resulted 2 another pregnancy because she jst put 2 birth abt 4 weeks nw. Am really confused wht do i do. I really don't wnt 2 continue like dis . I really need advise

Climaths: i don't hv a job yet. And other responsibility are there . For me 2 shoulder.

Climaths: This my very first relationship, and it hurt 2 knw dat am makin all the mistake and blunders, dat i did nt even believe in my life time, dat i would be dis bad

olumaxi: Mr op..probably u lov ur girl so much..probably she is d 1 dat disvirgined u OR probably u av bin warned not to fornicate.....wcheva way,alwaz try to use a condom..but concernin d later,guy,fornication hinders God's plan...my piece