Some past could be so dirty and irritating.
Is it really necessary to tell your fiance/fiancee about your dirty past?

Some would say "some things are better left unsaid" but if I intend making it a long term relationship, Then Yes, I deserve to know because they would always pop up in future.

David_Kissinger: Some would "some things are better left unsaid" but if I intend making it a long term relationship, Then Yes, I deserve to know because they would always pop up in future.

wht if u knw sayin it might cause break up?

If it'sapadt that might hunt and hurt both of you in future, then, by all means say it.

If she ever asks you, for any reason, DON'T LIE TO HER!


If dose 2 tins are nt der nd it's a really messed up but totally gone past, leave it where it is!

It is a must!. I don't want no past springin up to disturb me future. We must come clean and if she decieded to lie jst to protect smtin and I discover it in the future, #goodbye should b expected.

Tell her the ones she should know or you might find out that she'd prefer you never told her that.

passionate88: It is a must!. I don't want no past springin up to disturb me future. We must come clean and if she decieded to lie jst to protect smtin and I discover it in the future, #goodbye should b expected.

There are things that are better not said. I support you being entitled to hear the ones that might jeopardize the relationship in the future or rather at the moment.

I feel that all details gory or not should be told to one's partner. But what happens when all you have said is used against you later or one person who cannot come to terms with your past decides to walk away?

Let it all out, he who would stay would stay. He who wants to go should let the door hit him on his way out.

ojjp: wht if u knw sayin it might cause break up?

I still would, gone are those days when you work your a.ss off to get someone to stay with you. If she can't handle 'your past', Then fine! she's free to go.

That aside, someone above said something really thought-provoking, "what if the past is one that can be used against you?"

And that leads to my sincere take on this issue, I'm someone who would wanna know how bad you've been and hopefully forgive & forget it all, but unveiling mine? hmm! It's a "camel passing through a needle eye" situation. Yeah, you may think that's selfish. But Hey! After all said and done, who proves to be the understanding one? Me of course!

Not matter how bad ur past is, its only right you let your partner knw abt it.

Suffer with your guilt and take it to the
grave - alone...

Qhal: Not matter how bad ur past is, its only right you let your partner knw abt it.

wht if he/she neva asked abt it?

If it's necessay he knws then i will come clean but not everything must be known even if he ask.Some guys will ask you nicely then later use it against you,there are some things i wont even disclose at gun point.What you dont wont kill you.

ojjp: wht if he/she neva asked abt it?

That's a different issue