onyinye2:

I got to experience both cultures

Queenisha:

LOL
someone earlier said Nigerian men preferred to go home and marry.
Who wants a man with inferiority complex anyway?
Let them run to Njikoka and Akagbe and bring those "pure" wives.
what's my own

Queenisha:

LOL
someone earlier said Nigerian men preferred to go home and marry.
Who wants a man with inferiority complex anyway?
Let them run to Njikoka and Akagbe and bring those "pure" wives.
what's my own

onyinye2:

Yes my parents implemented Nigerian culture in your home, in our life, in our school work, everything. And i grew up in an area that was mostly nigerian people.

people jus say stuff without being perfectly sure n in da process, givin oda people a bad name. actually nigerian guys abroad jus use da girls, whether white, black or whatever 2 get what they want not realli because the want to b wid them or they love them so please there's absolutely nuin wrong wid girls abroad n moreova, errbdy gat diff. preferences n sum guys will prefer a girl straight from hme.

madamkoko:



What is this ooh? ABeg complete sentences jare, which one is this na?

cold:

Since my last post i'v bin thinkin and deeply too.Wldn't u guys agree with me that a naija babe bak home would endure more stress of marriage than a naija chick living abroad.Because it can't be rosy all the time.

rubi:

Thats very wonderful of them

cold:

Since my last post i'v bin thinkin and deeply too.Wldn't u guys agree with me that a naija babe bak home would endure more stress of marriage than a naija chick living abroad.Because it can't be rosy all the time.

Since my last post i'v bin thinkin and deeply too.Wldn't u guys agree with me that a naija babe bak home would endure more stress of marriage than a naija chick living abroad.Because it can't be rosy all the time.

HCH3COO:

most likely, yes.  

rubi:

It depends on up bringing

HCH3COO:

Why must it be inferiority complex?  What's wrong with having a preference ?

Oracle14:

Well thats exactly what the guys are cared of, definitely the western culture seems to over shadow the Nigerian culture: But you should also know most of the Nigerian girls over use their new found rights, the problem is evident in high divorce rates amongst Nigerian couples abroad.

HCH3COO:

upbringing is usually not in favor of the ones here.

onyinye2:

I didn't think so at the time. They were so strict and made us learn the Lord's Prayer in igbo and i was like "I can't wait to leave" but when i left all the things they taught me helped through alot.

Since my last post i'v bin thinkin and deeply too.Wldn't u guys agree with me that a naija babe bak home would endure more stress of marriage than a naija chick living abroad.Because it can't be rosy all the time.

madamkoko:

@ chi-baby meaning I don't comprehend what you have posted.


Unless its not that important.

madamkoko:

Thats not true, there are many, several, many OLDER NIGERIANS WHO GREW UP IN NIGERIA AND ARE DIVORCED, married, remarried, divorced, have cheated, and the list goes on,

_{I don't where many of you are getting all these assumptions from.}

People just need to understand the fact that Marriage is a choice and both partners have to work and put in equivalant time and effort to make things work.  Marriage is NOT a bed of roses, if u're in india, japan, Nigeria, America, understand this and you won't go into marriage dreaming of perfection. You will be prepared.

rubi:

I keeping saying this that whatever I am today my father contributed alot to it in all ramifications of life.

HCH3COO:

upbringing is usually not in favor of the ones here.

HCH3COO:

his argument is that it happens more in obodo oyibo.

Queenisha:

preference
is that what they now call it?
so the fact that a girl relocated from Nigeria to the west makes her non preferred?
Please tell me something else

Most of these men running home are underachievers.
They want a girl that'll see them as the "rescuer "
I live here you know
I've seen these men.

A girl with her own home,car and means may not be particularly thrilled by a suitor that drives cabs
But a girl in Nigeria would see him as a dream come true
He'll tell her he's self employed.
I've seen things ma dear
but whatever you "prefer"

so you agree with me that it's a question of compatibility.  if a man's preference is to marry from home because he feels more comfortable with that, why should you think he's intimidated?  What's wrong with playing ti safe?

onyinye2:

So are you saying that me being brought up in ilu oyinbo, that i would run for divorce as soon as things are not peachy??

madamkoko:

Yes, its a question of choosing to be compatible with someone. Yes, I agree with you.


BUT i think its intimidation, when it becomes a conscious decision when one purposefully opts not to date someone abroad just because they're abroad (at least try them out. give them a chance.) don't assume they're any less Nigerian,  ,  there's no difference in a WELL MANNERED, EDUCATed Niger babe abroad and a well mannered education babe in Niger.  no difference. same lessons. same manners.

HCH3COO:

Not as soon as things are not peachy, but you're are more likely to - yes.  Those are some of the things I have observed.  I wish they publish reports on these things so I can back up my observations.

rubi:

Upbringing is like a seed planted in ones life which will not germinate that time but in the long run the effect of it will definitely manifest