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Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 10:50am On Dec 21, 2013 |
Is there no law against polygamy in the western world again? Abeg, una shld explain to bush gal lyk me oo Anyways, i don spread mat for here! |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 12:51pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
alutacontinua: Is there no law against polygamy in the western world again?they did court marriage in nigeria so if he does trad with another woman its not against the law. |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by solomon111(m): 12:52pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Chai,Naija men. We no dey try at all. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by baralatie(m): 1:36pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
baralatie: .1st relax and consider ur health. |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by baralatie(m): 1:42pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Confront him head on! If he says he wants to leave because he tels u ar disturbing him.confront him again! |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 1:49pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
This is pathetic. solomon111: Chai,Naija men. Abi? What's wrong with just leave jejely after obtaining the green card? Why must he suck her dry on top? That's a plain scam. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by gabbytabby: 2:41pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Unfortunately, you become what you allow. A man on the phone outside in the car for hours talking to another woman and doing all the rubbish you say he gets up to. You really needed to take a stand and let him know that you find that the height of disrespect otherwise he thinks you are deperate and will allow anything. He will trample on you if he thinks he can get away with it. Not every disagreement has to end with a fight, the silent treatment works so much better if a man cares a hoot about you. Such marriages tend not to end well and if there is still anything you can do about that then thinK seriously about it. He is bringing his owerri sister to come and help you with your boy while you work. Hmmm hmmm hmmm hmmm. Why dont you work part-time and spend some of the free time taking care of your family and your home affairs. You would just have to wait and see as there really is not much you can do about the current marriage to another woman situation unless you know one way or the other. Instead of playing childish games why dont you tell him what you have heard and hear what he has to say about it. Its better to be silly than kill yourself with worry. Not saying that he will tell you the truth but it helps you to know what kind of human being he is if you find out something to the contrary later on. Men have become so desperate that some show no mercy using a woman to achieve and I keep telling ladies when you get married let your man be the man of the house. Put a lot of your energy into supporting him to become the provider if need be. You are indeed the helper and when you take his role ..... Only if you have done all you can and you see that he is a user and a lazy man should you take your future in your hands. I wish you luck. |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by thorpido(m): 3:03pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Hmmmmm.Like others have said u need to confront him and really get to know what's going on and your position in all this. You will need to make a decision to have a better marriage than you have or you move on with your life. Quite a no of Naija men abroad seem to be doing this but I wonder how you guys can have peace in your heart! |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 3:20pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
wifee: First of all, please don't call me mad. I am not the jealous type at all. Your husband is cheating,no doubt your evidence to the second wife story is shaky I think the cheating should concern you more than the second wife but the other woman being called wife is what seems to bother you more,I wonder why It's not as if there is a difference in the name he chooses to call his lovers Thirdly and most importantly,why are you wrapped up in this man like he were your life I don't get that You are almost going crazy at the thought of losing this man Why do you give a mere mortal,a man that much power over you? Please get over it fast If this man decides to dump you out rightly,will you jump off a cliff? If you are unemployed,please go get a job or volunteer at homeless shelters and get a hobby,join a health club It seems to be that you have too much time on your hands This is an obsession,let me be blunt with you You are obsessed with this man and your wifely status He doesn't care that much about you Don't feed his ego by this sick obsession It is unhealthy for you You are already rambling in your posts so obviously this man is driving you crazy Go over your posts again slowly Second wife or not,this relationship is not healthy for you Period! You said don't call you mad but it is obvious you are beginning to lose it 6 Likes |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Ibime(m): 3:33pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
He's already cheating on you and it's a new wife you are worried about? You've let him cross the line a long time ago. It's time to move on with your life. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 3:35pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
wifee: Id love to cook for my husband but he is being so complicated anytime I cooked for him and didnt even taste it..For example I prepared MMoimoiwhich took me very long and he didnt try it... You cooked moi moi and he didn't try it then stop cooking moi moi for pete's sake He doesn't appreciate it Why do you want a strong hand on anybody? You don't need a strong hand on something that is yours Stop being desperate The man is not yours You are afraid of the man dying So freaking what if he dies,will he be the first to die He is sleeping around and you are the one afraid of him dying Nne you are putting too much power in the hands of this man Your words are making me angry 1 Like |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 3:39pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
wifee: Had an idea..Will tell my husband I had a nightmare of him marrying another woman..the father of the woman demanded a lot as dowry..Then Ill tell him that I left him.Later on he called me to tell me his wife was treating him bad and he wanted to come back. Some days later I heard something bad happened to him... This woman has certainly gone bananas You are now wayyyy out there Insanity is knocking on your doors Please how old are you I can't believe an adult with a baby to care for is writing this You now want to resort to lies and fabrications and scare tactics All that to keep the type of low life scum bag you described Unbelievable! I am Igbo We don't eat toads Igbos have a proverb that if one must eat a toad ,Let him find and eat a very juicy one so that if he is called a toad eater,he can boast of how juicy it was and answer confidently. Not only are you eating a toad but You are eating a very anemic toad,a toad with kwashiorkor " Nuff said 6 Likes |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by ibis: 3:42pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Dear Wifee i think i understand what you are going through and why you have fear are confused and desperate. can you google narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic abuse? when you do read about it. you can also google traits of a malignant narcissist. read up and see if this describes your husband and all you have been going through. if it does lets talk. been there. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by mickyarams: 3:43pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
There is a saying in Europe, "Never trust a Nigerian". I am a Nigerian myself and unfortunately that's the sad truth. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 3:48pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
mickyarams: There is a saying in Europe, "Never trust a Nigerian". I am a Nigerian myself and unfortunately that's the sad truth. And you buy into the nonsense They also called you a monkey and you answer What has she described here that non Nigerians don't do Arnold schwatzennegar fathered a child with a mistress that lived as a domestic staff under his roof,the woman and kid vacationed with his family and nobody including his wife had a clue about this for over a decade That is just one popular example This is not about Nigerians It is about a stupid and useless husband and a woman who is losing her mind over a scum 7 Likes |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Celepope: 3:48pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
This my igbo brothers dey really spoil show for person.That's how my wife a Jamaican confronted me last week asking me if that's how all igbo men behave?That they always want to marry someone from the village irrespective of them having a wife abroad.This woman put one kind yeye fear for my mind.She threatened dealing with me if I try such.I simply asked her who told her those crap?she said her colleague at work had same experience from an igbo guy who dumped her after investing her love and money on him.She also told her a lot of stories involving igbo guys in the US who are fund of doing this to their foreign wife.I simply told her every man is different and as for her treat she should save it for herself cause if I want to leave her there is nothing she can do.cause I never signed a contract somewhere about that.This is someone we dated for a year and married now for 6 months. |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by nanidee(f): 3:52pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Baby mama, you have said it all! Indeed, from the OP's write-up, it seems to me like she is underage . That has to be the only logical explanation for all this rambling. Need I say more? |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 3:55pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Baby mama:_ One Internet for you, ma'am. 1 Like |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by CriminalIbos: 3:56pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
picture of ur husband nd you or he didn't happen 1 Like |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by teemy(m): 3:57pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
@deception, forget it as it might even backfire should he call your bluff. @friends, there should be at least one that is morally right that can talk to him and change his mind if fears are true. @yourself, pray and never allow evil seeds to grow |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by pinkshell(f): 3:57pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Cele-pope: Hehehhe! I like ur wife. She dey do u strong tin. It takes a strong woman to marry a nigerian. I wished d OP was a tougher wife, or beta still had nigerian women as frnds. U men, are really driving women crazy ooo, look at at gov Chime turned his wife in2. #SMH 1 Like |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 3:58pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Is this OP for real? May amu onye ojii not make you kill yourself. Your man is Inlove with someone else, so no amount of death by you will change things. What am I doing here sef? |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 4:00pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
jennykadry: Is this OP for real? May amu onye ojii not make you kill yourself I am wondering if it is the size of his blokoss that is keeping her There is a bigger man out there in case she doesn't know Statistics says Congolese men are bigger than Nigerians and those their makosa hips na helele Make She try go central Africa if amu is the issue See as woman wan comot cloth enter market because of amu |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Boss13: 4:01pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
First and foremost, I don't believe your story. Secondly, if your story is true, please note that 90% of forumites here are unmarried and still in their teens. So be wary of the advice you get from here in order not to spoil your marriage. |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 4:01pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
wifee: Had an idea..Will tell my husband I had a nightmare of him marrying another woman..the father of the woman demanded a lot as dowry..Then Ill tell him that I left him.Later on he called me to tell me his wife was treating him bad and he wanted to come back. Some days later I heard something bad happened to him... Naaa that won't work....a typical Igbo man fall for that lie? You must think you are intelligent right now. My advise is secure your future financially because that man will leave you. You married someone else's man. He ain't yours darling, he was never yours |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by teemy(m): 4:02pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
being in love is really cool but being a slave to what you should be enjoying is totally uncool. try leaving the over dependence and be more mature with taking care of yourself, men like independent women and at the end he will be the one chasing you |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 4:03pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
jennykadry: My father will say "A na acho ihe na aka Onye n'acho ihe" Hahahaha Imagine Trying to use Okoro sense on an Okoro? |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 4:04pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Baby mama: Honestly it's amu that is the issue and I am serious here. I have gone through her posts and I don't know if its just me that have noticed that THIS WOMAN IS NOT INLOVE WITH THIS MAN...she is attracted to him, call it lust or infatuation but she is not Inlove with him |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by PrettySpicey(f): 4:05pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
The crazy thing here is that you suspected he was being unfaithful and you ignored it. Matter of fact you don't mind if he is unfaithful, so long as he doesn't take a second wife, right? Dear wifee, therein lies your problem. Do stop whimpering and whining and have some backbone. I don't get how women 'look the other way' with their husband playing hooky with outside chicks. You may love that man, but you should love your son more and yourself too. Face this. Speak up and Get him to tell you what the heck is going on! |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 4:06pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
Baby mama:I have to prepare for lies(shoes related) weeks before even then he won't believe me and I am a typical Umuahia babe. An Igbo man fall that cheap lie? I will chop one of my legs off |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 4:07pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
PrettySpicey: The crazy thing here is that you suspected he was being unfaithful and you ignored it. Matter of fact you don't mind if he is unfaithful, so long as he doesn't take a second wife, right? You believe there will be any truth coming from his mouth? That is a waste of time She has all the evidence she needs |
Re: Help! Is My Husband Marrying A Second Wife? by Nobody: 4:09pm On Dec 21, 2013 |
This man had his papers before he married her so no one will call him a residence permit digger |
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