flying dutchman: Please Op get in touch with me ASAP!!! I feel you. I have made an extensive research on the ISSUE. My information is free and should be spread around for everyone to see. There are three main methods of not having an SS child- (1) \when you are pregnant, there is a thing as PRENATAL GENOTYPE TEST-- It enables you to determine the genotype of the child you're carrying. ALTHOUGH, I DON'T SUBSCRIBE TO ABORTING IT, but its an option.

Of course you don't subscribe to aborting it, but really what are other options are left for the couple if not either aborting the foetus or having a SS?
Oga some of has actually done our research also. If Prenatal Genotype Testing was the escape route, will we all be here asking the Op not to go ahead with 'happiness'?

flying dutchman:
(2) PGD -- IT INVOLVES USING USING YOUR HUSBAND'S SPERM CELLS AND YOUR EGGS TO FORM A SERIES OF EMBRYO, AND THE ONE WITH THE BEST PROGNOSIS IS IMPLANTED INTO YOU. IT WOULD ALSO NEED YOU TO RECEIVE AN INJECTION WHICH WOULD MAKE YOU PRODUCE SEVERAL EGGS AT ONCE. I HAVE THE CONTACT OF SOME SPECIALISTS AT BOTH GREECE AND INDIA. ABEG, ABEG, ABEG, ON MY HONOUR, I'LL GIVE HEM TO YOU IF YOU DESIRE, BUT NOT ON THIS THREAD, SO IT IS NOT ABUSED- U KNOW HOW WE ARE AT TIMES.

Again, you fail to mention that this method is not 100% accurate. Also I noticed that you didn't bother the cost implication of going to INDIA or GREECE anytime the couples have a need to have a baby.
Or, you think that if this method were the best AS/AS intending couples will be frowned upon by many including some churches?
NB
You never stated the third method.

IVF/PGD Cost a fortune :Aprox $7000 / procedure.

Now playing 'Money money money - ABBA'

^^ Ever heard the saying: Prevention is better than cure?

Why spend money seeking the cure to an ailment when you can prevent it from happening in the first place?

@dutchman!
Imagine the op has money like dangote.do u tink it is enouf to buy him sleep if the child has to battle for life wen 'crises' start.
Anytim u see a grown person above 30yrs.wen they tel u dat u cannot understand what their eye saw.just take it like that.
Beta safe than sorry!

flying dutchman:
look, we are here to help. If you're going to shoot down every idea, then u don't have the OP's interest at heart. DO YOU HAVE A BETTER IDEA? If they can afford $7,000 why not go for it. ALL U PEOPLE HAVE BEEN OFFERING IS ADVICE OF BREAKING UP. THEY HAVE A RIGHT TO STICK TOGETHER. ITS THERE LIFE.

Abali1:
I never wanted to reply untill I read this. In another thread, someone is already accusing those of us are against AS/AS marital union of playing God. (Well, Only God knows my heart).
@OP
You have 25% chance of having SS child for every pregnancy.
Goodluck Ma.

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Abali1:
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Some people say that we are challenging God. I think its high time people educate themselves either by learning from others experiences or they are allowed to experience it themselves.

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NB
The above was my first and second posts on this thread. Like the second post stated "I think and believe its high time some people educate themselves from either learning from others or allowed to have the experience themselves".
Talk is cheap. Op, you now have enough view points to make a decision. Do what you think best. But, you are solely responsible for any action you take.

If the OP have the means of doing the procedure, by all means, allow them to. Its their money, not yours. How many of you have been in that situation before I have and I am. Well, there you go! I had that experience. I hadly pursue issues. two lovely boys, both AA. I wonder you people are so bent on breaking up their relationship. HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE DONE A PGD MY WIFE AND I HAVE. THERE IS A VIABLE SOLUTION AND YOU PEOPLE ARE STILL PRETENDING THAT IT DOESN'T EXIST HABA!

flying dutchman: If the OP have the means of doing the procedure, by all means, allow them to. Its their money, not yours. How many of you have been in that situation before I have and I am. Well, there you go! I had that experience. I hadly pursue issues. two lovely boys, both AA. I wonder you people are so bent on breaking up their relationship. HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE DONE A PGD MY WIFE AND I HAVE. THERE IS A VIABLE SOLUTION AND YOU PEOPLE ARE STILL PRETENDING THAT IT DOESN'T EXIST HABA!

No need generalising Sir because some people have posted the possibility of other options. Go through the thread if you can spare some time.

One more thing, I've observed some AS couples make less SS offspring than others. I see a research topic here

Abali is right.
TALK IS CHEAP!

@OP,i have seen pastors and their wives weep,i have seen wives cursed their husbands when the stress of caring for SS kids became unbearable. Love can take you to the alter and get you that golden or diamond ring but is not enough to sustain you thru when the trial comes.

The National Sickle cell centre in Lagos runs a test on foetus and it's above 200k to determine the genotype of the child invitro. Also,Nigerian teaching hospitals are now doing bone marrow transplants which cost like #5million in University of Benin Teaching Hospital.

You really need to weigh your options from having to cough out 200k while you're pregnant just to determine the genotype with the associated pain of needle insertion into your opening to having to part with #5million in the name of bone marrow transplant which may fail.

If you can endure the pain and do the "needful" and you think your love for both can see you thru despite having to cough out a fortune-(maybe/maybe not) then go ahead and walk with him to the alter but if not; please use Usian Bolt style. But i must warn you not to be blinded by love and hide under religion and bring avoidable suffering to your unborn children.
My two cent.

Do not be decieved by the formula's or ratio or probability of 1 in 4 would be SS or other stuff. Someone I know has 4 I repeat FOUR 4 SS children. Now the husband has left her and remarried. The ball is in your court you would be the one to suffer the consequences if you have a child who is SS or children sef having 1 SS child is not fun at all and if you are lucky you dont have any SS child you would be the one to enjoy your home so make your decision on your own.

Kindly follow back rubyrose

Follow back to where ?

As in follow back on nairaland

Rubyrose: Follow back to where ?

just curious
how did it go with yu guys did yu brave it out?

Rubyrose:
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Rubyrose, longest time how r u doing?

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I'm doing great dearie. How about you?

Rubyrose:


I'm doing great dearie. How about you?

I'm fine, thanks

I love happy endings @OP.

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