Efemena_xy:

No?

And what do you think was driving force that promoted this statement of his?



You think a man who "trusts" his wife will utter such a statement??

chiebube: ...This phone issue isn't the genesis of your distrust in your wife. Its as a result of the seeds you had sown in your earlier posts...U better show your wife all these posts so she can lock you out of the house

1. You saw this girl in your neighbourhood and you toasted her on dec 19.

U are a married man. And u have the guts to post here that ur wife is locking her phone. Pls forumites check this link
www.nairaland.com/1561104/what-wit

2. Will you deny you have never beat your wife before? Forumites pls go thru this link meticulously.
www.nairaland.com/1563730/she-love-me-again

Man grow up. Half truth isn't acceptable; Are u sure you are living up to your responsibilities? I rest my case for now. By the way, I don't know you from Adam.

Wives absorb a lot of stress and become rebellious when things get unbearable ...

yellowpawpaw: Most times posters come out with half stories.
When d heat is on, they will start opening up.
Why didn't u include this latest part in ur previous post when its d core problem?

It seems u guys have issues.

chiebube: @ Efemena.

^^^^^****Pls go through my earlier post***

onegig:

There is a difference between "suspicion" and "accused" . The confirmation of the first validates the second.

Yes, trust is earned and it is evaluated daily based on the actions of an individual.

He trusts her but she is giving him reasons not to again. He is human and wants to validate and affirm that trust once more by asking her to clear the air on things.

What do you want him to do?

Close his eyes and pretend he trusts her even when he sees a differing action?

I do not support him nosing around her private mails but now he has stumbled on one he feels he is suspicious. Who do you think needs to reaffirm the trust?


Whose phone is bringing up trust issues?

I guess if it were the other way round you would have advised the lady to confront her husband about such suspicious mails.

Efemena_xy:

OMG!!

A wife beater and a player??

Breeze don blow, fowl yansh don expose!

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Chillis: OP, divorce her. How dares she lock her phone
Or give her a lighter punishment, seize her phone. Period.

Efemena_xy:

Chillipepper, you don change username already? Na wa o!

So Oga is really on your case ba? You nor fit wait until the new year as promised

Abi dem ban you sef?

longthinx: wives are not expected to be too secretive abt phone

yellowpawpaw: Onegig, let's forget d gender for now.

Let me tell u a little thing I learnt from nl.

The first posts r always as it is.
Now look at d @op's initial posts.
I don't hv to c chebube posts to know he rnt telling d truth hence my posts.

What he did was simply shifting blame and going on defence.
Those first posts, didn't generate the kind of heat he wanted, he now posted something about sms to diff men so as to shift the blame entirely from him.

Aside chiebube's revealations, I was gearing up to ask him some questions about snooping around d wifey's phone if he doesn't hv skeleton in his cupboard.
My pple said that a knife cutter no dey allow knife pass his back.

onegig:

Am not a gender person i was just suprised the way everybody were jumping to attack him without first asking him questions like why does she act that way.

Am for solving issues not laying blames and pointing fingers as to who did right or wrong.

Anyways, i believe he should sit her down and talk to her about his misgivings.

Efemena_xy:

Now, how about those art classes of yours? Care to
convert an artistically-dead-novice into an
er...Renaissance/Rembrandt/Da Vinci expert?

Efemena_xy: ^^ I did o!

Your names are so similar!

Onegi is the artist.

Baby mama:



Are you serious?
Your greatest marital conflicts are over a freaking phone
Eziokwu

Why are you trying to start something where there is nothing
Most kids play with mom's phone not dad's so it is normal for a woman to put a lock to keep children from it
She gave you that explanation and in your mind that couldn't be true
Why are you acting so insecure?
Are you threatened that she may find someone better than you
Please grow up jor
What's next?
Start following and trailing her to know where she's going to
Or calculating the mileage on the car after she returns from the market to make sure she went where she told you
Inspect and Sniff her underwear when she comes home?
You will soon stroke out from bothering yourself over non issues
Nonsense

lynpetra: Oh pluuuuseeeeeeee.She should give her husband d password if its one of the bones of contention here.Haba!If the husband isn't secure,why not give him d damn password if she has got nothing to hide?Abeg if we see true make we talk.It's not right!If he want access to her phone den make it available,period!!
Na him go still tire.

yellowpawpaw: @onegig,

He would hv generated a better answer had he told the truth as it is and ask for help. Believe u me, I will contribute my two cent, so will others.

Like Efe said, most folks always come with half truth. Either u go psycho on d person so d truth will come out or u look beyond d writeup and do d digging urself.
It works like magic here.

My guy don run.
I don't even hv an advice for him cos he is yet to say d truth considering his previous threads.
Guy, do u still beat wife and cheat on her?
Anyway, d answer is up there.
Just asking for asking sake.

Efemena_xy:

You doubt my logic, yet you concede that trust is a vital ingredient in a marriage? Aren't you contradicting yourself here?

A partner / spouse who wants to play the fiddle will do so, irrespective of whether you check their phone or not, or monitor their activities. They'll simply get smarter at covering their tracks.

dBard:



Trust is vital. .yes , but trust is built.
There is no partner that doesnt have insecurities..y den do women always need reaffirmation of their husbands luv. He said it once, int it a sign of lack of trust wanting continual reaffirmation?
Give..him d password..if he abuses d prividledge,@least she gets d moral high ground.

My take tho

Efemena_xy:

Kindly explain to me how him beating and cheating on his wife will make her trust him?

Efemena_xy:

You doubt my logic, yet you concede that trust is a vital ingredient in a marriage? Aren't you contradicting yourself here?
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