pickabeau1:


Good day ma'am
We like to have the ladies post but the posts must be something we can relate to
Lol



Post something we can relate to

5minsmadness:


Good evening.
Interesting response.
@bolded pls I would really like to know how you got to this point. How do you generate inner happiness/satisfaction or whatever regardless of being surrouded by unappreciativeness and hostility?

@red bolded what about an abusive spouse? How does the victim cope when every day the spouse is out to make the other's life miserable?

I'm seeing Buddhism and suddenly an alarm goes off in my head.
I know you said your philosophy doesnt have a name but i dont know why i find it hard to beleive. What are you selling ma'm?

pickabeau1:
Please can you leave all this philosophy girlie stuff from here

This is the boys room

Mindfulness:


I got myself a new pair of shoes today, better?
Men are wonderful creatures. Best?

pickabeau1:


Good to know y you are happy with your new shoes but we can't help you here on that

Men?

I feel its women who are wonderful....muses over the centuries, cause of countless conflicts over the eons.

Why do u think men are reason to wonder about

pickabeau1:


Good to know y you are happy with your new shoes but we can't help you here on that

Men?

I feel its women who are wonderful....muses over the centuries, cause of countless conflicts over the eons.

Why do u think men are reason to wonder about

Mindfulness:
What drinks are available at a boys night out?

I am not very picky but I am quite thirsty because I have been talking a lot.

bellong:


Sapele water and burukutu

Mindfulness:


They are rather full of wonders and occasionally a reason to wonder, which is what makes relationships exciting.

It was a compliment, BTW. I could have also said great creatures.

pickabeau1:


Hmmm.....makes sense

Let me ask a q


Can gender be changed or its immutable

Mindfulness:


Good you didn't offer anything non-alcoholic. I am very funny when tipsy. Give me the burukutu.

Mindfulness:
I ask a lot of questions to acquire a deeper and profound understanding. I was very neutral on one of the threads, which I think you are referring to here, until I was confronted with a huge amount of bias, which I felt needed some balance. Whatever the result of all it was, I had a lot of fun and I learned many things.

Mindfulness:
That's the problem and that's the reason why so many discussions end in insults or long-lasting hostility. People defend their positions like they know it all and like they are in possession of an objective truth.

Mindfulness:
It would be more fun and more fruitful if we were able to accept the fact that our opinions are just opinions, which are often based on our very subjective experience and perception.

Mindfulness:
We should also remember that we are evolving beings, who continuously learn and therefore should feel free and be open-minded enough to change our views. I don't think anyone here has the same views at the age of 25 or 30 that he or she had when they were 14.

Mindfulness:
This is why I love children and teenagers so much. They are so much more open-minded. They don't have extremely rigid opinions but their brains are also much more plastic - which is why it is easier for them to acquire new knowledge and therefore to change their perspective.

Mindfulness:
Everyone has the right to pursue happiness. The rest of the statement is taken out of context and I wouldn't subscribe to it unconditionally.

Mindfulness:
Nobody is responsible for someone else's happiness.

Mindfulness:
I can judge behavior but I don't want to judge or condemn a human being.

Mindfulness:
Emotionally healthy people surround themselves with people and things that are good for them. I don't want to tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do

Mindfulness:
but it is possible to be happy regardless of conditions and circumstances. It has been a very liberating lesson for me to understand that I do not need anyone to feel good

Mindfulness:
and that my spouse's presence or absence is not necessary for me to feel great. From this place, I can love my spouse unconditionally even when the person leaves and I am so full of happiness and joy that my spouse loves to be around me. I do not place on anyone the responsibility and burden of me feeling good and satisfied. Whatever you do for me, you do it freely and if you can't do it from a place of joy, you don't have to do it at all. I, for my part, have a lot of love to share.

Mindfulness:
My ideology is that it is good to be selfish and that by being selfish I have a lot to offer. My theology is that we are all Gods / Goddesses.

Mindfulness:
It is my pleasure to share it with you as long as we can remain friendly and respectful. MizMyColi, just like I, discovered a great spiritual teacher along the beautiful journey called life and this is what we have in common. However, my beautiful, spiritual journey didn't begin and end with this teacher and I have taken the whole thing a step further meanwhile.

Mindfulness:
I feel honored.

Mindfulness:
It doesn't have a name. It is a spiritual journey but my personal one and not bound to any particular school of thought, philosophy or ideology. I am notorious for cherry-picking. I am in love with Buddhism as a life style and I embrace many of the Christian core values, as I understand and interpret them, but I am neither a Buddhist nor a Christian. I am a divine and eternal being and I believe that everyone else is, too. Even those who irritate me at times.

MizMyColi:

If you would, I'd prefer I answer questions directed at me.

Thanks and Good Evening From Nigeria, TV01.

MizMyColi:
@RoyalRoy
That was unfair

Mindfulness:


Well, some people have changed it so it can be changed. It is quite expensive though, isn't it? I don't know much about it because I don't care.

RoyalRoy:



I don't think so madam. There is a certain rule against that you know!

TV01:

No problem Miz, it may be better 1 on 1. Greetings from the "just turned really cold" UK.
TV

Aha
I thought as much @UK.

I'd do anything to have a feel of that "really cold" on my skin.


I'm game when you're game @1 on 1.


Good Morning.

TV01:

I can understand learning about specific situations, issues or topics, but where there is a moral call to be made, does your belief provide a ready made answer?A directive say or perhaps a template?

Are you saying there is no, or no such thing as objective truth? I believe truth is eternal and unchanging.

To some degree perhaps - but some things are fixed. Some objective and undeniable. Truth cannot be based purely on experience and perception. Even if we as humans grow, if our understanding develops, that does not mean that objective truth evolves with us.

True, but this speaks nothing to the nature of the divine, objective truth or morals. May I ask, do you have children of your own?

And where is this right derived from? On what principle is it based? You've said it's not unconditional, where does it start and end?

Is this also conditional?
In as much as I am not expressly responsible for my wife' happiness, I owe her a duty of care, not least because of the vows I took, the commitment we made, how much we have both invested into the relationship and our shared responsibilities including our lovely children.

I discharge my duty and obligations as best I can and don't prioritise her happiness per se, but if I fail in my responsibilities, she has every right to be unhappy.

If I were to abandon our home and kids for a younger, fresher, sexier version - and there is always one - just because it would make me "happy/happier", have I done no wrong, am I within my rights to pursue happiness? does she not have the right to feel aggrieved?

Is she supposed to remain happy with the burden I've left her with, the loss our children will suffer, or else be considered "emotionally unhealthy"?

I agree with this, judgement is not ultimately with me, but I know who it is with. And I don't believe un-repented wrong-doing or behaviour will go unpunished. I can't gloss this over with "go and heal". It's "repent of your ways" or "go and sin no more".

How does one heal of bad behaviour or a wicked character? Are human being intrinsically good,or capable of self-healing?

So why judge behaviour then?

And how do you reach out charitably to those in need, hurting or fallen, if you are only concerned with surrounding yourself with the good,and for your own sake?

Ok, as a Christian, I have joy and hope whatever, but how I feel - good or bad - counts for very little.

In all then, why do you need a spouse if you feel great regardless?

Why take marital vows and commit if they can depart - with your blessings - if they no longer feel it?

What are your honest views on the traditional concept of marriage?

This would be a good place to revisit what you define as love - not self-love though, that's already quite cler

More on this teacher andtheir teachings please - even if only briefly

You should - but the expectation is high.

I can't speak for Buddhism,but if you value Christianity as you personally interpret it, its not Christianity in any real sense.

Thanks for your responses so far. Nothing surprising or to change my opinion thus far, but at least I have not left that opinion unquestioned.


TV

futurewise11:

MizMyColi:


Aha
I thought as much @UK.

I'd do anything to have a feel of that "really cold" on my skin.


I'm game when you're game @1 on 1.


Good Morning.

Fkforyou:


You are a Fool for bringing that nonsense over here.....Stick around this thread if you want to learn alot otherwise carry your baggage and leave....mtschwww.