BoboYekini :
[b]Brings me to the next question... Can you fight? I mean really fight and knock someone tha fùck out. [/b]How many of us can really fight and put the fear of God in that assailant? This is a necessary skill brothers

Mutaino7:
i dey fear to even quote you sef... you fit audition to be jet li disciple in his next film cos as u dey endure beating so u go fit take harsh training..

Mutaino7:
i dey fear to even quote you sef... you fit audition to be jet li disciple in his next film cos as u dey endure beating so u go fit take harsh training..

bellong:



It was at Amuto nursery and primary school in the Island, very close to KWAM1's house when he was still singing Talazo fuji. This boy had a brawl with me and I was in nursery two, he was in 1, the stuff ended physical and blood started gushing from his eyes.

All the teachers took turn to beat me silly that day and was the last day I attended the school.



While trying to dodge him from exchanging fists, he landed a one shot punch on my left eye.
I was fortunate not to go partially blind but I treated it for two weeks. Mycolleagues didn't understand why I couldn't fight back.

Wisdom in struggle is better than strength.

Kimoni:


Hahahaha

Mutaino7:
Like how they softened Adultery to Extra-marital affair OR fornication to Pre-marital sex... just to softened the accusing feeling when you pronounce it..

pickabeau1:


lol.. u guys are conspiracists

How does this soften up people

They mean the same thing

ApexTitan:


Watch the video (granted, its a parody) I posted earlier and get a glimpse of how warped things can get.

Mutaino7:
Like how they softened Adultery to Extra-marital affair OR fornication to Pre-marital sex... just to softened the accusing feeling when you pronounce it..

crackhaus:
Mindfulness, you didn't answer a particular question from 5mins...or maybe you did and I missed it trying really hard and fast to skim through the course work you and TV have been sharing.

Either way, here it is:
What are you selling?

Mindfulness:


Nothing.

TV01:

Please explain this divine core further, and perhaps the notion of well-being. Perhaps there is more than I am hearing, or I may be hearing it incorrectly?

Truth not based on feelings or individuals desire for their perceptions to constitute truth.

Who can fully know God or grasp Him in His totality. We can but employ words, which are themselves limited by our finiteness. But some things make sense, like love, justice, etc.

Probably a whole list; I would imagine faithfulness - especially in relation to vows is a good one.

Feelings? And a desire to feel, and a desire to feel good about oneself, and this desire being satisfied, is evidence of, orthe actual connection to the divine? Help me here please?

You appear to place the desire above the commitment? The desire may change or wane, should the commitment change because of that?

It comes first and foremost from a place of commitment, I get joy from keeping the commitment and seeing the outworking.

Stressing the joy is fine - and I certainly convey that - it is not based primarily on the joy or feelings, and they also redound as a result.

- Even in nature, danger is instilled first. Knowing what to avoid, is the first step to knowing what you should be looking for
- If you avoid the undesirable you have all to play for in seeking the desirable.
- If you jam the undesirable, you may seriously hinder your chances of ever finder the desirable
- Even if you do, there may be pain that will linger for generations
- You assume I'm done on that? - I typically say make yourself worthy", or "find a worthy spouse". I realise some may need greater depth.
- And in a sense, they are flip sides of the same coin.

First sentence kinda right, second totally wrong, I don't necessarily stick to it because I "get joy", in fact, more because I give joy. And it is a sacrifice of sorts, I have less resources to myself, but I consider that a worthy sacrifice - and I still enjoy it tremendously. I don't have to put myself first to be well, healthy or joyful.

Feelings don't come because they help? Does grieving help?

You are reaching. All women are a burden and extremely annoying. it why they were put on earth . But whatever scenario you paint, and however I feel, it does not void the commitment I freely entered into.

As above

I don't share that notion either. Neither the one where you seem to be implying claims "makes mistakes". One attribute of the divine is perfection.

1. As a father I know that human beings are not intrinsically good, that if left devoid of boundaries, they will incline to things that are not good.

2. You didn't answer my question about your being a mother - what basis do you have for your claim?

3. Learning and even developing does not necessarily change character - people do wrong despite knowing it's wrong, and what they ought to have done - and typically they do wrong based on "feelings".

For self-actualisation? And how do we know what "we were meant to achieve?

At least share how you get the feeling in the first place, instead of simply predicating everything on it.

Maybe you need to define "feel good" to boot?

What a spouse brings is something that you cannot find alone or within yourself.

And I repeat, if good, is good, is good, with or without a spouse, why would you need or desire one?

I see this as totally odd. Marriage is by definition, if people can make marriage what they want, then it becomes meaningless. If you can call any pet a dog, then the word dog loses all content. People can have any kind of relationship they want (with caveats), but that does not make that relationship a marriage.

Although the way the world is going with it's feelings based legislation and it's "legalise it because it makes me feel good" narrative, I guess your thoughts may hold more sway in society than mine in this respect.

Lifelong monogamous union of a male and female

My own is conditional - good grades in school and 1st team premier league player by 18 or else

Vaguely familiar - I look him up.


Clear this space of scammers and reveall all those who present themselves and their lives falsely

Many variants does not mean there is no true one.

If indeed you could, you haven't with this effort. Thanks for your time.


TV

crackhaus:

Nah, people just don't suddenly find meditation and the zen-espoused lifestyle practised by adherents of Buddhism so fascinating.

Really, what happened?

Mindfulness:


Something really good.

No. When you feel connected to God, you feel great. There is no better feeling.

crackhaus:

Okay. Address this though,

Thought you weren't a Christian.

And you're a mother?
Was that the reason for the break?

Mindfulness:


I don't feel like telling you my life story.

Who said I was?

crackhaus:

No, that would be a bore.


I assumed only Christians and Muslims believe in God, didn't know Buddhists do too...


Hmmm, becoming a mother must have been it then.

Mindfulness:


I am not a Buddhist. Anyway. Have a nice evening. I am out.

Mindfulness:
No. When you feel connected to God, you feel great. There is no better feeling.

TV01:


Hi Mindfulness,

My initial request was for you to answer some questions. That would be in order to grasp a better understanding of your beliefs and how you came about, live and /apply them.

I am yet to gain the sense of a coherent belief system. You’ve retreated to that place of asking instead of answering, using unexplained jargon, being otherwise cryptic or non-specific, and also rather defensive. Any slight probing and you seem anxious, the most innocuous questions seem to cause discomfort.

You are happy to reference my family, and even declare the basis of my desire, my motivations, contrary to what I myself claim, yet an innocent question and you wobble?

You have a footprint here. Issues you’ve waded in on, calls you’ve made, as well as what we know of you. If you are confident and secure in your beliefs why do you get so jittery? Simply outline them.

At best, you’ve presented something based and motivated totally on “feelings”? And contrary to your beatific posturing, you’ve been weirdly judgemental. Sounds like a therapeutic style spirituality that appeals to the emotional, weak and self-serving. Feelings gba ni!

I also looked up Eckhart Tolle, needless to say, nothing new there, so in a sense, no surprise. Enough said.

So once again, a pointed “thank you for your time”.


TV

crackhaus:

Hehehe...

Not a Christian, not a Muslim, and not a Buddhist...but somehow you know that there's no better feeling than the feeling of being connected to God.

It is well.
Have a nice evening yourself, hopefully you come back in soon.

Chomzy19:
Nawa for this kain discussion...

netotse:
hey guys,

I've been reading about the sugabelly scandal and it's really upsetting if you ask me.

I see that to some extent we guys don't appear able or willing to hold ourselves to higher standards, pretty depressing stuff.

netotse:
So guys(and assistant guys ), I've been meaning to ask this question for a long time but I keep procrastinating:

Is there a difference between married and unmarried sex? I'm close to tying the knot and the missus and I are NSBM and sometimes I wonder.

I mean, you're married, so there's little furtive about married sex is there?(not counting when kids arrive), do you have the same thrill?

netotse:

it's a personal decision we both took separately (yep, root of the matter is Christianity), it hasn't been easy particularly because I'm not exactly a saint but it'll soon be over.

The closer the wedding gets, the easier it is to cross lines and I have at times wondered "what's the point?" but God dey sha.

netotse:
hey guys,

I've been reading about the sugabelly scandal and it's really upsetting if you ask me.

I see that to some extent we guys don't appear able or willing to hold ourselves to higher standards, pretty depressing stuff.

TV01:

Totally missed this. Is it a ML issue? What are the facts??


TV

funlord:

How are we sure the girl isn't lying? Or that the guy is guilty? Anyway the "side chick" game isn't for everyone if you ask me! But the girl making accusations has posted a lot of "alice in wonderland stories" prior to this on twitter so her credibility is in the loo!!!
There are rules that people in such "open relationships" need to establish and follow to the letter so as not to end up as tabloid fodder for the public! Once those lines get blurred, you need to be prepared to deal with the consequences! Like a MAN!!!

TV01:




Holá Netotse, I kinda missed this, so for what it's worth. Theologically this is pretty clear cut. NSBM is exactly right. When a couple agree and have the blessing of their families - and most especially when they are absolutely committed and their motivation is pure - I'm not sure the formality of actual marriage rites would make a huge physical difference.

Even the spiritual implications may be considered on the basis on which point the union actually takes place, as opposed to being formalised. In practice, I'd say wait, but that's as much for your witness to others as for yourself.

Your Christian walk is just that, yours. Although in this case there are two journeyers, so as a man it's good to hold to what you agreed - for your credibility - even if you feel somewhat differently. If you do/have your conscience will be a fair judge.

The only other practical consideration is if for any reason the union is not formalised - i.e you part ways - then what would one term the act? And of course if the union is not formalised and there is a pregnancy? Fulfilling righteousness, as opposed to being righteous, may mean erring on the side of caution mens you won't go far wrong.

I may sound a little jumbled here, or perhaps not adequately expressed the nuance I see .

All the best for your forthcoming nuptials, most hearty congratulations to the blessed couple. May your union be fruitful in a way that touches everyone around you and glorifies our God and Father.

Best
TV

Mindfulness:


There is no need to follow a rigid and bogus belief system to connect with God. God has no religion.



It is very well. Thanks.

netotse:


Some babe was in a relationship with the late Kogi state govs son a few years back, it wasn't a healthy relationship, according to her, he made her sleep with his friends and brothers several times and treated her like crap. They met when she was undergoing an internship where he worked years back. He was 25 she was 17. It's the usual naija thing, some people are asking her why she kept going back, some are calling the guy a rapist etc etc.

The recent rash of popularity is because she was jubilating on twitter when the former gov (and at the time of his passing, guber candidate) passed away. The gist had actually come out years ago (she blogged about it).




To me, It's not about who's lying or not, If you're 25, carrying on such an "open relationship" with a 17 year old girl is wrong through and through, whatever the babes faults may be(she can't be blameless), that's where my grouse is, from where it looks, we're focusing on all the wrong things and ignoring the fact that if there's anyone that should be held to a higher standard here it's the guy. What he did was not acceptable.