I was in church today (yes i do go to church!  ) and being the second sunday of the month, we had a bible study and discussion session. The topic today was Marriage and divorce. Being a sensitive one, service was an extra hr longer because everyone had something to say.

One thing that stood out for me tho was that at the end of the study session. our Vicar advised that marriage is a relationship, not a contract and should be approached as such.

Although i fully understand his point of view personally i don't see approaching marriage as a contract as such a bad thing. if everyone knws their place and all expectations are defined and outline, things would be easier and fu*k-ups can be handled properly. In my opinion d problem today with many marriages is that different people have different expectations and without being properly defined, it is inevitable that there would be disappointments which inturn leads to all other unpleasantries in marriages. . .

whats your take?

In a sense, everything in life is a contract. Certain expectations, certain guidelines. Both parties "sign" their promise to eachother.

I agree but i still believe a marriage should be seen as a relationship rather than a contract, so when the contract ends what happens - divorce

Na both.

Nor be papers them dey sign for church during the wedding?

but relationships end too. . .

You wont go into a long term contract with someone u dont trust wld u? thats what i mean basically. ,  both parties sit down and decide what it is they want out of the union, negotiate differences, come to an agreement and have regular reviews of their marriage.

well it think its both then
marriage is relationship based on contract

Or a contract based on a relationship. . .

Marriage is what you make it.
If you make it like a contract i. e. signing a pre-nupt, well that's the way you like your tea.
But if you make marriage into something more than guidelines and expectation, well all the power to ya.

Yup! Marriage is what you make of it. Whatever works for you.

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saying contract ur just tryin to worsen it , i dont think its contract just RELATIONSHIP

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Na both contract and relationship. If you manage as a contract alone, you can lose for those of you that are bad business people, and if you treat as relationship alone, some will lose for those who are poor managers of relationship. So my advice, handle as both contract and relationship, You can never lose the 2!

It is indeed Both.

A Contract is needed to show that Marriage is a Serious Business.

You sign Contracts for your car, house, why wont you sign one for Marriage.

Marriage is defined according to oxford dictionary as "a legal relationship between a husband and wife".

Legal is connected with the Law - In other words: This can be term an agreement, a union, a promise or[b] a contract[/b] made with somebody.

Marriage is not complete with just having relationship, it goes with the agreement.

MARRIAGE IS THEREFORE A CONTRACT RELATIONSHIP.

kemisuga:

Marriage is defined according to oxford dictionary as "a legal relationship between a husband and wife".

Legal is connected with the Law - In other words: This can be term an agreement, a union, a promise or[b] a contract[/b] made with somebody.

Marriage is not complete with just having relationship, it goes with the agreement.

MARRIAGE IS THEREFORE A CONTRACT RELATIONSHIP.

For this reason,

why then cant there be a negotiation of terms and conditions, like every other contract?
I think this wld make everyones expectations clear and allow for everyone to take proper responsibility for their actions