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Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 1:18pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
ITbomb: Rubbish, instead let's fine a way and stop white wedding, after the traditional wedding, the priest or Pastor should pray for the couple at the reception then they go and get registered at the court. Awesomeness Thank you! 2 Likes |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Crixie(m): 1:21pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
ITbomb: Rubbish, instead let's fine a way and stop white wedding, after the traditional wedding, the priest or Pastor should pray for the couple at the reception then they go and get registered at the court.Thank U very much... How can we abandon our culture over another people's...I prefer Trad wedding millions of times to white wedding 2 Likes |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 1:23pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
sebyluv: This is sooooo true. I don't think d traditional rites shud b necessary anymore. If we have decided to embrace d xtian or muslim religion as most of us have, den our religious rite shud b enuf. it doesn't even make sense dat after d trad, couples r still not allowed by dr churches to have sex until dey r wedded in church. Away with all ds Senseless Trad rites and on with our Simple Church weddings. LOL Dude....Mother Africa weeps for this post Colonialism on display Chai 2 Likes |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by ITbomb(m): 1:28pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
obongproff:Foolish me, I shouldn't have posted such comment where obongprof would see, I'm so ashamed. How I wish I could see any of his high and rich thinking. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Anugod(f): 2:05pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Vikthor:Kogi state. But the tradition is peculiar to my own communal clan. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Anugod(f): 2:09pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
babyud:I'm from Kogi state. But it is not all communal clans and tribes in Kogi that practice this o. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by 3sha4lyf: 2:12pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
lawkenoz: In life,I've learned to make excuses for reasons why things happen; that way, you save yourself from the hassles of arguing whats right n whats wrong. I said "Oh yes, pls people should stop taking white wedding for its name. I wanna think that it's actually Church/Christian wedding but done with the bride wearing white, not necessarily that it's the white man's tradition." It means i agreed its white man's tradition, but should not be seen as so but as some church/christian occasion where the bride wears white. That way, we no go fight put on top of the matter. If you didnt see it this way, i apologise for misconstruing the info. As for the bolded, even men use it to boost their ego and show off. Lol Let's not deviate from the mata. Poster asked is it time to end trad wedding rites, i'll say no, BuT to the extent that the rites themselves are checked somhat those rites wont turn to extortion. 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Anugod(f): 2:12pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
beejaay:Na so e easy to marry? Abi apart from bride price u no go spend money again ni? |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by beejaay: 2:14pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Anugod:which money i go spend again?? sebi u dey work and i dey work too...na to combine nah |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Anugod(f): 2:17pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
mencade5: abeg whichtribe and state r u from?I'm Igala, from Kogi. Funny u, u wan come my tribe cos of bride price. Na only bride price dem dey spend to marry? If u can spend to make ur wedding classic, wetin come b bride price? |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Anugod(f): 2:22pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
beejaay:So it must b 50:50 abi? If u con jam wife wey no dey work nko? U go still spend na |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by tandj: 2:28pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Left to me,traditional marriageand court will do. Yet to understand what wedding stands for abi bc of wedding gown and suit? Black man mentality. Imitating everything white. I'm yet to see indians do second marriage or wedding after their traditional marriage. Simple;black man hate himself with passion hence d copy copy. 2 Likes |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by mencade5(m): 2:35pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Anugod:no be so na, but na the way them take value money too much dey fear me. Male i pm you? 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by beejaay: 2:36pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Anugod:i go teach her how to work i no fit jam wife wey go like sleep lae lae wen den no swear 4 me sebi u dey work abi |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by nossycheek(f): 3:24pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
For u guys that want to avoid paying bride price you are just day dreaming. Our culture cant be wished away. No brideprice, no wedding |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by PAGAN9JA(m): 3:31pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
shaggy007: much better. btw aboki = friend mallam / almajri = muslim |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Fulaman198(m): 3:41pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
PAGAN 9JA: Malam actually means a teacher or an educated man. Almajiri means a youthful scholar (which isn't the case today). |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by jude33084(m): 3:50pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
CongoleseQueen: [s]Marriage has an important significance in every society. In African societies, there are three marriage ceremonies, traditional, court and white. The traditional marriage is the most important of all three. It’s not just a celebration of unbinding love between two individuals – it’s the creation of a deep union between two families and communities. Jesus Christ Attended a traditional wedding rite not a foreign type |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Anugod(f): 4:29pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
beejaay:Lol |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Oxone(m): 4:41pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Realdeals: And yet we imported & adopted the white wedding as ours its funny how the whites who are better off economically will do only the church and court wedding while we in Africa that are struggling will import the extra burden of a white wedding along with our traditional and court wedding Abroad, the bride's parents contributes majorly to the wedding and sometimes out-rightly sponsors it. wonder why we left that part out. Why cant we do away with the white wedding & face our culture? We go just dey copy without sense & end up making the simplest things difficult. Life shouldn't be that hard i swear 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by PAGAN9JA(m): 4:44pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Fulaman198: haba I know now. im just giving him stereotype names to replace "aboki". lol @ youthful scholar it is actually derived from Al Muhajir = migrants from Mecca/islamic religious migrants. for example muslim refugees in other states are usually referred to as muhajirs. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 4:49pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Bride-price needs to be abolished. The other traditional marriage rites can remain. 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Vavavoom(m): 4:57pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
@ op, i see reason with your point of view. The right to choice is inherent and free, it is in-built before our birth, inalienable and must be held strong in one's pursuit of happiness. To tag along and be inflexible in matters where choice determines the direction of our happiness is to please another. I see no joy in such submission only control. In closing it is sound to rehash your point that people should if it makes them happy CHOOSE to pay the bride price or be FREE to say our CHOICE is different. Bravo. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by CAMNEWTON4PRES: 5:15pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Foool |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by GooseBaba: 5:45pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Abiagirl777: I , you must be in love...you mean you went through such insults...? How can we say traditional marriage is superior. But we undermine it with conscious craze. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by mekadinho(f): 5:53pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
THE WAY EVERYBODY TAKE DEY FIRE OUR "DRUNK" OP, I AM VERY SURE HE LL NEVER TASTE ALCOHOLIC DRINK AGAIN B4 CREATING A THREAD NXT TIME. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by GooseBaba: 6:04pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Litmus: You can always tell a Bush-Person, they are the ones that think that traditional culture is primitive. I notice, ironically, that in Nigeria it is often the cultured middle classes that value tradition while it is the underclasses or pretentious newly monied classes that elevate western culture above African ones. They think eating spaghetti and potato is the height of civilization and sneer at those that eat eba and soup. At home if they condescend to tackle eba and soup, they want to do so with knife and fork and yet give them ice water they probably blow at it being unable to differentiate between hot and cold. Gbam!!!!! May you live long and thrive.... |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by DesChyko: 6:42pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
cannonnier: ours is especially cheap. A bride can wed for free if she wish. Money is a matter of ability, and whatever is paid goes to the bride's pocket, (it's her's). And ofcourse there is limit(something around 15k maximum). As I said earlier, ABILITY; if the groom wishes he can pay a MILLION. I'll love an extensive study of how it happens. I have no idea how it goes otherwise. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 6:45pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
ITbomb: Rubbish, instead let's fine a way and stop white wedding, after the traditional wedding, the priest or Pastor should pray for the couple at the reception then they go and get registered at the court. God bless you ! 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by cannonnier(m): 7:12pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
DesChyko:that will be really welcomed. But. You should get some credible sources. I recommend thee Islam for muslim here on NL. Just create a thread, there will be enough people you will here from. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by GetUmad: 7:28pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
LaRoyalHighness: This op has a point. ... However, our tradition is important but I detest the bride price and long list given to the man. I thank God for the man that I married... because that list the gave him can even make someone to run away. I bless God for him as he has already decreed that our son's in law won't be given any list . Dear Ma, I hereby apply for the role of your son-in-law. I am a graduate of priceless primary school. I am in my second year in the junior secondary school. A very hardworking guy who is known by all for his industrious nature. this is undoubtedly evident in my ability to always hawk for my mum after returning from school every day. if given the golden opportunity, I promise not to ever stress your lovely daughter, nor make her to ever have to lift a finger. I shall work for all her needs till the end of the earth. kindly let me prove my humble nature to you by giving me your daughter just for 2 days. I can promise you wont have to say #bringmygirlback. By the way, I am in my early tenths, 12 years old to be precise. I shall await your favorable response via a pm. sincerely your-soon-to-be son inlaw Ebele Fortune 1 Like |
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