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Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by DesChyko: 7:37pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
cannonnier: Just create a thread, there will be enough people you will here from.Lol.. Create wetin? You want me to die by Nairaland firing squad? Hahaha |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by cannonnier(m): 8:07pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
DesChyko:there are No firing squad. Anyway I understand your fear. How about I will create the thread and you will be the chief guest. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by cococandy(f): 8:41pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Zahrabinnta: Yes,the bride price aspect is meaningless,traditional weddings are great and all but when money is being exchanged over a human head it makes some men think that they own the wife. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by cococandy(f): 8:45pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
EnlightenedSoul: An extremely multi-faceted article. I'm not sure what to address first! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by kingston277(m): 9:50pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
CongoleseQueen:Great, because according to scholarly sources, traditional African human right concepts have always been about choice and access to basic human needs, anything deviating from that is cultural corruption, so go ahead. I agree. I agree, but... If historical traditions weren't about creating a sense of belonging, then how did the pre-colonial kingdoms that spanned several tribes survive for so many centuries? Tribal conflicts exist for many different reasons around the world, so it is not wise to place all cause in the same box. Historically, tribes & kingdoms usually went to war over the same reasons today's nations go to war. Not many wars were based on racial-esque lines. However, sudden changes in government structure, culture, religion, politics, (and yes,)colonialism, etc can polarize societies along tribal lines even if they've co-existed for centuries such as the HUtu. Huh? Inter-tribal marriages have always been with Africans. Many sources online state that tribes are generally not rigid and members can follow the politicians of another tribe freely, speak the language of neighboring tribes as their 1st language, practice the customs of neighboring tribes, etc. Tribes are fluid systems so I'm not sure where you got your ideas from. Thats wonderful that that works for them but will it work for us, we really need to start looking inward and examining and fixing our issues. Our ancestors left us with several ways to create a functioning society like they did but we continue to ignore them and look outward. This non-progressive thinking will soon be our downfall. Plz red this: https://www.nairaland.com/1796388/tradition-progress Agree, we should only hold on to aspects of culture that helped us build great civilizations like Benin, Oyo, Asante(all multi-tribal), etc, so that hopefully one day our society may return to their level of sophistication. But we should not adopt/stick with customs, foreign or local, that are not here to fix our current issues, this is part of being rational and enlightened, also something that has been with our ancestors(some of whom were atheist) but not with us. 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by pete4real(m): 10:04pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
I don't know the state u are from but from the part am frompride price is not more than N500, in essence our tradition is our identity, respect, unity among others, and pls keep your opinion to your self iam_ord: I must say africa is loosing its place as the time goes by.. You blame it on the attitude of the black people..u see one reason why we don't move forward is because we are afraid of change.. All races have passed through what we r going through.. Some modified and threw out the ones that r not needed so as to customize the tradition for this generation and beyond.. But we over here.. Just like it that way .. Africa has lost its place in time..this time a lot of family members see the bride price as a chance to amass wealth.. And can kill for that.. A lot of irregularities go unchecked..and now the irregularities have become Part of the present tradition.. This is because black leaders and majority of the people are not intelligent enough to understand that there has to be reforms in all sectors of culture and traditions. to make it conform with present day .we lack vision..and very soon.. All history will be wiped out cos we don't learn |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by zurine(f): 10:43pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
hmm |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by NumberOne2(m): 11:14pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
Africa is facing a serious identity crisis. We gladly accept foreign religions and cultures (especially Christianity and Islam) while looking down on ours. If we question traditional practices, how many religious practices have we questioned? There are many religious practices that raise more questions than these traditional practices. Look at places like Japan which are modern cities but maintain most of their ancient traditions. Must Africa copy the west in the name of modernization? 3 Likes |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by CongoleseQueen: 11:33pm On Jul 02, 2014 |
It is sad that one can't express their views without receiving insults. I am not encouraging anyone to imitate the Western culture. African culture is not better than Western culture and vice versa. There are always things we can learn from each other. That is why I am saying we need to have an open mind. You people are speaking about this our African culture like it doesn't have any bad sides. There are MANY things we can learn from others and vice versa. Even in the West, when you look 50-100 years ago, things were done differently than they are now. Their society evolved. Some of things they have adopted are good, others are bad. Why can't we learn from their mistakes? Let's carefully go through our culture and remove the things that aren't allowing us progress -- but of course we have to be selective so that we don't adopt things that could potentially destroy our core values. By the way, I clearly stated that I am in favor of traditional marriage, but I don't agree in the "bride price" aspect of it. I want celebrate the cultural aspect of it. In other words, I want to have a traditional marriage minus the whole bride price thing. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Obi1kenobi(m): 12:10am On Jul 03, 2014 |
Nah. I'd rather do away with white weddings. I enjoy traditional ceremonies a lot better than the white wedding and reception. 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by sebyluv(m): 7:07am On Jul 03, 2014 |
milychocs:Babe stop being theatrical. we have all being Colonized, its Jst left for us to forge better paths for ourselves. If does Trad rites ain't good enuf again, den let's go ahead with better things. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Skmoda360(m): 9:53am On Jul 03, 2014 |
Can't read too long |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by domwas2(m): 10:10am On Jul 03, 2014 |
do u think african got tradition even d whites got more than us, as new generation all we got to do is edit does rule since we are educated than our fathers... In politics dats why those old maggot are not willing to give d youth a chance become we dnt think and ask why? Why? Why is this like this but instead we follow rules of ages meant to sult dat time bcs of virginity, how many virgin can u find today becos our generation dnt think our old parents keeps getting d price to avoid shame bcs why should it price stop at my turn while d guys keep paying 4 owo mugu... These days ladies are getting pregnant inorder to hold on to a guy why should i waste my time abeg i knw my rite abi na me open d hole or na me go pay 4 d hole wea anoda person open? ;Ddo u think african got tradition even d whites got more than us, as new generation all we got to do is edit does rule since we are educated than our fathers... In politics dats why those old maggot are not willing to give d youth a chance become we dnt think and ask why? Why? Why is this like this but instead we follow rules of ages meant to sult dat time bcs of virginity, how many virgin can u find today becos our generation dnt think our old parents keeps getting d price to avoid shame bcs why should it price stop at my turn while d guys keep paying 4 owo mugu... These days ladies are getting pregnant inorder to hold on to a guy why should i waste my time abeg i knw my rite abi na me open d hole or na me go pay 4 d hole wea anoda person open? |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 11:29am On Jul 03, 2014 |
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Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 11:30am On Jul 03, 2014 |
sebyluv: Hi We have all been colonized, true.... but we can choose to live in spite of this, not in line with it Like, doing away with our way of life......in a way that makes us appear silly to our "masters" is a total no no These days, I am embarrassed when I see overt displays of foreign religious zeal, and speaking foreign languages like the foreigners themselves...(in affected (okay, adapted) accents ) Two football instances...the day we lost to France....a Super Eagle made the sign of the cross, in a game we played with Europeans During that Under 17 FIFA World Cup in Naija a few years ago, I worked at the stadium We had the Turkish team with us, and during introductions.....only two of us gave our Igbo names Their coach with a look of consternation was wondering why we are Michaels, Elizabeths, etc. he said in his country they try to go ethnic as much as possible I dont blame our parents for naming us, but it is now left for us to #bring our positive Africanness back...with ethnic names, natural hair (okay, you may perm it for manageability), promoting traditional marriages and other positive cultural activities and behaviours..... Okay...white weddings have started being a tad embarrassing to me.....bring an oyibo to a white wedding in Naija, and take him to a trad wedding, he would be all "wow" about the trad, true story Some schools in Nigeria celebrate Halloween....I rest my case My view, no theatrics intended Cheers 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 11:31am On Jul 03, 2014 |
Number_One: Africa is facing a serious identity crisis. 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 11:33am On Jul 03, 2014 |
milychocs: My hair is natural and it's perfectly fine. Guys love how soft it is I won't relax my daughter's hair ever, so she won't have to struggle to learn how to manage it like I did. And I don't have a single Christian name, and I was born and raised in the West--somehow I survived. My cousins have begun doing the same with their children. Zero foreign names. When you have 20 Aunt Marys because the missionaries who renamed them apparently had the same short list, you appreciate the vibrance of your own culture. Uzo Aduba, from the hit show Orange is the New Black: So I went home and asked my mother if I could be called Zoe. I remember she was cooking, and in her Nigerian accent she said, “Why?” I said, “Nobody can pronounce it.” Without missing a beat, she said, “If they can learn to say Tchaikovsky and Michelangelo and Dostoyevsky, they can learn to say Uzoamaka." 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 11:47am On Jul 03, 2014 |
Lemme ask a simple question. Do u know americans(and the other white people) that u want us to start copying still observe traditional marriage rites? Ever heard of the pratice of throwing grains of rice at newly-weds or jumping the broom? If we cancel our traditional rites because we are trying to be like them, won't it be just stupid? 4 Likes |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by CongoleseQueen: 12:48pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
Zedric: Lemme ask a simple question. Do u know americans(and the other white people) that u want us to start copying still observe traditional marriage rites? Ever heard of the pratice of throwing grains of rice at newly-weds or jumping the broom? If we cancel our traditional rites because we are trying to be like them, won't it be just stupid? Where in my article do I mention copying Americans? Please show me. I never said that. Reformation isn't bad. All societies have gone through it -- it is part of growth and evolution. In addition to that, we already copy the European culture. So it's too late for your suggestion. |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 2:50pm On Jul 03, 2014 |
CongoleseQueen:Yes, we copy the European culture already but is that enough reason to get rid of thn part of our culture that we are trying to cling on to? |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by Nobody: 6:11am On Jul 04, 2014 |
I suggest the best way to. Handle this is(using igbo/yoruba traditional marriages for example) to get a priest/imam/ Court Clerk present at the traditional marriage and He should Officiate the normal exchange of vows immediately after the wine carrying rites.... 1 Like |
Re: Africa: Is It Time To Put An End To Traditional Wedding Rites? by nairablog(m): 6:53pm On Aug 23, 2014 |
Abu Hurairah (RA) related that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “if one of you ends up at a gathering let him extend the greeting of peace, then, let him sit if he deems it better to sit. Then if he stands, if he stands let him extend greetings of peace, for the first (greeting, which he gave upon arriving) is not more than the last (i.e. the greeting he gives when leaving).” (Abu Daawuud)....read more here...http://al-athariy..com/2014/08/manners-in-islam.html |
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