10 red flags they say should be cause for
concern in any relationship.
1. You feel the need to change who you are to
make your partner happy.
We all change a bit when we're exposed to a
new partner and their individual tastes --
you binge-watch an entire season of "House
of Cards" because your boyfriend loves it or
attempt to go vegetarian for a few months
because your girlfriend has been one for
years (keyword: attempt ). It only becomes a
real issue when you feel the need to change
who you are at your core to satisfy your
partner, says licensed marriage and family
therapist Virginia Gilbert.
"It's a definite problem when you find
yourself molding your values, opinions and
even your clothing style to suit your
partner," Gilbert says. "If you edit what you
say before you say it and constantly monitor
how you come across because you feel like
your partner is grading you, it might be time
to let the relationship go."
2. You have to defend your significant other to
family and friends.
Not everyone is going to like your boyfriend
or girlfriend as much as you do. But it
should worry you if there's a general
consensus among family and friends that
your new love is entirely wrong for you,
says M. Gary Neuman, a licensed
psychotherapist and author of The Truth
About Cheating: Why Men Stray and What
You Can Do to Prevent It .
“When all your friends and family are
uncomfortable with the relationship, it's
time to take a good look at it," he
recommends. "If you find yourself isolated
from loved ones and telling yourself they
just don't know your significant other the
way you do, chances are this won't end
well."
3. Nitpicking and criticism -- even if said in jest
-- are constants in the relationship.
He finds your hourly texts really
overbearing -- and tells you so repeatedly.
She jokingly compares her Ivy League
education to the one you received at a state
school, but always in a dismissive tone. If
your partner's overly critical eye is starting
to affect your self-esteem, it's time to speak
up or jump ship, says relationship expert
Tina Swithin.
“The criticism can even be subtle
comparison put-downs, which can be
delivered in a casual, passive aggressive
way," she says. "Those still can chip away at
your confidence, and in the end, healthy
relationships should lift you up, not bring
you down."
4. You're always wondering what your partner
is up to when you're not around.
What Elvis sang about suspicious minds is
true: You and your S.O. can't go on together
as long as you have doubts about what he or
she is up to when you're not there.
Dating coach Marina Sbrochi agrees,
offering up an example to illustrate the
point: "Maybe your new girlfriend keeps her
phone on silent. All the time. Add that to the
fact that she can only go out a couple of
times a week and she prefers to text," she
says. "Knock, knock! You aren't an
investigative reporter, but you know when
something smells fishy. If two plus two
doesn’t add up to four, it's time to part ways
and look for a relationship that doesn't seem
like a game of Clue."
5. Your partner makes all of the big
relationship decisions.
You only get together when it's convenient
for your boyfriend and only hang out with
his family and friends. You've been to all of
your girlfriend's work functions and
friends' parties, but have stopped inviting
her to any social gathering you attend --
she's made it crystal clear she's not
interested.
Sound familiar? If your partner is calling all
the shots and "you're just following their
lead, desperate for a few crumbs," it might
be time to reevaluate the relationship,
Gilbert warns.
6. Your sex life is seriously lacking.
A relationship shouldn't be all about the sex,
but it needs to be somewhat about the sex,
according to Sbrochi.
“If you feel like this person has all the other
qualities you desire in a mate, see a sex
therapist. Try some new tricks and see if
you can make manufacture some chemistry,"
she suggests. "Trust me, you need a sexual
connection for a long-lasting relationship.
You have plenty of friends, you don't need
another friend. It's time to look for love and
sex in one package.”
7. You want more "me" time -- but your partner
wants more "we" time.
You're dying for some time to yourself.
Meanwhile, your boyfriend is complaining
about how little you see of each other. "In
other words, the frequency of connecting is
either too high or too low, whether it be
texting, calling, or seeing each other in
person," marriage and family therapist Jane
Greer explains. It's a problem if "an amount
that is mutually comfortable for both of you
is never found."
8. You feel personally responsible for your
partner's happiness.
Heed your inner red flags as soon as you
start to feel like your partner relies on you --
and only you -- to keep them emotionally
balanced, Gilbert says.
“Whether your partner is in a pit of despair
or erupting in anger, he or she makes you
feel that you are somehow to blame, and it’s
your job to change whatever it is that you
have done or said to make them feel bad,"
she says. "Whatever you do or say to remedy
the situation is inevitably wrong and makes
your partner feel worse, which is, of course,
your fault. You are always on eggshells and
you feel the walls closing in on you. This
kind of relationship is poison; get out ASAP."
9. Your partner controls who you see and what
you do.
This might be the biggest red flag of all,
Swithin says. “If you find that your partner
is controlling your time with friends or
family, your finances, clothing choices or
how much makeup you wear, this is
something to take very seriously."
10. You find yourself wondering if you’re in the
wrong relationship.
It may sound painfully obvious, but your
tendency to quiet those relationship doubts
may end up being a huge regret later on,
says Sbrochi. "So many times we look back
on a bad relationship and only in hindsight
can we really see the signs for what they
really were," she says. "But if you really
think about it, you knew the whole time, you
just wanted to ignore it for whatever reason.
”
Instead, be more proactive about your
relationship concerns and address them
with your partner -- or move on before you
get hurt. "Make a mental note of whatever is
bothering you," Sbrochi says. "If it happens
again or you feel your inner warning lights
going off (even if they are going off softly),
it's time to take a step back."
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Wen u see ur partner as same person

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Wen u dnt miss d person even wen he or she shd be missed
Wen u see ur partner as same person

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