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Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 7:36am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by lilmax(m): 7:37am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Thats why i will always advise men not to depend on their wife for money,a woman will tell her husband that he must do the chores because she also provides money for the family.... |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Tyche(m): 7:37am On Jul 11, 2014 |
@GentleMimi, don't you think that some men might have a phobia for male house help too? Cases abound of women who mess up with their house boy. If my wife dont want a female house help, why should she want a male house help? |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by oieda: 7:37am On Jul 11, 2014 |
In anything, two are usually better than one. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by GentleMimi: 7:37am On Jul 11, 2014 |
olubukato: oskaaay:Thanks,bro. Some of us come out of pain stonger and wiser. fijiano202: sorry though but now u are alot wiser..nobody can point a dog to u as lion..we mature with experience....funny thing is with all this BS happening, people still wonder why women/housewives do plastic surgerysThanks,bro. True talk. Lol@ plastic surgery. I consider it a situation of fear and low self-esteem. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by GentleMimi: 7:45am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Tyche: @GentleMimi, don't you think that some men might have a phobia for male house help too? Cases abound of women who mess up with their house boy.I understand,and i'll respect his opinion. In that case,there will be NO househelp,male or female. Since we'll both be working,then he should be kind enough to help out. An agreement has to be made and sacrifices too. We all cannot be rigid in decision making. I will not marry a man whose love is not genuine,or selfish man in the first place. olubukato: GentleMimi... You are invited..Lol! 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 7:49am On Jul 11, 2014 |
last tin I will ever do 4 my wife house chores god 4bid..........I can takia of baby bt house chores lailai.....wic 1 sweep floor or wash dish or cloth.......I bet if u do it once she will strt claiming d house chores is meant 4 both of u.. ....mk ur mama com visit... .Heeee she don jazz my son...lol 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 7:49am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Nice |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by jericco1(m): 7:57am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Well I did promise my future wife that I would help her presently, but when we finally get married she gonna do the rest. |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Dygeasy(m): 8:00am On Jul 11, 2014 |
ireneidiva: |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Dygeasy(m): 8:01am On Jul 11, 2014 |
ireneidiva:lol! He is immature but it is what he wants. Best you can do is pity his wife. |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Ninapha(f): 8:03am On Jul 11, 2014 |
cheksbry: I couldn't help but comment,very cool comment thnks Cheksbry. But thats one secret way to make ur hubby run coming home. Abi no be so? Lol. |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by fijiano202(m): 8:03am On Jul 11, 2014 |
GentleMimi:not all is abt low self-esteem,u are right abt fear though..every housewife wanna look young so that her husband wont call her fat or ugly,i have a close aunt who once complain abt her husband lack of action in the Bedroom,that made her feel unwanted and ugly....As a lady am sure u understand that men are born with lust but we learn to control it but some cant....what i dont really understand abt we men are how we may be dating ladies like omotola and yvonne nelson but end up lusting after ladies like enjema Emperess i.e ugly ladies 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by oskaaay(m): 8:04am On Jul 11, 2014 |
jericco1: Well I did promise my future wife that I would help her presently, but when we finally get married she gonna do the rest. oga jerrico.....hmmmmm.....remember marriage vows oooo...tell her now so she will stay...let her stay than pending sweet-mounting her for what will not happen ooooooo....my advise.....to avoid future marriage crashing ..... 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Tyche(m): 8:05am On Jul 11, 2014 |
GentleMimi: Since you are career woman, there will come a point when, due to the schedule on both parts, you will definitely need a house help. I hope the decision don't create issues. I understand your fears, but most men would never stoop so low to have an affair with the house girl, except perhaps He stays home all day and madam no dey coperate. This does not mean I support having such affairs. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by kodewrita(m): 8:05am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Pay someone to come in and help out once in a while. You do not have to do it ALL. A non-live-in housekeeper who comes once a week to wash all laundry and sweep the place would not be a bad idea. if she can run market errands, even better. Add a dishwasher for the plates and you are good to go. 3 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by oskaaay(m): 8:07am On Jul 11, 2014 |
kodewrita: Pay someone to come in and help out once in a while. You do not have to do it ALL. coool..... |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by jericco1(m): 8:11am On Jul 11, 2014 |
oskaaay: lol she understands, i'll struggle for the future. our marriage is safe and Loud 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by ceasare: 8:12am On Jul 11, 2014 |
@ninapha: u ve said it all @gentle Mimi: that's how a good wife and mother should be at home. Well from my own perspective our ladies watch too much foreign movies and feel the home front should be a two people party where households chores are divided btw husband and wife like its don't abroad but we forget our ccultures are different. In their culture bills are shared equally and couples are independent of each other so sharing the chores is non negotiable.back to our own culture non of us grew seeing our dad cook or sweep or do any household chores regardless of his financial contributions towards upkeep of the family! Back to our time husbands are not ready to chip in an helping hand because the wife feels she works too and contribute to the finances so the husband can do the dishes for all she cares or better still get a house help while the husband feels after hustling his ass out and going through goring traffic he won't come home and start doing the dishes from last night dinner! In all I think understanding your partners strength and weakness will go a long way in keeping d home front . For me what works best is that I studied my madam I knw she can cook for a nation as in she is delighted to cook diff meals for me and the kids 3x a day and she can wash clothes you are yet to use down today and her weakness is she hates ironing clothes so I do most of the things she doesn't like doing at my convenience and everybody is happy. Though I compel her to do those chores once in a while when am at my low maybe when I hv gone thru Lagos gruelling traffic....she knows when Oga voice don't change. Note we have 2 lil kids and no house help ! Though we have a baby sitter that comes in every 2 weeks when she has to work full day on saturday and she sits d kids and general housekeeping and no cooking. Every couple should look for what works best for them . 2 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by maryhaam(f): 8:15am On Jul 11, 2014 |
moderatorr: If she can't keep my house heavenly clean and still cook a very nice dish on top of it while i watch TV, then she should leave and let a woman who can do it take her place.lmao Loooool can't wait to get married |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by oskaaay(m): 8:17am On Jul 11, 2014 |
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Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by oskaaay(m): 8:19am On Jul 11, 2014 |
oskaaay: It’s Saturday and despite a BUSY week, you’re up early again. You drag yourself out of bed and start facing chores. You make breakfast, your darling husband eats, leaves his dishes on the table and moves to the Living room to enjoy T.V (despite the fact that the living room needs some cleaning up). Your kids are very young and can’t help much with chores. You’re exhausted and tensed, yet all the clutter stares you in the face. But what riles you the most? Of course! It’s the sight of your sweetheart concentrated on the TV, totally unconcerned about your running here and there! Hope new readers/guests are still keeping to the talk of the day...if you missed it...that is the main TOPIC in qoute above for the day ooo....add your view....e se oooo (thank you in YORUBA language....) |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by jericco1(m): 8:21am On Jul 11, 2014 |
oskaaay: I'm an Un-science, hope there's something as such... #well i know a few D/N. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 8:25am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Let's be realistic here not cos we r online, a normal guy lives probably alone for a while b4 marriage. Weren't u doin ur hus chores? Dats one. 2. Men rantin abt ladies doin all d work while men go out nd husle. Sure. Y not if ur wife will be a hus wife. I don't have any problem wit dat, but if she goes to work too nd comes home late den dats been inconsiderate. As for me my fiancee does d work in his hus nd its ok by me. Wen we get marid, ill do d ones I can wen I'm not @ work den get a maid who comes say morn to eve or weekends. Shikena. I no come life come dey do hus work. Haba! 5 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by oskaaay(m): 8:26am On Jul 11, 2014 |
jericco1: yeah there is(could recommend to friends)..... still communicating with two doctors (friend and brother) that got employed there this year and doing fine..... |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Trecixnine(m): 8:34am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Kanwulia: Please, stop making them to feel 'all important'! Why did.you.sound so bitter? Have you forgotten that some husbands stay with their wives even when females' fertility problems pose challenges to procreation for years? Please don't prescribe a 'one size fits all' solution to the issue raised. |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by oskaaay(m): 8:35am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Trecixnine: hmmmmmmm.... |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by GlorifiedTunde(m): 8:37am On Jul 11, 2014 |
*Please Don't Quote If You Can't Understand * House chore is nobody's sole duty! It baffles me when a guy thinks its the woman's duty to do chores. Who laundered your clothes, did your dishes, swept your room, etc before you got married? You come marry finish, carry your leg for chair like say na househelp you marry. shioo! Any man who thinks in such way is still living in the STONE AGE! Now me clamour for our wives to also work and bring in some income, she goes to work and comes back tired and you expect her to do all that herculean chores and also make love to u? HAAA! YOU MUST BE A WICKED MAN! Even if you can't cook, you should be good at doing dishes, washing her clothes and pressing them. Ladies better know the Kain man dem go marry, and don't spoil him immediately after wedding. Make him assist before babies start rolling in so that he gets used to it. After now, some OLD SCHOOL PUNKS be like "I can't wash my wife's undies" SHIOOOO!!! 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Blockus: 8:39am On Jul 11, 2014 |
GlorifiedTunde: *Please Don't Quote If You Can't Understand * I like the style wey you use dey find fhuck online. May God bless your hussle. Mr. Ladies man. 2 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by worksmart(m): 8:41am On Jul 11, 2014 |
The best answer and simple truth claireshan: if he doesn't want to help me,,, I will do it myself |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 8:45am On Jul 11, 2014 |
I will marry a man like my father! I remember my mum and him shared d housechores He wasn't sloppy, very organised man!! On saturdays he works like mad at home together with mum and u see them doing competition on first to finish He did d cars, his clothes,mopped d floors Mum did d kitchen,bathroom,dusting,our clothes!!! That was how it went till we grew up and took over, he works and mum worked too even when she became a housewife he still helps out on saturdays!! I think the way some of us will run our homes will be a reflection of the homes we come from. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 8:46am On Jul 11, 2014 |
cdamsel: So also it's your duty to make money Exactly baby |
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