claireshan: story ,,that's only when you are a lazy azz



let's assume the husband lives in another state entirely so she will wait for him to come back abii?

walearoy:

Will you marry me?

oskaaay:

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dimples2: I will marry a man like my father! I remember my mum and him shared d housechores

He wasn't sloppy, very organised man!!
On saturdays he works like mad at home together with mum and u see them doing competition on first to finish

He did d cars, his clothes,mopped d floors
Mum did d kitchen,bathroom,dusting,our clothes!!!

That was how it went till we grew up and took over, he works and mum worked too even when she became a housewife he still helps out on saturdays!!


I think the way some of us will run our homes will be a reflection of the homes we come from.

Kanwulia:
Yes!

Blockus: No Woman who is married to a Man who comfortably provides for both the needs and wants of his family would ask him to help out with the house chores.

Its the increase in half-men that has led women to also share their responsibility in the house with their husbands.


Them never born that woman wey go tell me to do house chores. #HerFather!

Ngokafor:


...Your wife will be a lucky woman indeed!..
..by the way, i loveee how you like to work not even like,my belle is doing tininitana!..hehe..

Ngokafor:


...Your wife will be a lucky woman indeed!..
..by the way, i loveee how you like to work not even like,my belle is doing tininitana!..hehe..

Sophyrocks:

Dnt blame him. Many men are like him. There are many men who will marry smply because they are tired of bachelorhood. They say they are tired of cooking and cleaning all by themselves therefore they need a wife. Even an uncle of mine remarried when he lost his wife in death simply because he needed someone to cook and clean for him as his daughters are all married. you could see with the way he relates with her that Love is not the motivating reason for the marriage.

If a man has that kind of mentality while single, will you blame his wife for complainng that he doesnt help out in the home? Many men see that word 'Wife' to be 'Glorified cook and cleaner'. Housemaid even. Its left for ladies to ask men who are interested in them on why they want to get married. Their answers usually reveal their intentions. No man who will take his wife as his partner and best friend would reason like this.

egopersonified:

my point is, the fact that u ve never done something in the past does not mean u cant learn now. At least when, a man becomes a father for the first time, he has to learn how to nurture,teach and play with his child, so he shd be able to make sacrifices for his wife. We all make efforts to succeed in our career and r/ships with family, friends, neighbours and children, strive to own properties, be hygienic, run successful businesses,etc. But when it comes to marriage, we expect that the other person shd bring more to the table. Go figure.

GlorifiedTunde: *Please Don't Quote If You Can't Understand *

House chore is nobody's sole duty! It baffles me when a guy thinks its the woman's duty to do chores. Who laundered your clothes, did your dishes, swept your room, etc before you got married?

You come marry finish, carry your leg for chair like say na househelp you marry. shioo!

Any man who thinks in such way is still living in the STONE AGE!

Now me clamour for our wives to also work and bring in some income, she goes to work and comes back tired and you expect her to do all that herculean chores and also make love to u? HAAA! YOU MUST BE A WICKED MAN!

Even if you can't cook, you should be good at doing dishes, washing her clothes and pressing them.

Ladies better know the Kain man dem go marry, and don't spoil him immediately after wedding. Make him assist before babies start rolling in so that he gets used to it.

After now, some OLD SCHOOL PUNKS be like "I can't wash my wife's undies"

SHIOOOO!!!

Blockus:


I like the style wey you use dey find fhuck online.

May God bless your hussle.

Mr. Ladies man.

dimples2: I will marry a man like my father! I remember my mum and him shared d housechores

He wasn't sloppy, very organised man!!
On saturdays he works like mad at home together with mum and u see them doing competition on first to finish

He did d cars, his clothes,mopped d floors
Mum did d kitchen,bathroom,dusting,our clothes!!!

That was how it went till we grew up and took over, he works and mum worked too even when she became a housewife he still helps out on saturdays!!


I think the way some of us will run our homes will be a reflection of the homes we come from.

coachwilcox: I subscribe to men doing chores at home. Its the TYPE of chores I am very much choosy.

If my wife is secularly employed a lot of electronic devices (washing machine, dishwasher, microwave for my already prepared and refridgerated meals) can help to make her job easier a lot.

The way the house is set up can also make the job easier. Tiled floors, leather seats etc

As I said earlier, I define chores into manly chores and feminine chores. Cooking, doing dishes, cleaning the house, laundry etc are women chores or at least they should see to it that it is done. Handling the generator, shutting the gate at night, nailing broken panels, taking out the thrash, cutting trees and gardening, fixing and washing the vehicle(s), fixing electronics and co are manly tasks. So just as I wont want my wife to go fixing the coil or panel in the generator or changing my vehicle oil, she should damn not expect me to start sweeping the house.

Many of our african girls are deluded by the western media which has brainwashed them into thinking they can live like westerners. Thus, after seeking an independent feminist life, they want a life like that. When they get married they want their men to act the way they see in soaps, sex nd d city etc. Strangely enough many western woman are not even like that but our gullible african girls swallow hook line and sinker what they hear and watch. My brothers wife is a german in berlin and she does household chores like a wizard while me and my bro drink beer/watch bundesliga.

From a biblical point of view a woman should have deep respect for her man. Would you be having respect for your man by asking him to go prepare breakfast in bed for you?? Some stupid western fantasy Is it respect to sit while your man is sweeping the living room?? Strangely most of the stupid girls commenting here will go to their brothers house and if they see him scrubbing the toilet while his new wife is watching desperate housewives they will go ballistic hissing around the whole place and giving her hell.

What? You're my personality of the year for this contribution. I never wished to comment but your submission broke down my resolve.

A very plausible opinion from EVERY point of view (male or female chauvinist, religious, etc). Kudos again brother.

oskaaay: It’s Saturday and despite a BUSY week, you’re up early again. You drag yourself out of bed and start facing chores. You make breakfast, your darling husband eats, leaves his dishes on the table and moves to the Living room to enjoy T.V (despite the fact that the living room needs some cleaning up). Your kids are very young and can’t help much with chores. You’re exhausted and tensed, yet all the clutter stares you in the face. But what riles you the most? Of course! It’s the sight of your sweetheart concentrated on the TV, totally unconcerned about your running here and there!


MARRIAGE TIPS NOBODY TELLS US…

Unfortunately, the scene described above is quite common in these parts. What to do? Consider these tips:

What-to-do-when-husband-won't-help-around-house-mamagidi

TALK to him about it. Try to communicate your feelings without sounding confrontational.
THE few occasions on which he offers to help, accept it (even if you don’t really need his help at the time).
WHEN he helps out, give him a treat. It doesn’t have to involve spending money. Just make sure it communicates your thoughtfulness and appreciation. Knowledge of your husband’s turn-ons should come in handy here.
4 IMPORTANT REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD GET HELP

ACCEPT the fact that he may NEVER be as concerned as you are about housekeeping.
DON’T be a boss-lady. It’s a complete turn-off for most men!
IF he doesn’t do something to your satisfaction, don’t adjust it immediately in his presence. You know how you used to feel back then when mum came into the kitchen and threw all the dishes you just washed back in the sink.
YOUR TEENAGER AND CHORES

KNOW when to ask for help. You definitely don’t want to ask him to help with the trash can while he’s boiling- or worse, hungry!
FINALLY, and very importantly, if you know where patience is sold, don’t hesitate to use up your bank accounts on it. BUY IN BULK!
Hope you find these tips helpful. If you know of any other tips that can get our husbands off their seats and helping around the house, please feel free to share!
http://www.mamagidi.com/husband-wont-help-house-chores/

egopersonified: If only we could switch roles for a day, these marriage issues would all die natural deaths.

Bigsteveg:

So wot happens when d man is not like ur father...u keep divorcing?

walearoy:

Will you marry me?

Kanwulia:

Yes. Please, how shall we proceed?
Just give me the venue and I will show up!

Kanwulia:
Please, stop making them to feel 'all important'!
I DO IT MYSELF!
A husband's role is for PROCREATION only.
The rest, I can do FOR/BY MYSELF!

I nor sen am o! Hiahnn!

oskaaay:

DIY method could be too stressful especially when the children are till young to help......I think

Kanwulia:


Name one chore wey pass chore!
Only a matter of choice.
Abi man dey carry belle?

Make man push pickin from im blokos na abi?

You sound married

I will marry a man like my father! I remember my mum and him shared d housechores

He wasn't sloppy, very organised man!!
On saturdays he works like mad at home together with mum and u see them doing competition on first to finish

He did d cars, his clothes,mopped d floors
Mum did d kitchen,bathroom,dusting,our clothes!!!

That was how it went till we grew up and took over, he works and mum worked too even when she became a housewife he still helps out on saturdays!!


I think the way some of us will run our homes will be a reflection of the homes we come from.