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Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Ngokafor(f): 10:46am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: ...That is just what i was trying to make her see..a way out of the problem,but here she is talking about lack of love and all..smh. |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by egopersonified(f): 10:51am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Ngokafor: my point is, the fact that u ve never done something in the past does not mean u cant learn now. At least when, a man becomes a father for the first time, he has to learn how to nurture,teach and play with his child, so he shd be able to make sacrifices for his wife. We all make efforts to succeed in our career and r/ships with family, friends, neighbours and children, strive to own properties, be hygienic, run successful businesses,etc. But when it comes to marriage, we expect that the other person shd bring more to the table. Go figure. 4 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 10:54am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Ngokafor: No. She is also right. A lack of love is also another reason for some men. These men see marriage as a quest to fulfill all righteousness and really feel less than men when they do chores. Its a crush on their ego. It has to do with the way they see women and marriage while single. I have a friend who feels that if he is the only one at home, he will cook. but if a female is in his midst, he cannot cook. Even if the female is a visitor o. if she wants to eat, she must cook by herself. You see that kind of messed-up mentality? Now this guy says he wants to marry. what is his reason? Because he is tired of cooking and cleaning all by himself. Imagine that. So you see. So many messed-up mentalities out there are also reasons. Lack of love because they married to fulfill all righteousness is also a reason. 3 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Kanwulia: 10:54am On Jul 11, 2014 |
missojugo: Assssssssshually. . . . I age faster when the husband is at home. Just his presence alone. . . . I get tired of seeing his wor-wor face you know. . . . 3 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by oskaaay(m): 10:55am On Jul 11, 2014 |
dimples2: I will marry a man like my father! I remember my mum and him shared d housechores Agreed! |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Kanwulia: 10:58am On Jul 11, 2014 |
kibo: Yes! 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 11:00am On Jul 11, 2014 |
egopersonified: You are absolutely right. But this your opinion means absolutely nothing to men full of Ego and pride, who see chores as a crush on their ego, who married simply because they need househelp to help them with the chores. The mentality of a man while single matters a lot. A lot these man marry for flimsy reasons and not because of Love. Your opinion only matters to men who see women as their partners for life and build their marriages on the right foundation. 2 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 11:01am On Jul 11, 2014 |
claireshan: Nah am not Guys.... Following mode ASAP! |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 11:04am On Jul 11, 2014 |
GentleMimi:Gist us now... |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Kanwulia: 11:07am On Jul 11, 2014 |
princefunmi: 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 11:07am On Jul 11, 2014 |
smartchoice: 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Kanwulia: 11:09am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Trecixnine: Did I beg them? Na who sen dem message? 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Kanwulia: 11:16am On Jul 11, 2014 |
Ninapha: Your own good o. Una still dey for the 'wowing phase'? I just prefer him to wait in his room. . . .till he is needed. He is always in THE WAY! He can only clean cars good and cook VERRRRY WELL! The house? It would have been better he did not even bother. . . . Sheeeeeeeeeeesh! 2 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Smartiegurl(f): 11:25am On Jul 11, 2014 |
I know a few men who helps their wives with chores.....ma sis hubby is an example. You need to see the scenario so romantic...I envy her atimes though! When a husband helps with chores a home it helps to create an impact for others...especially the kids.....it portrays love and care! 5 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Evanscoth(f): 11:27am On Jul 11, 2014 |
[b][/b] GentleMimi: Right now,i do all house chores without help from anybody,and i'm working. I find it difficult to beg too. If i ask u nicely for something and u refuse.i might ask u a second time if i really love u. But there will never be a third time. Female help is out of bound in my home...lol! [/quote] Hiannnnnnn........you ll consider a male house help.It seems u don't like ur female daugthers. My dear u can put a female house help on check or worst still u can't stop a promiscous husband no matter how hard u try. Pls I can't take d risk of some lunatics using finger to break my daugthers hymen. 2 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by dhabeautyjas(f): 11:29am On Jul 11, 2014 |
moderatorr: If she can't keep my house heavenly clean and still cook a very nice dish on top of it while i watch TV, then she should leave and let a woman who can do it take her place.Guy,u suppose go village go pick a maid and just impregnate her. finish moderatorr: While we were young, you were using all your money for samsung galaxy S39 and brazillian hair, blackberry nails, long eye lashes and dating multiple older men. while we were reading motivational books, investing in series and series of failed business just to get the experience, being an apprentice for years with all the insults involved just to make it, boycotting parties and shows to save time and money, learning painful computer language after language, learning to pastor a church, lead a team, work all night, solicit for funds, perfecting our use of spoken and written english etc Why don't you marry one of those who wasted your cash then and know its vengance matter? Excuse me, do you check the statistics of working mums these days? they also contribute to the upkeep of the house, and you still expect them to come back home and do all the chores without help, when she breaks down or ages on time, its this same you that will see she is no longer presentable and go for other women, i am most sure, you didnt marry for love and togetherness,. moderatorr: Now when we finally make it and marry you, you want us to come and help you with house chores, if i suuulaaaaaaaaaaaaap you! Slap? i bet you, with some kind of women, that is the last you will do. Forget us being the weaker sex, we are begining to be wise too. moderatorr: This is how many marriages fail For men like you, even if you have a good homely and hardworking wife, you will still impregnate someone outside cos you are just a playboy. 3 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by dhabeautyjas(f): 11:30am On Jul 11, 2014 |
lilmax: Thats why i will always advise men not to depend on their wife for money,a woman will tell her husband that he must do the chores because she also provides money for the family.... A man must not do the chores. its the woman's duty but lending a helping hand is a way of appreciating her multiple roles in the family. |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by coachwilcox(m): 11:33am On Jul 11, 2014 |
I subscribe to men doing chores at home. Its the TYPE of chores I am very much choosy. If my wife is secularly employed a lot of electronic devices (washing machine, dishwasher, microwave for my already prepared and refridgerated meals) can help to make her job easier a lot. The way the house is set up can also make the job easier. Tiled floors, leather seats etc As I said earlier, I define chores into manly chores and feminine chores. Cooking, doing dishes, cleaning the house, laundry etc are women chores or at least they should see to it that it is done. Handling the generator, shutting the gate at night, nailing broken panels, taking out the thrash, cutting trees and gardening, fixing and washing the vehicle(s), fixing electronics and co are manly tasks. So just as I wont want my wife to go fixing the coil or panel in the generator or changing my vehicle oil, she should damn not expect me to start sweeping the house. Many of our african girls are deluded by the western media which has brainwashed them into thinking they can live like westerners. Thus, after seeking an independent feminist life, they want a life like that. When they get married they want their men to act the way they see in soaps, sex nd d city etc. Strangely enough many western woman are not even like that but our gullible african girls swallow hook line and sinker what they hear and watch. My brothers wife is a german in berlin and she does household chores like a wizard while me and my bro drink beer/watch bundesliga. From a biblical point of view a woman should have deep respect for her man. Would you be having respect for your man by asking him to go prepare breakfast in bed for you?? Some stupid western fantasy Is it respect to sit while your man is sweeping the living room?? Strangely most of the stupid girls commenting here will go to their brothers house and if they see him scrubbing the toilet while his new wife is watching desperate housewives they will go ballistic hissing around the whole place and giving her hell. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by egopersonified(f): 11:37am On Jul 11, 2014 |
@Sophyrocks and Ngokafor, respect you guys, was afraid it would degenerate to one of those nl insults. Thanks for sharing. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by dhabeautyjas(f): 11:37am On Jul 11, 2014 |
GlorifiedTunde: *Please Don't Quote If You Can't Understand * you are one of the few men who are very realistic. the men those days have full housewives, they solely provide for the family making them tired by the time they are back and the woman has all the time to do the chores. but now so many things have changed. some women leave their houses by 6 and return 6 and in case of lag some 8 or 9, and u are both tired, she still has to enter kitchen and do all the work and u still want her to satisfy ur room desires, how can? some funny men will even tell you they want fresh food. i laugh in hindi 7 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by akiOYIBO: 11:44am On Jul 11, 2014 |
my job is to make money and children...kpom |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 11:47am On Jul 11, 2014 |
hahaha, we wont keep running home,unless you sustain it, lol..... Ninapha: |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Nobody: 11:53am On Jul 11, 2014 |
egopersonified: @Sophyrocks and Ngokafor, respect you guys, was afraid it would degenerate to one of those nl insults. Thanks for sharing. Hey come on!! You are afraid of the regular E-war in Nairaland? You should have a tough skin for those. Could be fun sometimes. This discussion does not call for such so no worries. You are welcome. |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Longman313(m): 11:56am On Jul 11, 2014 |
atleast i use to help my dear sweep the sitting room during the weekend no big deal in dat |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by DEllaluv(f): 12:10pm On Jul 11, 2014 |
D way some men/boys dey sound 4 here,na wa o |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by dopedealer(m): 12:14pm On Jul 11, 2014 |
My friends always tell me that who ever I marry wuld be the most luckiest lady on earth! I love to work naturally and I don't see myself as a workerholic just that I am very organized and love to see my environment organized and well taken care off. In a family of 3 I am the 2nd born and do all the works in the house without calling on anybody to help. Some times they are forced to help me Bcus they feel the work is too much for me.. For me it makes me happy when I satisfy myself with the cleanings... I also cook well my friends prepare to buy stuffs for me to cook and we all eat than going to some eatery to waste funds... When I get married, I don't see anything changing other than my wife begging me not to do some work Bcus of what people would say... I rely don't care... All I want is a neat organized clean environment and I know how to fix this right on time... After all this work I give my self a special treat too...... I'm not asking for Ur likes but you can Like it if you Like how I like to work Happy Friday fellas! House cleaning tomorrow 12 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by GentleMimi: 12:17pm On Jul 11, 2014 |
fijiano202: fried fish is better ,try Pomo(kanda) or crayfish lolLWKM! Ahswsear,no be lie. smartchoice:Tatafo. Evanscoth: [b][/b]And in a case where u have only male kids,are they gonna use fingers to destroy the anus? Or break the prick? 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Godmystrength: 12:37pm On Jul 11, 2014 |
GentleMimi:They might not do that o but what if the houseboy is gay? |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Ngokafor(f): 12:46pm On Jul 11, 2014 |
dopedealer: My friends always tell me that who ever I marry wuld be the most luckiest lady on earth! I love to work naturally and I don't see myself as a workerholic just that I am very organized and love to see my environment organized and well taken care off. In a family of 3 I am the 2nd born and do all the works in the house without calling on anybody to help. Some times they are forced to help me Bcus they feel the work is too much for me.. For me it makes me happy when I satisfy myself with the cleanings... I also cook well my friends prepare to buy stuffs for me to cook and we all eat than going to some eatery to waste funds... ...Your wife will be a lucky woman indeed!.. ..by the way, i loveee how you like to work not even like,my belle is doing tininitana!..hehe.. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Ngokafor(f): 12:49pm On Jul 11, 2014 |
egopersonified: @Sophyrocks and Ngokafor, respect you guys, was afraid it would degenerate to one of those nl insults. Thanks for sharing. ..Respect to you too babes..even thought i do not exactly agree with you..lol.. |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by Onegai(f): 12:50pm On Jul 11, 2014 |
GlorifiedTunde: *Please Don't Quote If You Can't Understand * Sir, please tell them. My dad would come home and pound yam for himself and my mum when they got married. My uncle can't let anyone clear his dishes after a meal. Both are amongst 2 of Nigeria's wealthiest men. One of my uncles said "when you see a man bossying his wife around, like a slave, it's poverty mentality. Because they are not used to having people help them so once they have someone under them, they try and subjugate them". Walai, it's true: my sis-in-law doesn't share our background and she's always rude to our helps. Same with one guy who was on my case. He was watching "Masterchef" but when I asked if he would make what he saw for me, he replied "never can I enter the kitchen, it's your job". Boys from good, upscale backgrounds have been trained to be polite to the staff because we know we're priviledged, not like jerks. Your manhood is intact if you help around the home you built and share with your wife! I don't get it, marriage is not a company, why do people like to be "in charge" of a marriage or be selfish 9 Likes |
Re: What To Do When Your Husband Won’t Help With House Chores by walearoy(m): 12:51pm On Jul 11, 2014 |
Kanwulia: Please, stop making them to feel 'all important'! Will you marry me? |
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