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How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by hizaya61(m): 9:45am On Jul 16, 2014 |
For many, finding that perfect someone is important. As humans we are born social beings keen to form all sorts of relationships with the people we meet. But being afraid of a romantic relationship is not something to be ashamed of. It happens, and it's understandable. Steps Stop Being Afraid of Romantic Relationships Step 1.jpg 1, Identify the cause of your fear Can you think back to when you first decided you were afraid of a relationship? Was it watching your parents fight? Was it seeing the aftermath of a bad relationship 2, Stop Being Afraid of Romantic Relationships Step Being afraid of a relationship DOES NOT mean there is something wrong with you. Inviting another person into your world is a big thing. It's natural to be scared of such a change to your personal life. 3, Stop Being Afraid of Romantic Relationships Be confident in yourself. If you truly want a relationship, you will be able to find one. But do not look down on yourself because you are afraid. Everyone is afraid of change. 4, Stop Being Afraid of Romantic Relationships Don't be impatient. Look not for a partner for the sake of having a partner. There is a distinct difference between finding a partner and finding someone who you wish would become your partner. That is, don't look for a relationship because you're the last one among your friends to have one, or you think at this age you should've at least had some dating experience. That's not true. Love should blossom from the connection that forms when you meet that someone, not because they answered your ad in the newspaper (albeit it's not as if that doesn't work). 5, Stop Being Afraid of Romantic Relationships But anyways... try not to despair or give up even if it doesn't come easy. Don't blame yourself if it doesn't come easy. Accept your feelings as natural and don't beat yourself up for them. Fear is a difficult thing to overcome, it takes time, introspection and work to face your fears and reduce them to a realistic level. Find someone to talk to about your fears, someone that you see as a mentor and are comfortable talking with. 6, Stop Being Afraid of Romantic Relationships Look at your reasons for your fear of romantic relationships. Take them apart into a list of separate reasons so you can handle each of them for what it is. Some situations don't lend themselves to romance. Choosing to wait for an external reason like "I want to get a job and build some financial security before settling down with someone" or "It would interfere with my studies, so I don't want to settle down till I finish college" is being sensible, not fearful. Choosing to wait "because I'm too shy to ask someone out" can lead to "so I should work on becoming less shy gradually and spend more time with friends, meet new friends and flirt without anything being serious until I'm comfortable with romance." Choosing to wait because you had a painful breakup too recently is applying common sense. You may be attracted to someone who's worse than your last partner if you jump right in on the rebound. If that's more than a year, it's time to think about overcoming that fear - but if it's very recent it's not an unusual thing to fear getting into a new relationship with the same old problems. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by Nobody: 10:10am On Jul 16, 2014 |
Hmmmmmm...I wish.. ..... |
Re: How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by hizaya61(m): 10:15am On Jul 16, 2014 |
Xtarxhyne: Hmmmmmm...I wish.. .....WAT HAPPEN ? |
Re: How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by Nobody: 10:22am On Jul 16, 2014 |
hizaya61:cnt identify d cause of ma fear |
Re: How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by MissSlimbody(f): 10:27am On Jul 16, 2014 |
Hmmmm! ℓ̊ really need help |
Re: How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by hizaya61(m): 10:31am On Jul 16, 2014 |
Xtarxhyne: cnt identify d cause of ma fearTHAT ALSO HAPPEN TO ME, BUT THEY HELP ME, I CAN ALSO HELP YOU |
Re: How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by hizaya61(m): 10:32am On Jul 16, 2014 |
MissSlimbody: Hmmmm! ℓ̊ really need helpI CAN HELP YOU IF YOU REALLY NEED HELP |
Re: How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by Nobody: 10:59am On Jul 16, 2014 |
hizaya61:tnx...i'll pass |
Re: How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by DrObum(m): 1:51pm On Jul 16, 2014 |
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Re: How To Stop Being Afraid Of Romantic Relationships by MissSlimbody(f): 2:10pm On Jul 16, 2014 |
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