1one:

So is using capital letter your attempt to prove you're equal to a man?

cococandy: The crap sold on NL
It's amazing.
Some will tell you it's a grand conspiracy against marriages worldwide

dhammyg:
GO AND CHECK ALL MY POSTS.MOST OF THE TIMES I WRITE IN CAPITAL LETTERS

Horlawoomey: Every Feminist is an Atheist, cos you can't hold the believe that is contrary to God's decree and think you believe in God. . . .

lulu69: @bukatyne - when you say I am mixing issues it will be preferred if you highlighted the aspect of my confusion by quoting a part of the article and proferring a solution or contrary view point. Don't just say ur observation without prof.

cococandy: Explain biko.

crackhaus:
For example, what has statements like "if a man
can cheat and be hailed for it, a woman should
also cheat and not be crucified for it" got to
do with equality?

CoachDX: Here comes the problem! Since she has gone through 'the same' process that made her man, then the man should recorgnize the equality? That's wrong! I think we shouldn't forget the culture that brought us here, the values that our woman seem to modify now. There's no theory that should support a woman not being submissive to her man. . .no theory should support gender equality in the home. That could be in the social sphere but not as a wife in the home. I've once said, if a woman claim to be equal to me as a 'modern wife'. . .it's simple, i will also share the bills into two equal part, she pays just as much as i pay. Now, what kind of a woman would want that in marriage.

You see, we can talk about gender equality outside there but when it comes to making a home and a lasting one in view, it doesn't apply. Responsible men wants no slave as a wife, some want no uneducated gender as a woman but claiming to have the same measure of rights with me? You'd better marry the process that made you think you're equal to me.

dhammyg:
GO AND CHECK ALL MY POSTS.MOST OF THE TIMES I WRITE IN CAPITAL LETTERS

tatiana009:

Actually that already applies in a lot of homes, a lot of women pay half the bills. In fact in some homes women pay a higher percentage of the bills. We have more home these days where the wife is te primary breadwinner.

dhammyg:
FEMINISM STARTED WAY BACK IN THE 19TH CENTURY BY THOSE DEMANDING 4 SUFFRAGE FOR WOMEN.AND YES 1 IN 3 WOMEN WILL BE SEXUALLY ABUSED IN THEIR LIFETIME.SO PLS DO UR RESEARCH B4 U TALK.

AND MEN STILL EARN MORE THAN WOMEN EVEN WHEN WOMEN WORK THE SAME TIME AS THEM.AND WOMEN ARE STILL REGARDED AS INFERIOR IN MANY SOCIETIES!!!!

1one:

So is using capital letters your attempt to prove you're equal to a man?

Tallesty1: She believed those lies

CoachDX:
In as much as i agree with you, that was never sponsored by a claim of being equal in the home. . .just a phase they're going through you know.

dhammyg:
DUDE.GO AND DO A RESEARCH THESE ARE NOT LIES.
BYE

4tunebest:

Honestly, you can say that again. I wonder how being a modern wife translates to being a feminist. Are all modern women feminists?Aren't there modern women who easily submit to their husbands? Submission from a wife can only be EARNED, It can't be forced. Even if you force submission out of a woman, it won't last.

A real man earns the submission of his wife, so she finds it easy to submit to him. Only a weakling tries to force submission out of his wife. Such weaklings aren't deserving of being called the head of a home

Tallesty1: I said. You can dig deep too if you wana know. You don't expect them to openly declare themselves lesbians at the initial stage knowing full the punishment that awaits them. It was in the second wave feminism movement that people started noticing them, they started showing therselves gradually because they have gained a little ground. The first wave feminists were lesbians mostly. They used lies to actually trick straight women into adopting the lesbian lifestyle.

crackhaus:
I edited my first post already...but here it is:

do you know for a fact that that is a statement made by every equality activist or you read that from a few and used it to form your general impression of the others?

as regards sexual behaviour,I and a lot sensible women I know don't excuse promiscuity in men.and do not think promiscuity in women is the answer to that. Teaching sexual restraint to men as is taught to women from childhood is my idea of what a possible solution to that can be




Let me add others:
What has sharing chores or cooking based on who first got home got to do with equality?

really? This? I don't know how to address this but it is funny. Kind of. Let me reply with a question. So if a man doesn't help out at home even if he has more time on his hands it's ok because he's the head of the family and doing it for his family will mean ultimate demotion fom his throne? I don't even see what such a thing as this has to do with equality BTW. If two mature people can't work out a good living arrangement,maybe they shouldn't get married in the first place.

Why have African women converted the purpose of equality from being purely an economic and social movement which seeks equal opportunities and standing for both sexes into a fight for supremacy in the institution of marriage?

I think it is the men who do that more. Everytime equality is mentioned,you see them frothing and throwing fits as if the whole world should abandon something so noble because their insecurities makes them afraid of impending mutiny on their ships of which they are the captian . Not saying some women don't misunderstand and abuse/trivialize what equality stands for. But from my days on NL,it is the men who are more gulity of this. Most don't get that nobody is interested in ruining their marriages for them. But they insists that it is an anti-marriage movement. Insecurities



Was equality ever about marriage?

I didn't think so

And if African women now want to make it about marriage, why are these women still collecting bride price on their heads for marriage, which essentially by all economic definitions is buying and selling (purchase)?

women collect bride price? Or our fathers(MEN) do? Do you know how many women will vote against brideprice if it comes to voting? Ask questions

These women are paid for


do you now see why many women will vote against this if given a choice? You perform marriage rites according to your culture and it means to you that you've bought a human being. Many men think like this too and it reflects in the way they treat their wives. Which is what then brings the notion of power tussle in marriage. If y'all don't act like you bought your wives,your wives won't feel the need break free from such glorified slave positions. As long as the mindset remains that you bought your wives,y'all will keep treating them like they are beneath you and they'll keep revolting. And we'll keep having this arguments on nairaland

and want to come in to the marriage with an air of wanting marital equality (which in essence is competitiveness) ....so what gives?

your life partner is equal to you. Unless both of you aren't mature,there's nothing about equality that makes it competitiveness. It's about being as fair to the other as you'd want them to be to you.

tatiana009:

I was simply correcting the impression you gave earlier which made it seem as if women paying half the bills would be a new thing. It's not in all homes that it's just a phase, there are homes where from the beginning the wife earns more and takes care of a higher percentage of the bills and it remains like that. As for the topic, this issue has been over flogged, the dynamics of every marriage is different so let each couple decide on how they want to run things. If you're a woman who believes in equality simply marry a man who believes in the same ad vice versa.