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| Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 10:34am On Jul 19, 2014 |
This is in my opinion and a lot of people are going to come after me wit their 'holier than though load of crap' but here goes: What exactly is an extra marital affair? I tried to reason on the concept and something just clicked. They are not just a bunch of greedy, unsatisfied mofos willing to cheat on spouses. Unlike What we like to think, extra marital affair is s cry for help or a heads-up for the other partner. Before you go screaming, 'my husband is cheating on me' or 'I think my girlfriend is seeing someone else', how about you pause and think. You were lovey dovey for a reason, what has gone wrong? Is it the supposed person that he is cheating with or you that can't keep him faithful? It is so easy to put the blame on him/her when this comes into play. But shouldn't you just sit and wonder what you had done before anything else? Is he unhappy and found it somewhere else? Is she just trying to feel sexy with someone that's willing to tell her she is when you forget to? Does she feel neglected and leans towards a younger version of you? Extra marital affair is not a problem unless you make it so. It's a cry for help and it's high time you see it so, not for your sake but for his/hers. If he/she cheats, s/he is telling you something. Find out what it is and correct it instead of playing victim. You nag like a twisted beast... and u ask why he cheats. You dress like an old woman at your twenties.. and u ask why his eyes lingers at the bum in tight jeans. You wear baggy trousers and shirts and wonder why she smiles funnily at the dude in boot-cut and trainers. Like seriously! Playing victim is so dumb!!!! Unless he/she has a psychological problem or is just an olojukokoro, then you try and monitor his cheating and be abreast of it. Aside that, wandering eyes, is a defect, treat it as one!  Okay, now bring it on!  5 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 10:40am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Make I book space first. |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Acidosis(m): 10:43am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Mrs It-is-reasonable-to-cheat: Where did you get the inspiration for the gibberish you typed here? 9 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 10:43am On Jul 19, 2014 |
^^ yeyecious fellow! Acidosis, I meant teeo jor. Pele Akande. |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by dyttt: 10:45am On Jul 19, 2014 |
sighs i dont understand oooo |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Acidosis(m): 10:46am On Jul 19, 2014 |
shoefreak: ^^ yeyecious fellow!  |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 10:49am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Mister Ask-me-on-more-time. Cheating is allowed if your partner is bleeping up and he or she isn't repentant of it!!! Yes!! If s/he is an arse, and won't stop being an arse! Oh yea! Throw another guy/girl in her face!! Btw, what's your advice for d hussie of an unrepentant nagging wife? Wait it out, it's just a phase?! She is gonna kill him, if she doesn't stop!!! ? Let her see a fine chic in ur car a few times. Works like charm for someone who knows whts up. Acidosis: Mrs It-is-reasonable-to-cheat: 3 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by LordReed(m): 10:52am On Jul 19, 2014 |
@shoefreak Cry for help may be but tell me if you had shoes that are hurting your feet do you simply cry for help or do you take action to remove the shoes? 3 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 10:52am On Jul 19, 2014 |
shoefreak: ^^ yeyecious fellow!  |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Acidosis(m): 10:53am On Jul 19, 2014 |
shoefreak: ^^ yeyecious fellow! u know well oo |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Acidosis(m): 10:57am On Jul 19, 2014 |
shoefreak: Mister Ask-me-on-more-time. Cheating is allowed if your partner is bleeping up and he or she isn't repentant of it!!! Yes!! If s/he is an arse, and won't stop being an arse! Oh yea! Throw another guy/girl in her face!! Sure; I get the points. We call it 50-50. But saying a wife/girl can cheat because of boot-cut & trainers is ridiculous. If you dislike your bf's baggy trousers, get him a better one. |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 10:57am On Jul 19, 2014 |
LordReed: @shoefreak No, I buy d shoe that fits. And if it fits, and I know if walking around all day is gonna make my feet swell up thus cause discomfort, then I won't stay on my feet too long. Simple. You see, instead of walking around in the discomfort, I take a time out and let the flipping feet rest instead of complaining of how d shoe causes discomfort. You loved d damn shoe its y u bought it na. Right?! 3 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 10:58am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Acidosis:Hehehehe... or let him see u smack d bum of the guy with the cute jean at the jeans aisle. 2 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:00am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Okay... |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:03am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Hehehehe  Acidosis: teeo:  u still yeye...y u dey book space when u knw what u wanna say na. dyttt: sighsOf course you don't. **pulls her hair** read again. olubukato: Okay...**pours garri on his head** |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:06am On Jul 19, 2014 |
shoefreak: All these tales na just to cheat on me with teeo. God is watching you |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:08am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Teeo is super cute and cheat-worthy na. Amongst other ones... my ministry is moving na. Cheat wey I don cheat on you tey tey. U dey dia dey lament. Hian!!! **kisses teeo** Satan is watching you too... u never hear... olubukato: |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:10am On Jul 19, 2014 |
shoefreak: Teeo is super cute and cheat-worthy na. Amongst other ones... my ministry is moving na. Cheat wey I don cheat on you tey tey. U dey dia dey lament. Hian!!! chaiiii... ojigbigbi.....
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| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Acidosis(m): 11:10am On Jul 19, 2014 |
shoefreak: wetin u smoke dis morning sef? |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:14am On Jul 19, 2014 |
olubukato: Olubukato buka buka. She's still all yours |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:15am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Wet weed ni fa. That sh*t is sum'in else!!!! **puffs in his face** Acidosis: teeo:For where? I go lock u inside pit toilet now if u re not careful. I'm for a lot of people oooo. Public property and d highest bidder ni. Both of you! Stop derailing ooo! This thread is for cheaters and cheatees. I'm about to teach both of eem. |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:23am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Back to the matter. I don't think it's possible to grasp the reason why people cheat. A man could cheat on a totally perfect wife with a stupidly rude house girl. Most especially with men, the curse most men have( I have been warned to stop generalizing this issue) is our pen.is. I call it a head without a brain. If our heads(co.cks) had brains then most women would be happy. We tend not to think before we act. That's why some men do abominable acts all in the need to satisfy that head without brains. As for women, they cheat emotionally. Check every sane woman who cheats on her hubby there is something missing. She doesn't just cheat cause she wants money. It could be as a result of lack of emotional satisfaction and sexual content (most women would even live with this). Any man who cheats on his wife and uses the excuse of physical attraction is just looking for an excuse for the act that's not the true cause. Besides no be the same thing all those women get. Big booby, can he swallow everything at ones   7 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:24am On Jul 19, 2014 |
teeo: Bros mi, na ur woman o. 1 Like
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| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:30am On Jul 19, 2014 |
teeo: Back to the matter. I don't think it's possible to grasp the reason why people cheat. A man could cheat on a totally perfect wife with a stupidly rude house girl(she should get a house-boy). Most especially with men, the curse(blessing, we love the thing fa) most men have( I have been warned to stop generalizing this issue) is our pen.is. God bless me for you! olubukato:hian! I'm idopa's woman!!! Y'all are just borrow borrow una dey. Muhahahahaha. Chai...this sh*t is sum'in else **puffs** If u send me PM, I go swear for una! |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:33am On Jul 19, 2014 |
Port to where? You wan blow? I'm still gonna cut that thing off ya. Na eem dey make u do yanmayanma. **snaps finger at him** but, I fit lend you out sa, to the she with d biggest boob and deepest pocket. olubukato: |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by LordReed(m): 11:46am On Jul 19, 2014 |
shoefreak: Exactly. Though human beings are not shoes you can discard wily nily we both agree that that expensive shoe will not be so easily thrown away. What stops you from fixing the problem instead of "flashing" another person? 3 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by Nobody: 11:54am On Jul 19, 2014 |
LordReed: That's my point. To her, stop naggin!!! Or he will go wia dey don't nag To him, stop being a grumpy old man, or she will she will start visiting the Diesel' store more often than she should and it ain't cos she wanna buy a pair of jean. It's not the cheater that's to fix it alone, the cheatee to should also search him/herself. 5 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by JEITO: 12:10pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
Let me ask you @ OP Is suicide the solution to depression? 1 Like |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by 1one: 12:11pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
@OP I think I can relate with what you've said, It somewhat falls between one of the laws of physics-for every action, there must be an equal and opposite reaction.Consequently too, for every in-action, there's a somewhat equal and opposite reaction . All things being equal, it is fairly understandable when a man/woman cheats on their partner because of something the other party has done or not done, but the truth is some people don't need a "justifiable reason" to cheat, they just do anyways.Humans are inherently selfish and therefore just do somethings to satisfy "self". So I think that before you get into a relationship you should have made a personal commitment to yourself not to cheat on your partner, and this commitment or resolve shouldn't be a function of your partner's faithfulness or acts of love, kindness or any other noble character of theirs. It should be about you.... About you respecting yourself enough not to bring yourself to cheating on your partner because they've decided to be insensitive or indifferent to your needs. It should be about you being the more mature party, about choosing to be faithful because you're a faithful person indifferent to unfaithful circumstances that want to change you. 2 Likes |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by xtervaganza(m): 12:11pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
This post makes no sense to me Sha Its either u sink or swim with your partner..... And if all else fails Better go your seperate ways |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by KelvinGraphics(m): 12:59pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
olubukato: @Madam Shoefreak iam watching U too o |
| Re: Extra Marital Affairs: My Thoughts by HFOG(f): 2:00pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
JEITO: Let me ask you @ OPshoefreak: Two wrongs don't make a right. I'm wondering if you'll be able to say this if you've been the perfect wife and he cheats on you. Talking is cheap I dare say. But if indeed this is your persuasion then pls don't bother getting married. I just hope you're not cheating or planning to and simply trying to justify yourself. There is never a good reason to do a bad thing. |
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