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Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by nairalife2013(m): 5:26am On Jul 21, 2014 |
baby124:hahahahaha. May god help u. Desperate. I wish u knew who she is. She had better suitors than me. And she was only abt 23yrs or so then. She loved me beyond words, she believe i love her also. She believe in her self and her ability to tame me and get what she want. To her, i had an edge above all other men, tho i was younger and more social and extrovert. She hard love for me and all d attributes i need in a lady and she was extremely hard working academically- with all those attributes she was sure with her discerning mind that all she needed to have a perfect home was just, she told me much later, was just respect for her man and humilty in his presence. Now she controls my empire, like jack sparrow controls ship of the carrebean seas! God help u. Just live as u wish.its only desperate women that are meek and limitlesly humble. Am smiling to my self, as i visualize your awestruck countenance if i tell u what she was then at abt 18rs and what she is now at 27. She was desperate indeed. Continue leading tha life. itz yur life. There are those that get what they want. There others that get what they deserve while others get nothing. Itz yur life. |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by soonest(f): 5:40am On Jul 21, 2014 |
I don't doubt ur story one bit cos there's no 1 size that fits all. Life is a gamble. It paid well for her(ur wife) but for every 'her' that succeded there r a lot that regreted d decision to marry such a fellow nairalife2013: hahahahaha. May god help u. Desperate. I wish u knew who she is. She had better suitors than me. And she was only abt 23yrs or so then. She loved me beyond words, she believe i love her also. She believe in her self and her ability to tame me and get what she want. To her, i had an edge above all other men, tho i was younger and more social and extrovert. She hard love for me and all d attributes i need in a lady and she was extremely hard working academically- with all those attributes she was sure with her discerning mind that all she needed to have a perfect home was just, she told me much later, was just respect for her man and humilty in his presence. Now she controls my empire, like jack sparrow controls ship of the carrebean seas! God help u. Just live as u wish.its only desperate women that are meek and limitlesly humble. Am smiling to my self, as i visualize your awestruck countenance if i tell u what she was then at abt 18rs and what she is now at 27. She was desperate indeed. Continue leading tha life. itz yur life. There are those that get what they want. There others that get what they deserve while others get nothing. Itz yur life. 5 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by thorpido(m): 7:41am On Jul 21, 2014 |
nairalife2013: hahahahaha. May god help u. Desperate. I wish u knew who she is. She had better suitors than me. And she was only abt 23yrs or so then. She loved me beyond words, she believe i love her also. She believe in her self and her ability to tame me and get what she want. To her, i had an edge above all other men, tho i was younger and more social and extrovert. She hard love for me and all d attributes i need in a lady and she was extremely hard working academically- with all those attributes she was sure with her discerning mind that all she needed to have a perfect home was just, she told me much later, was just respect for her man and humilty in his presence. Now she controls my empire, like jack sparrow controls ship of the carrebean seas! God help u. Just live as u wish.its only desperate women that are meek and limitlesly humble. Am smiling to my self, as i visualize your awestruck countenance if i tell u what she was then at abt 18rs and what she is now at 27. She was desperate indeed. Continue leading tha life. itz yur life. There are those that get what they want. There others that get what they deserve while others get nothing. Itz yur life.The fact that your wife married you after that incident does not mean it was normal.Your wife made the choice that she found best for her. Do you realise there are women who are into sadomasochism?If your wife grew up in an environment where she got beaten often or even saw her father beat her mother,she would accept beatings as normal.Maybe that's why she married you after that incident. I wouldn't advice any lady to continue a relationship with a man who hits her like you did. Don't feel cool with what you did. 4 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by jessybarbie(f): 7:42am On Jul 21, 2014 |
RoyalRoy: Jessybarbie..... I see you reading this right now!!! We were arguing about a lot of things and exchanging insulting words. I sat on a chair he wanted to use and refused to get up, that's when he did it. |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by thorpido(m): 7:49am On Jul 21, 2014 |
jessybarbie:Two of you get stubbornness.You both might not make a good couple except you are both willing to reform. 2 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by dazzlingd(m): 8:15am On Jul 21, 2014 |
soonest: theLORDreigns: To say u two will make terrible lawyers will be an understatement.....self defence is wen some1 is trying to hurt u and u defend ursef from getting hurt. This case is different and it's pure violence and retaliation, the retaliation in this case is opposite of self defence as it cud ve provoked the gentle man to respond again and cause her more deadly injuries. My advice to u, take it or leave it; wen a guy hits u once and stop, don't ever respond and hit back cus u may not be as lucky as dis lady to meet a gentle man who will not respond, then u will learn how self defence differs from violence. 5 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 8:19am On Jul 21, 2014 |
jessybarbie: Jessybarbie, under no circumstances is it justifiable for a man to hit a woman or vise versa! Stop trying to make excuses on his behalf. #realmen are not scarce! 3 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 8:22am On Jul 21, 2014 |
soonest: I don't doubt ur story one bit cos there's no 1 size that fits all. Life is a gamble. It paid well for her(ur wife) but for every 'her' that succeded there r a lot that regreted d decision to marry such a fellow So true. 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by shizzleStar: 8:28am On Jul 21, 2014 |
jessybarbie:A ship cannot have 2 captains at the same time, one of you should have backed down from the argument, and that person should have been you, unnecessary ego at play. Then you screwed up finally by refusing to get up from the chair he wanted to use, unto say you be 'ana apa ana apa' (you are a mountain that cannot be moved). You jessybarbie, have serious issues of your own. In other words you need to work on yourself too. Oh well, my earlier comment remains valid however! The fact that you retaliated also shows you are violent and should equally be dreaded, both of you are guilty of one and same offence. EOD! 6 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 8:36am On Jul 21, 2014 |
dazzlingd: Your opinion... Battered woman defense My advice to u, take it or leave it; wen a guy hits u once and stop, don't ever respond and hit back cus u may not be as lucky as dis lady to meet a gentle man who will not respond, then u will learn how self defence differs from violence. My advice to u, take it or leave it; when you hit your girlfriend once and stop, don't ever expect her to sit back & take it quietly cuz u may not be as lucky as dis guy to meet a loving woman who will not stab you with a knife, then u will learn how hitting a woman differs from correcting her in love. 3 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by dazzlingd(m): 9:02am On Jul 21, 2014 |
theLORDreigns:Quite an impressive recommendation, @op, u now have an option to weigh the two different views and choose....my recommendation; never retaliate...thelordreigns: use a knife to stab him next time Lastbullet: I have class and taste of girls I go for not heavy weight street champions neither will I raise my hands on my innocent damsel 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 9:08am On Jul 21, 2014 |
dazzlingd: Show me where I supported her retaliation. ...thelordreigns: use a knife to stab him next time ...dazzlingd: slap her next time Lastbullet: I have class and taste of guys I go for not tout street champions neither will I stab my handsome knight in shiny armour. 3 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by shizzleStar: 9:09am On Jul 21, 2014 |
theLORDreigns:Anything to justify a fellow woman's irrational behaviour, just anything, ohhh feminism! *sighs* ok, what says you about this senseless rudeness, arrogance and stubbornness displayed by the op? Mind you, the argument didn't fetch her the slap, but this, as she confessed below jessybarbie:All i see written over your comments is feminism, i am yet to see where you reprimanded the op for refusing to get up from the chair her bf obviously wanted to use for some silly reasons, which led to all these, will saying the truth stop you from being a woman?, even the Lord preached respect, but with your comment which lacks fair judgement and one wonders if truly theLORDreigns in your biased comment 3 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 9:16am On Jul 21, 2014 |
shizzleStar: Look for this post below; theLORDreigns: |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by shizzleStar: 9:47am On Jul 21, 2014 |
theLORDreigns:ok that was the retaliation part, i was talking about her refusal to get up from the chair, anyway let me guess your opinion on that would be that she should have simply got up for her bf to use the chair and guess what VOILA! all these nonsense and thread would have been avoided. Nuff said! |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by TV01(m): 10:14am On Jul 21, 2014 |
jessybarbie: Before now, I have already made up my mind not to have anything to do with any man that lays his hand on me and he knows this.I have being dating him for two years now and just in the middle of a big quarrel two days ago he slapped me. I reacted immediately and hit him as much as I could but he did not retaliate but felt really bad and started begging me immediately to forgive him. I’m no there to proffer advice, to be honest, I’m here to stir, so best ignore me. So, you took an oath – never to have anything to do with a man that “lays his hands on you” Then, “he laid hands on you” – and he knew about your oath. You then swore that “it was over between you” You are now here asking for advice about what to do. Well it’s good that I’m not here to give advice, as none is necessary. He runs the relationship, you’ll do whatever he wants. TV |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by dazzlingd(m): 10:15am On Jul 21, 2014 |
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Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by dazzlingd(m): 10:16am On Jul 21, 2014 |
theLORDreigns: Lol, let not make d op feel bad like she's got a tout as bf or she's one hersef, nah nah..shi.t jst happens. Anyway back to mrs op, do u think u r d saint here?.. now this shall be ur bf's pt of view: I had a quarrel wit my gf I luv so much and she provoked me and I made a mistake I regret so much by hitting her, she retaliated by giving me d beating of my life. I forgave her and felt bad and begged for her forgiveness bt she refused to forgive me, pls advise on wat I sud do. Then friends shall be like: pls let her go ** bro, better b careful cus some ladies are dangerous and she can poison u or pour u acid to retaliate** she must lack forgiving spirit, pls let her go***hey boy, next time never hit ur gf no matter wat she does, but u both ve anger probs** Now I'm not trying to make u luk bad, but try to change ur orientation and see ursef as guilty as well, now go back to ur bf, get ur shi.t 2gda and solve ur personality and relationship probs 3 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 10:18am On Jul 21, 2014 |
shizzleStar: Don't confuse things, I'm not jessybarbie & my opinion about whether 'getting-off-the-seat' could have prevented that slap or not shouldn't count. It's not that simple when it comes to abusive partners. Anything else could have tripped (& can still trip) him off. For all we know, she may have been 'getting-off-seats' all through their two-year relationship. So telling her to continue 'walking on eggshells' in order to avoid abuse doesn't quite cut it. Both partners are/were wrong. However, she would never have 'defended herself' if he didn't hit her in the first place. He lacks self control & predictability. Saying they deserve each other just because she defended herself is like saying two wrongs make it right. Answer this: Would you have asked her to remain in this relationship if she told you that she quietly walked away without retaliation? 2 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Naavah(f): 10:30am On Jul 21, 2014 |
Op I don't av any advice to give, I just appreciate d way u replied to d slap. U get mind sha |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by crackhaus: 10:42am On Jul 21, 2014 |
theLORDreigns:Could you please elaborate more on this. |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 10:46am On Jul 21, 2014 |
Naavah: Op I don't av any advice to give, I just appreciate d way u replied to d slap. U get mind shaLol........I dey imagine am too. I no sure say I fit get that kind mind wey op gather o |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by apolonius(m): 10:48am On Jul 21, 2014 |
alutacontinua: An adult that slaps another sure has greater problems than is manifested in the 'slapping' symptom. More often than not,if the slapper is determined to recognize this and consciously try to work on the deeper infirmity that this act mirrors they should be fine. More importantly,many of us Naija men have this barbaric worldview from the wrong 'macho upbringing' that we had that unconsciously taught us that an animalistic physical expression of feelings is ok. It is an infirmity we all have except for people who have acknowledged the existence of this mental deformation and worked on it. If she loves him and he is consciously working on being better and saner,let her stay on. 4 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 10:48am On Jul 21, 2014 |
crackhaus: There is no justification for physical abuse irrespective of gender. Note: Jessybarbie reacted in self-defence. 5 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by shizzleStar: 10:49am On Jul 21, 2014 |
theLORDreigns:well surprisingly my advice will be that she remains in the relationship, who has never made a mistake before. The pont is both of them made mistakes, that he hit her does not necessarily make him terrible neither does it mean he is/will be a violent partner. Sometimes our emotions play a fast one on us and we make errors in utterances or actions that sooner had they been made, they become regrettable, and we bite ourselves for the poor sense of judgement and decision. You don't just condemn someone based on a singular bad act, forgetting the 2years of bliss or harmony they've enjoyed together. The bf emotions got the better of him, he immediately realised he acted badly and sought for forgiveness, she also should forgive and bury the hatchet. I insist that both of them can still function together as an item, a little adjustments here and there from both of them and they are good to go, after all if he is that bad, not sure their rship would have lasted this long. Nobody is perfect. 3 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by MadCow1: 10:52am On Jul 21, 2014 |
jessybarbie: Before now, I have already made up my mind not to have anything to do with any man that lays his hand on me and he knows this. I have being dating him for two years now and just in the middle of a big quarrel two days ago he slapped me. I reacted immediately and hit him as much as I could but he did not retaliate but felt really bad and started begging me immediately to forgive him. You slapped your Boyfriend.. And you are still Alive.. And can even see enough to be online.. You are not in the ICU... You are not in Cast-Bandage You should be giving testimony in church for the Lord delivering you from the valley of the shadow of death, cos many women who walked this same road before you are not here to day to give such a testimony. 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by shizzleStar: 10:57am On Jul 21, 2014 |
apolonius:GBAM! She too needs to do same, her defiance and irrational decision led to all these (she allowed the negative emotion from their argument) by refusing him to use the chair. They both need some emotional control upgrade 2 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by apolonius(m): 11:02am On Jul 21, 2014 |
shizzleStar: I agree with you. Well said and thanks! |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 11:02am On Jul 21, 2014 |
Zero tolerance for violence. If it were me, I would've walked outta of that one. Be careful, dear. 2 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by crackhaus: 11:04am On Jul 21, 2014 |
theLORDreigns:Yes, no justification for physical abuse. But is there no justification whatsoever in giving just one slap to someone who is in the wrong? |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 11:04am On Jul 21, 2014 |
shizzleStar: I appreciate your honesty. However, I feel remaining in this relationship would be 'settling' on her part because she had an expectation to never be hit by any man. That her boyfriend knew this only makes it seem like he deliberately dared to push her to an extreme. Now he knows her limit & her reaction-capability. If he was truly a genuine abuser, he has her right where he wants her to be & she's dancing to his tune. I pray there wouldn't be a next time but if I were her, I wouldn't bother waiting to find out. How much more would you advice that she lower her standards? Do we wait for a second slap? Jessybarbie, he doesn't respect you, just walk away... 3 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Slapped Me! by Nobody: 11:08am On Jul 21, 2014 |
crackhaus: I'm missing your point. Are you saying she deserved two (or more) slaps? 3 Likes |
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