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Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by solazo: 9:06pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
If there’s anything a man hates in his life, it’s a nagging wife. Please stop nagging. #MarriedWomen Your husband is not a ‘project’. He’s not yours to change or fix or mould. Please he is yours to love. #MarriedWomen A nagging wife is like water going drip-drip-drip on a rainy day. How can you keep her quiet? (Proverbs 27:15 GNB) #MarriedWomen Stop looking at your husband to be the one to make you happy. That’s actually your job, not his. #MarriedWomen A husband’s greatest need in this world of marriage is to be respected by his wife. #MarriedWomen When you give to your husband without expectations, then God somehow begins to meet your expectations. #MarriedWomen Your husband truly wants you to be happy but he really doesn’t want to be blamed when you’re not happy. #MarriedWomen Look in the mirror & learn to love what you see. A woman who loves her body takes care of it for her husband. Love your body. #MarriedWomen The successful mathematics in marriage is to give 100% and expect nothing in return. #MarriedWomen Stop expecting your husband to be what he’s not. Unmet expectations will be the greatest source of sorrow in your marriage. #MarriedWomen You have to make forgiveness a habit. In big things and in little things. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. #MarriedWomen I’m not sure your friends will give you objective advice about your husband. Why make them your counsellors. #MarriedWomen Try to overcome little annoyances, like when your husband leaves a wet towel on the bed. #MarriedWomen Men are not wired like women and your husband doesn’t even know he is being insensitive to your needs. Tell him nicely #MarriedWomen Stop saying “I will leave you one day” or “I want a divorce” whenever you quarrel. In the end it will backfire. #MarriedWomen Stop being so needy, it drains your husband. #MarriedWomen Never criticize your husband. It builds resentment in him. #MarriedWomen Why don’t you compliment your husband on what he does right rather than tear him down for what he does wrong? #MarriedWomen When your husband does something you appreciate, it’s nice to let him know. #MarriedWomen Do you realize that the more you try to force your husband to do something or restrict him, the more he’ll try to escape? #MarriedWomen Why do you even bother going through his text messages? There’s no need. Stop it. #MarriedWomen Your husband needs time to chill in his ‘man cave’. Please leave him alone. #MarriedWomen You may not understand why he loves to watch sports or violent movies. You don’t have to understand. Give him his space. #MarriedWomen Focus on what you love about your husband and please leave the rest. It’s not for you to change him, that’s God’s job. #MarriedWomen Make the bed. Thank you. #MarriedWomen If you try to control, restrict or cage your husband it will take away that ‘thing’ that makes him a man. He’s a free spirit. #MarriedWomen Speak clearly. You will be angry with your husband and he will have no idea of what he said or did to annoy you. #MarriedWomen Don’t walk away after you’ve spoken your mind to your husband. He will hold it against you and bring it up later. #MarriedWomen Don’t give your husband the ‘cold shoulder treatment’. He will escape from home. #MarriedWomen Stop waiting for your husband to arrange a date or give you what you want, take responsibility and create it yourself. #MarriedWomen Criticism and control will only make your husband shut you out. #MarriedWomen Sex is a core need for your husband. It anchors his soul to yours. #MarriedWomen Frequent meaningful physical intimacy is what connects your husband’s heart to yours. #MarriedWomen Pet your husband. Massage his shoulders. Give him a manicure. #MarriedWomen If you shut your husband away from physical intimacy then you’ve cut off his most important connection to you in his world. #MarriedWomen You have to love your husband even when he is unlovable. #MarriedWomen Serve your husband even when it seems he doesn’t appreciate your service. #MarriedWomen Be sensitive to your husband’s physical needs even when you’re tired. You can do all things thro’ Christ who strengthens you. #MarriedWomen Please stop airing your dirty laundry in public. Your husband just hates it #MarriedWomen Teach your children to respect their father. Make them see him as a hero. #MarriedWomen Please make your house a welcoming home. #MarriedWomen This night out thing with the ‘girls’ is really a risky thing you’re doing. #MarriedWomen Protect your husband. There are she-wolves out there. #MarriedWomen Do all things without grumbling and complaining. #MarriedWomen It’s not nice when your husband is the subject of your girlfriend’s gossip and petty quarrels. He’s a man. Protect him. #MarriedWomen Pick your battles. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t fight over little matters. You only stress yourself out. #MarriedWomen Be very careful about reading romance novels. They give you a false illusion of life. #MarriedWomen Please stop comparing your husband with anyone else’s. Do you know how they live? #MarriedWomen Accept your husband for what he is and not what you want him to be. #MarriedWomen Source : Twitter @drtonyrapu 2 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by solazo: 9:31pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Last week was for #MarriedMen I will be posting a new series of tweets on #MarriedMen from 3pm today Sunday 13th. Stay tuned. When you marry, you’ve entered something that was invented by God. #MarriedMen Tell your wife “thank you” for all the cooking, washing, cleaning and even making the bed. #MarriedMen Why not take some of the heavy load your wife is carrying off her shoulders. #MarriedMen If you’re determined to run marriage your own way, you’ll be in trouble because marriage is God’s idea. #MarriedMen It was not the ‘village elders’ who came up with marriage. It was God. He Himself officiated at the first wedding. #MarriedMen Once you’re married you’re married. #MarriedMen Your wife has to take priority above work and business and pleasure. #MarriedMen Your wife has the power to set the direction of your entire life. #MarriedMen If your marriage is strong, even with trouble all around you, it won’t matter. You will be able to move out in strength. #MarriedMen If your marriage is messed up and everything else is great, it won’t matter. You will be moving out in weakness. #MarriedMen Your wife’s words are so powerful she can actually overturn negative things said about you. #MarriedMen The love and affirmation of your wife has the power to heal many of your deepest wounds. #MarriedMen If all in the world say you’re ugly but your wife says you’re beautiful, you’ll feel beautiful. #MarriedMen Stop complaining about your wife to your mother. #MarriedMen Conflicts in marriage are inevitable. Resolving them is a part of the process of bonding with your wife.#MarriedMen Be the man. The #MarriedMan Talk to your wife. #MarriedMen Make eye contact with your wife. #MarriedMen Let your wife talk. #MarriedMen Sit down and listen to your wife. Just listen. #MarriedMen Saying “I love you” to your wife is good, but showing it is even better. #MarriedMen Remember love is not just what you say, it’s what you do. #MarriedMen To your wife, a kiss actually says more than a 1000 “I love you’s “.#MarriedMen Stop taking out your frustrations on your wife. #MarriedMen Stop dumping your work issues and problems on your wife at night. #MarriedMen Speak to your wife as your equal. #MarriedMen Please treat your wife with some respect. #MarriedMen Brag about your wife in public. #MarriedMen Your wife is not inferior and should not be made to feel so. #MarriedMen Please leave your parents out of your marriage. She didn’t marry your father. #MarriedMen Treating your wife as the ‘weaker vessel’ does not mean treating her as an inferior vessel. #MarriedMen The bible says your prayers will be bouncing back from the ceiling when you don’t treat your wife with respect (1 Peter 3:7) #MarriedMen If you use all the water in the tank and leave none for her, that’s not love. #MarriedMen Enjoy life with your wife. #MarriedMen Sacrifice a football game to go to an event that your wife enjoys. #MarriedMen Spend a weekend at a hotel with your wife. #MarriedMen Stop shouting at your wife. She can hear you. #MarriedMen Be a spiritual leader not a spiritual dominator. #MarriedMen Submission from your wife is easier when the one she is submitting to loves her enough to sacrifice his life for her. #MarriedMen To keep bringing up old issues of what your wife did in the past is not loving as Christ loved. #MarriedMen The man is the head of the house but Christ is the head of the man. #MarriedMen We’re told to love our wives as Christ loves the Church. He gave Himself. Give yourself to your wife. #MarriedMen Stop saying” you’re always” or” you never”. It comes out as judgmental and condemning. #MarriedMen Remember you said “until death do us part”. God doesn’t take that lightly. #MarriedMen Stop acting like a paramount ruler or village chief. You’re still a husband #MarriedMen Adultery of the heart is one of the most common problems among #MarriedMen. You can’t lead your wife anywhere you yourself haven’t been. #MarriedMen You can’t expect to lead your wife spiritually if you’re not pursuing God yourself. #MarriedMen Grab your wife’s hand and ask her how you can pray for her. #MarriedMen Read a book together with your wife. A book in the bible is a good idea. #MarriedMen Stop flirting with your wife’s girlfriends. #MarriedMen Find a pet name for your wife. Honey. Sweetheart. Baby. Darling. #MarriedMen Don’t call your wife mummy. She is not your mum. #MarriedMen Wash the dishes for your wife sometimes. #MarriedMen Look into your wife’s eyes. #MarriedMen Make your wife happy. If she’s happy, you will be happy. #MarriedMen Greet your wife first before you greet the children. #MarriedMen Stroke your wife’s hair. #MarriedMen Leave your mobile phone and bond with your wife. #MarriedMen Intimacy goes beyond sexuality. #MarriedMen Your wife is “fearfully and wonderfully made”. Learn some anatomy and even physiology. #MarriedMen Hold hands with your wife. Rub her shoulders. #MarriedMen Learn how to agree to disagree with your wife. #MarriedMen No two people will ever agree on everything. It’s ok. Have guidelines for managing conflict with your wife. #MarriedMen Stop fighting with your wife over money. #MarriedMen Don’t resent your wife’s family. #MarriedMen Respect your wife’s father. He brought her up. #MarriedMen Your wife wants her feelings to be understood. #MarriedMen Don’t rush to try and fix your wife’s problems. Listen to her first. #MarriedMen Consult with your wife before you make those big decisions. #MarriedMen Discuss with your wife before you make expensive purchases. #MarriedMen Understand what your wife means when she says, “Don’t touch me at night if you didn’t speak to me during the day”. #MarriedMen Your wife really wants to connect with you. #MarriedMen ‘Chase’ your wife again. #MarriedMen Why are you so stressed out? #MarriedMen Working on your marriage is also the man’s job. #MarriedMen Don’t be lazy with your love for your wife. #MarriedMen 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by cococandy(f): 9:42pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Crackhaus. Oya come and read. Is he still a women's pastor? |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by bukatyne(f): 10:21pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
This Pastor is easier to listen to Maybe because he addresses both parties Editted: These posts look so gross on my laptop. Actually read them on my phone. OP please modify Tenk in advance |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Mamaflex(f): 12:49am On Jul 21, 2014 |
Hmmm! No be small something o |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Kanwulia: 2:45am On Jul 21, 2014 |
Looks good on paper! The preacher keeps PREACHING TO THE SNORING "KWAYA"! |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Nobody: 9:39am On Jul 21, 2014 |
i was so disappointed that some feminists and misandrists (note that i made a distinctinction b/w the two) were upset about what the pastor said. Many of them never knew the man did #marriedmen some days back. Even when it was pointed out to them that there was a #marriedmen too, they still found some weak arguement to against the pastor's tweets. |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by crackhaus: 9:47am On Jul 21, 2014 |
cococandy: Crackhaus.I have read it. Did you read it, and do you agree with everything 100%? |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by crackhaus: 10:21am On Jul 21, 2014 |
Over 130 views, I'm yet to see the females who pounced on the #marriedmen thread to give full their support here. Do you people agree with this as well? |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by cococandy(f): 10:46am On Jul 21, 2014 |
crackhaus:I agree with 95 percent. Not that the remaining 5 percent doesn't make sense,it does but I think he should have elaborated more on them as those points can be given loose meaning by mischievous dudes and might be used by abusers to perpetrate their evils. But taken alongside the ones for females,and if both parties are true to themselves,yes it does make a whole lot of sense |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by crackhaus: 10:54am On Jul 21, 2014 |
cococandy:I think you should agree with everything he said just as you agreed with everything he said to #marriedmen, don't you think so? |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by cococandy(f): 11:39am On Jul 21, 2014 |
@crackhaus. Here Ok I guess it's a lil' more than 5 percent solazo: If there’s anything a man hates in his life, it’s a nagging wife. Please stop nagging. #MarriedWomen |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Nobody: 12:14pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
cococandy: @crackhaus. I agree with you on what you agree with. All the same it was a nice post from the pastor. Now we are seeing posts addressing both married men and women. Most men did not agree with the one given to them. Instead they turned that thread to a war zone. It Shows Ego if not controlled, is a bad trait to have as a man and most men are not concerned with how well marriage goes. they believe the women should be in control of that yet they should still remain Heads of their homes. Pity. 2 Likes |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Nobody: 1:32pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
PT is still looking good and he is about 58. Anyway good advice. Marriage is not as complex as people make it sound. It all starts by loving yourself and understanding your spouse. Good advise PT. But the biggest thing women need to know is the respect part. It cannot be over-emphasized. |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by crackhaus: 3:00pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
cococandy: @crackhaus.Lol...you didn't need to do that, you miss the point. If you're allowed to disagree with some of these points just as most women will, why was it a big deal when some dudes disagreed with the male version? The point is only a man will understand that certain rules regarding men will not apply, just as it's only a woman that will understand that certain rules don't apply regarding them. C'est fini. 1 Like |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by crackhaus: 3:04pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:Here is my point being made again. Women are allowed to disagree with some of theirs but when the men disagreed with some of theirs, it became an ego problem? |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by cococandy(f): 3:21pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Well disagreeing with a few of his points would be understandable than disagreeing with all of them. So that was the issue. They didn't pick some and agree with some. They overlooked everything. Not my business though. I only did that cos you asked. crackhaus: |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by crackhaus: 3:24pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
cococandy: Well disagreeing with a few of his points would be understandable than disagreeing with all of them.Okay oo. |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by cococandy(f): 3:25pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Well disagreeing with a few of his points would be understandable than disagreeing with all of them. So that was the issue. They didn't pick some and agree with some. They overlooked everything. We are not even making fun of the pastor for trying to teach us. But you guys did in your own thread Not my business though. I only did that cos you asked. crackhaus: |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by bukatyne(f): 3:30pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Nashville: PT is still looking good and he is about 58. You and respect! I am sure the favorite colour of skirt on your wifey is 'red skirt!' LOL! @First bolded: 100%. I don't get all these scare tactics. How are you and family? |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by bukatyne(f): 3:34pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
@Cococandy: Totally agree with you But all in all, they are very good and helpful points for marriage. It now depend on both parties to adapt it to suit them. Will definitely be reading from time to time Nashville, want to discuss something with you but before then, do you and madam do joint account/project account? 1 Like |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Nobody: 3:36pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
crackhaus: Of course yes its an Ego problem. At least we women in this thread agreed with a lot of what was said here in the Op. But compare it with the reaction gotten from Men in the other thread. It was a war zone. You were even the first to counter the pastor. You mockingly called him a pastor for women. Come On!! Dnt pretend. you disagreed with absolutely everything that was said in that post for married men. Shows Ego will continue to be a Huge problem for you guys. You are all immune to counsel but want women to be counselled. Pffffft. 7 Likes |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by crackhaus: 3:45pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:This was my first comment on that thread: crackhaus: And this was my second comment in response to someone I quoted: crackhaus: So which of these directly or indirectly gives the notion that I was in disagreement with anything on that post for #marriedmen? |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Nobody: 3:53pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
crackhaus: That is exactly what im saying. You were mocking the pastor. If the post was indeed nice to you and you completely agreed with it, you could have just said so or perhaps gave some analyses number by number just as cococandy did in this thread and simply state which you agree or dnt agree with. Why the mocking then? Why make such references especially if you dnt know the pastor personally? 1 Like |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Nobody: 4:06pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
bukatyne: @Cococandy: Totally agree with you We had a joint account that is no longer functional. We kinda have different spending habits - me I am a bit calculated in my spending and madam isn't used to that. Not saying I am Ijebu but I can be quite frugal with money. The important thing is to set clearly defined investment goals based on your incomes. Once you have those goals defined and you are meeting them - having a joint account or not isn't important. |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by bukatyne(f): 4:28pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
Nashville: Wanted to ask some questions about something Will send you a PM... sending it now Editted: Expecting your feedback |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Nobody: 4:36pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
bukatyne: @Cococandy: Totally agree with you If this isnt restricted to Nashvile I say Joint / Project account is good but depends on the couple. We had one even before we married because we knew the kind of life we wanted so a percentage of both incomes goes there and it helps us stay on track and disciplined, no way I can take money out for clothes and shoes, if we want a new car, we can decide what we want and how long we need to save for it. Its also good to have security money when health challenges or unforseen circumstances come its always good to know you have money you can count on |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by bukatyne(f): 4:47pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
aisha2: Thanks aisha2 I wanted to ask a specific question. On a second thought, will send you a PM later |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by UjSizzle(f): 4:51pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
I'm fine with everything but this "This night out thing with the ‘girls’ is really a risky thing you’re doing." Why is it ok to let him retreat to his man-cave(what's that btw?) and not ok for her to hangout with her girls? 1 Like |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by bukatyne(f): 4:52pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
UjSizzle: I'm fine with everything but this He is a man; you are a woman Deal with it |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by UjSizzle(f): 6:05pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
bukatyne: |
Re: Pastor Tony Rapu Shares Important Tips For Married Women by Nobody: 6:16pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
UjSizzle: I'm fine with everything but this Yea. I didnt notice the night out thing. Like really whats wrong with it? Hmm. That one doesnt go down well with me o. Sorry. A Night out with the girls will do some reaaaaaal good for a woman who has been exhausted and needs some 'ME' time or some bonding with the girls. Abeg o. |
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