okirewaju: That's serious

Am not sure the child knows how heavy does words are, they should let him know that they feel hurt by those words

When you discipline. A child with one hand, you draw him close with the other!

iwonbaoko: Funny psychobabble. This is what happens when kids have all their needs met and are encouraged to feel entitled about it.I don't bring kids into the world to like me or to be my friends. They are part of something called humanity and their duty is to contribute materially,intellectually and genetically. My duty is to prepare them for their duty. This whole business of "quality time and showing affection" is a post modern indulgence by people who do not understand anthropology ,their own society and are modelling their lives on western illusions.
We see them all the time; their parents bring them over from Nigeria every year on holiday and at a very young age they have already learnt to compare ; sneering at those who travel economy class or don't live in Lekki etc. Nasty individuals many of them and often lacking the basic etiquette that one expects from Nigerian kids. They cannot speak Nigerian languages and their English is often embarassing considering many attend schools costing millions yearly at primary level and yes many of them don't like their parents!!
Yes kids should be well nourished and kept safe and should be encouraged to have self esteem but there must be structure and boundaries. Parents should not be "needy" of their children's love or approval or get into any kind of emotional bargaining for this. They are CHILDREN.
I grew up with a friend who loved and was "loved" by his parents one of whom was a Minister. Their love meant he never lacked but he had no drive or hunger. At the time I thought I hated my father because he made us take public buses and he NEVER one day "dash" me money. Now I love him more than ever. Sadly my friend is an underachiever considering his very lofty background. Recently I visited their house which he inherited. Used to be a mansion but now it is a derelict wreck housing miscreants and he is a very bitter man. What is most important is that parent TALK to their children regularly so that when they are old it is not difficult to communicate. All this I HATE MY MOM stuff is rubbish.

Blackchampion: Obviously not a 9ja pikin

Ruq:

You can't really say, don't be so definite.

I meant it when I wrote in my book that they hate me I was a little older than he his, like you said don't go overboard when rebuking them, I was always met with maximum rebuking then and they never apologized. Madam I can tell you that I have enough rage in me that I can share with hundreds of people.

Parents don't really know what goes on in the minds of kids, I'm not saying dont strike or rebuke them, but strike the balance between love and discipline.

Only because I turnt out to be a rational being that makes me control the rage, sometimes I'm just glad I have the rage, I bet you don't know being angry sometimes make one angry.

Unknowingly they create monsters, and we wonder why they're serial killers.

lekinz: Carry am go shoprite

20pounds: Sell it(him?)!!!!

Get a pet that will love them instead.

repogirl: Kids never really mean what they say, the boy is just upset, he'll get over it soon enough but then parents shouldn't also provoke kids. Don't go overboard when punishing or rebuking them.

my five year old girl is always saying she wants God to take away her brother and send her another brother cos he destroys her stuff but leave them for a while and they'll begin playing as if nothing ever happened.

20pounds: Sell it(him?)!!!!

Get a pet that will love them instead.

tuffgongjo: Another walking ticking time bomb in the society.
I hope they start giving more attention to him.
Cus na from clap dance dey take start.

iwonbaoko: Quote I won't go so far such "feelings" are normal what is a problem is the filter process whereby one learns what one can and cannot say one one can and cannot do. It might surprise you to know that many children have urgs to "destroy" their younger siblings shortly after they are born but their is a filter process that stops that, What happens these days is kids say many of these supposedly "cute" things and their parents laugh nd so they are not getting the right feedback and so their filter mechanisms are distorted

tuffgongjo: maybe u need to pay more attention to her,read this book by sheldon sidney "master of the game"for some insight into how such behavior can turn real,not meaning bad thing ooo.

tuffgongjo: I hope the right steps are taken sha.
To avoid heartaches

repogirl: that one is fiction, I've read it and nothing like that happening here, she takes very good care of him sef and I make her understand that he's a baby, that's why he acts like that.

if I had a penny for every crazy thing my kids say.....

repogirl: Kids never really mean what they say, the boy is just upset, he'll get over it soon enough but then parents shouldn't also provoke kids. Don't go overboard when punishing or rebuking them.

my five year old girl is always saying she wants God to take away her brother and send her another brother cos he destroys her stuff but leave them for a while and they'll begin playing as if nothing ever happened.

romzyxy: pls just talk 2 him in a good manner.......he is a kid most tins he does is intentionally

GboyegaD:

That is very serious. It is time for them to check their parenting style and try get closer to the child but they should please not over pamper him.

abrahamolusoji:
As in- flog craze comot for i'm body