donpeey22: it depends on what u consider the RIGHT thing.

ebosse: God bless you for keeping it simple.. Some OP's will use about 20,000 words and 17 paragraphs to ask the same Q u just asked.



Back to the matter. There's nothing like the wrong 1 loving u right. If he/she is loving you right he/she's the right one.

The problem is most of us are afraid of love so we look for all sort of excuses to dump the right 1 when we notice we r falling in love.

U want a guy who don't smoke/drink, don't spend hours watching football or spend hours with friends, who don't get angry and uses profanities. If u see a guy like this he is either a pretender or a sadist (Not Mr Right).

Largas:
My brain controls me.
Not just my hormones.

Alishachris: when the guy does the right thing and says the right things, you have no choice but to fall. falling in love is an art. It takes the emotionally matured to avoid that scam. Peace.

Richy4: In my own case, I can't really differentiate between who loved me and who wants to get things from me

I believed so much in love because my Dad, (God bless and rest his soul) treated my mum right. I have tried doing the same but it's like pouring a bucket of water on bricks.
Some times I press a pulse button on emotional matters but still have to continue the trial and error. Expecially when you got a loving mum that does not disturb you about that but tells you " you know I am coming back from Kenny's traditional marriage before your call came through. Even next week is John's white wedding" you now increase the pace on which your heart work

Krystalxxx: These days....love to a naija guy only happens with some well rounded, very pretty, cute or assy girl. So called love only exists for certain people

Alishachris:

the right things are definite and they are universal bro. No matter where you come from, a woman must must always love a man with confidence, they are wired to do so from evolution

Liability: i heard people said this so many times but i still dont understand the meaning behind it.

I know i have loved someone that doesnt deserve me and i may have ignored some great guys who genuinely loved me.

How ironical. Sometimes we barely have control over our emotions, we easily fall in love without giving deep thought about the person we want to give our heart. But surprisingly we get disappointed, hurt, and heartbroken.

Life is cruel.

Guys and ladies, what can you say about this giving examples, possibly life experience to this issue.

Luckygurl: Irony of life.
But then, what makes someone the wrong person and why must the wrong person be the one loving aright.

Atimes, to me, it's a matter of not being contented with what we have, always on the lookout for options that appear more promising than what we've got at hand.
At other times, I'd say perhaps we're still on the move, in search of true happiness and thorough satisfaction.
Whatever the reason is, we've all got to thread with caution.

Liability: i know at some point in life i have made that same grave mistake. This is so strange to me.

iamtewwy: this might b off topic tho, but i have to du ds because it has been bothering me and giving me concerns am 21 and have not dated any gal before, my reason for not going into any relationship is dat,

1.) wat would i been gisting with this my gal: i see so many guys with there gals gisting and laffing on the road and am imaging wat are this guys talking abt, ok if i toast a gal der is an 80% chance that she might say yes!! but i dnt knw how i can keep the relationship to b lively, if mayb i went to visit her, wen we stay together what are we going to b talking abt, thats just my problem naw!! pls can any of u relationship gurus help me awt? or give me gist i can b gisting with these gal to keep my relationship lively, pls help me am seriousy in need of ur help tanx pls ignore how i typed this!!

holamiday: I'm currently in that situation right now. My lover in secondary school, 7 years ago, is still head over heels in love with me. She calls, tries to convince me we are meant to be, advises our other friends of the situation so they can talk to me and all that. She tells me how she's turned down myriads of proposals from other guys & that she's still a virgin all because of me. Sometimes she even cries on the phone saying i was her first love. It's obvious she still has those long forgotten feelings. She's a good girl & quite good-looking on every level.

The problem is i do not love her at all anymore. I have met people over the years, i've been to places & she's no longer my kind of girl. I feel so much pity for her & i call just so my conscience doesn't make me feel like a wicked person but i know i do not & cannot love her anymore. It's quite serious.

adexsimply: It doesn't really work that way. Except your family, loving a soul is not meant to be easy and reciprocated. We all have different tastes, expectations, and preferences.
There's one thing I've noticed though, if you spend much time in someone's company, you both start nursing some deep feelings for each other. I don't know if the feeling is love or just...

donpeey22: So, going by your definition, the only quality women like is confidence? Need i remind you that countless number of confident guys have had their love advances turned down by ladies.

Richy4: In my own case, I can't really differentiate between who loved me and who wants to get things from me

I believed so much in love because my Dad, (God bless and rest his soul) treated my mum right. I have tried doing the same but it's like pouring a bucket of water on bricks.
Some times I press a pulse button on emotional matters but still have to continue the trial and error. Expecially when you got a loving mum that does not disturb you about that but tells you " you know I am coming back from Kenny's traditional marriage before your call came through. Even next week is John's white wedding" you now increase the pace on which your heart work

holamiday: I'm currently in that situation right now. My lover in secondary school, 7 years ago, is still head over heels in love with me. She calls, tries to convince me we are meant to be, advises our other friends of the situation so they can talk to me and all that. She tells me how she's turned down myriads of proposals from other guys & that she's still a virgin all because of me. Sometimes she even cries on the phone saying i was her first love. It's obvious she still has those long forgotten feelings. She's a good girl & quite good-looking on every level.

The problem is i do not love her at all anymore. I have met people over the years, i've been to places & she's no longer my kind of girl. I feel so much pity for her & i call just so my conscience doesn't make me feel like a wicked person but i know i do not & cannot love her anymore. It's quite serious.

DestinedSharon:
maybe U havn't fallen in love for the first time... I guess

onstelly: Love is just too complicated but sometimes we can't just control how we feel, but when someone loves you right does that make him/her the right person? I doubt

Luckygurl: Irony of life.
But then, what makes someone the wrong person and why must the wrong person be the one loving aright.

Atimes, to me, it's a matter of not being contented with what we have, always on the lookout for options that appear more promising than what we've got at hand.
At other times, I'd say perhaps we're still on the move, in search of true happiness and thorough satisfaction.
Whatever the reason is, we've all got to thread with caution.

fubbyy: and these days .... Love to a naija girl only happens when the guy's bank account is fat and shapeless

ihedinobi2:
Why do you doubt?

Nothing complicated about Love. It's a choice to look out for someone else's interest even at the expense of your own. What's complicated about that?

onstelly:
Even @ your own expense yet the person doesn't even knw you exist and u said it isn't complicated, I see

Alishachris:

its not the only quality! I just pointed one out for you. its a couldron of qualities bro, its an art nad like everyother art requires some form of mastery before the final masterpiece is executed

ihedinobi2:
Does it make sense to make investments like that? Or don't you consider yourself an investment? You offer yourself and walk away if you are rejected. You don't stick around pining. Love is not about wasting yourself.