saponification: Honestly yes.been married for 6 yrs wit 2 lovely kids.initially I thanked God everyday dat I married my hubby(we dated from our 200 level in uni).but my once lovin hubby hav changed since he travelled abroad n started makin money(had nothin when I married himy.he kills me emotionally everday wit d hurtful tins he tells me over d phone.as I write dis now,my eyes r swollen from cryin as a result of d hurtful tins he told me yesterday.so at times I wish I had married someone else.but then the big question is would dat someone else'been better?anyway its only a wish cos despite everytin he's been doin 2 me, I still luv him so so much n dat is what pains me most.(My inability to stop lovin a hubby dat is causin me so much emotional pains)

I am very sorry.

Please, find a way to be happy again. Life is too short.

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Please you need to sort out issues with yr hubby, dont just sit and watch, they would only get worse. If at a gridlock, maybe open a thread where you can get reasonable advice. Dont give up yet. All the best.

How is that relevant to your making a right and happy choice?

saponification: Honestly yes.been married for 6 yrs wit 2 lovely kids.initially I thanked God everyday dat I married my hubby(we dated from our 200 level in uni).but my once lovin hubby hav changed since he travelled abroad n started makin money(had nothin when I married himy.he kills me emotionally everday wit d hurtful tins he tells me over d phone.as I write dis now,my eyes r swollen from cryin as a result of d hurtful tins he told me yesterday.so at times I wish I had married someone else.but then the big question is would dat someone else'been better?anyway its only a wish cos despite everytin he's been doin 2 me, I still luv him so so much n dat is what pains me most.(My inability to stop lovin a hubby dat is causin me so much emotional pains)

Does he still carter for you financially?

saponification: Honestly yes.been married for 6 yrs wit 2 lovely kids.initially I thanked God everyday dat I married my hubby(we dated from our 200 level in uni).but my once lovin hubby hav changed since he travelled abroad n started makin money(had nothin when I married himy.he kills me emotionally everday wit d hurtful tins he tells me over d phone.as I write dis now,my eyes r swollen from cryin as a result of d hurtful tins he told me yesterday.so at times I wish I had married someone else.but then the big question is would dat someone else'been better?anyway its only a wish cos despite everytin he's been doin 2 me, I still luv him so so much n dat is what pains me most.(My inability to stop lovin a hubby dat is causin me so much emotional pains)

Why is he doing that?
have you spoken to him about it and how hos actions are affecting you?
Does he realise that when you are unhappy, that you will be unable to give the best care to his children?
You need to speak to him about it and find out why he is doing this to you.
He may be under imense pressure himself (no excuse) but know ing the cause will help you both to address things and seek a solution.

Larrysky: Not yet married but scared i might loose it on the way. Fear of getting bored

Lol! You can never get bored o. When the kids are there? When u have to argue, disagree to agree with your partner? And God forbid, you enter one chance, you will hav lots of blows to contend with. Lots of hubby's gfs to keep tabs on or enough fasting and prayer sessions for you. Not boredom o, far from it

Tenderlover: No No, my hubby complements me. Five years down the line and I am glad I said Yes to him. He is not perfect though and neither I my but I love the way he loves me.

Ma'am so the thought of how it would be with someone else has never crossed your mind evn for a second

chaircover:
Why is he doing that?
have you spoken to him about it and how hos actions are affecting you?
Does he realise that when you are unhappy, that you will be unable to give the best care to his children?
You need to speak to him about it and find out why he is doing this to you.
He may be under imense pressure himself (no excuse) but know ing the cause will help you both to address things and seek a solution.

chaircover:
Why is he doing that?
have you spoken to him about it and how hos actions are affecting you?
Does he realise that when you are unhappy, that you will be unable to give the best care to his children?
You need to speak to him about it and find out why he is doing this to you.
He may be under imense pressure himself (no excuse) but know ing the cause will help you both to address things and seek a solution.

. Thanks.we've talked about it severally n it has to do wit issues he had wit my brother in d past n he felt I supported my bro.I've tried to convince him severally to no avail.someone asked if he is still takin care of us financially,yes he still does.sends upkeep money montly..I will make out time to open a thred on my issue like someone suggested.maybe I will get helpful suggestions.my first comment on dis topic is my 1st time on nairaland.thanks so much everyone for caring.it means so much to me.

angiemartinez: honestly d last issue btw my hubby n i makes me ponder on many things. i was convinced i made a mistake marryn him and regrets sets in. buh wen i brought d iss here and so many people adviced me and i started WORKING on my marriage, its been fun after then. just hope it continues sha.

it will definitely continue

cutiemoi:


Ma'am so the thought of how it would be with someone else has never crossed your mind evn for a second

lol,why is ur head hot? Honestly out of the few guys I dated ,he is outstanding. He is my best frnd. If only u will know him a bit,u will understand because he is simply amazing. There is no perfect couple or union that I know.

Personally I feel it all depends on the "GodFactor". Everyone is scared of it. The word "marriage" scares everyone because of the daily experiences we see from others close to us friends, family, neighbours etc.
Love is never enuf when it comes to marriage it takes you to Love God and obey him to be able to sustain ur marriage. For example: we all know God is against hitting ur wife. If ur love for God is so strong and ur close to him, even if ur wife is annoying u to that point u can't control urself, u will be calm and patient. God help us all.

The thought that crosses my mind mind is why the thought of being with another woman never crosses my mind. My wife has become a part of me so it feels odd to even think about being with someone else. It is simply an alien thought.

In good times no. In bad times yes.