Vivly: Why is nobody telling the Op to discipline the girl?
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child but the rod of correction drives it away.

Abatemtem: I think it's due to over pampering from her dad(just assuming that's the case).I think it's time to show her who's the boss here!handle her in a strict manner."Strike d iron while it's still hot". If na Dstv u dey use,remuv d card whenever u r goin out, nd if na dvd player,keep d cords or d player itself nd dnt giv her money to buy junks outside. Might work out

SAMBARRY: Kanwulia
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Great God
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god my strength

your attention is needed here

akitijackson: she's 19

Kanwulia:

You nor wan help?
You know I only like MAN-WOMAN wahala ke!
This "sister" mess I can understand.
No hopes for the girl.

The reason I WILL ALWAYS SAY PEOPLE SHOULD NOT RE-MARRY WHEN THEY HAVE CHILDREN TO RAISE!

While their father is busy satisfying his blokos, the children are left to raise themselves!
There is nothing the OP can do. He needs to face his life! PERIOD!

akitijackson: My younger sis who jst completed her exams came over finally to stay with me. She's my only sis, we lost our mum some years back and since then she has been living wth our step mum in another city because of schl. Now she's done wif secondary schl nd now stays with me at home.
Since she came, it has been from one quarrel to another. I can't even correct her because she jst returns it wif insults. Somtyms I go to schl only to come back to see a very unkempt house. She rarely wash d dishes, all she does is to sit nd watch movies frm mornin till night. I dnt even hav any1 to call to report her. I can't call my step mum because she'll jst use that to insult her. If I call my dad, it wnt even help.
I'm thinking of moving to the other room because I can't jst keep up with d disrespect and her dirty nature. It pains me to c my own sis growin to bcom somtin else. Sooner or later, I knw she'll bcom out of hand. She doesn't even cook, all she does it to drink tea always.
Pls I need advice on how to tacle dis issue. She's d only sibling I have. My step mum doesn't even hav a child for my dad so I dnt hav any1 apart frm her nd she's very stubborn. I dnt knw if she needs spiritual help, I'll be ready to take her for deliverance.

uglyogre: madam iwakolewa has said it all. who knows what you could have done to the girl to loose all iota of respect from her.This is just a one-sided story.Besides violence wouldn't solve anything but rather beget more violence. C'mon, this is your sister we're talking about here. Talk, reason and listen to her.

Vivly: Why is nobody telling the Op to discipline the girl?
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child but the rod of correction drives it away.

uglyogre:
Typical nigerian mentality. You are so nigerian

akitijackson: can u tell me hw dis is a one sided story? I dnt disrespect myself, neither do I do tins dat will make her disrespect me. Maybe its because I'm too jovial. If it's a bf issue, I'm old enough to hav a bf. When she was arriving home, it was my bf nd I dat even picked her frm d park. Is dat enough reason for her to be so spoilt?

Abatemtem: lol...one funny bt true thing is that all this type of problem usually starts when she gets too much of attention from guys

Chubhie: Then I suggest she be taken to a hospital and watch live the whole process of abortion or some youtube videos on abortion. The idea is not to bully her into submission but to give her a better perspective on the nature of things. Common she's only a kid whitewash her positively psychologically. There are always better cutting edge means of doing stuffs.

balamz: At 19, her eye go don open and I suggest you do the following:
1 Explain to her the bad side of having a boyfriend I.e distraction from achieving her goals in life.
2 Tell her nobody would help her in hard times except her family, which is you.
3 Tell her nobody cares about her in the whole wide world except you, if she want to know the truth. Let her shock the dude with news of her being pregnant and she would see how the dude would run like a rat into the hole to hide.
4. Show her more love, care and attention. Don't be strict on her or else she would turn her back against you.
5. Give her reason to be more focus in life instead of watching tv. Dstv is just an entertainment. The actors she sees on tv are living a fake life. Example: Nobody knew jim lyke had a problem going by what we see on tv.
6. In times of cooking, you can joking tell her to come and see how food is being made, then from time to time you can use tricks on her to start cooking maybe from boiling of rice to stew and so on.
7. in times of cleaning the house, you can tell her to sweep only a small proportion and always use the word "abeg help me" because she may see its as a form of help not command and as time goes on she would be used to its.
8. Give her example of Dangote and other business men and women, whether she have seen any of them sharing their secret of how they made its in life. Why? Because that secret can only be share among their sons and daughters. That how the world is. Nobody cares about you or how you feel.
9. You can also share your issues with her so that in turn she does the same. Always gist. Bring funny topics.
10. A successful family is always a happy family. One problem from her affect the family only.
Don't be strict on her.

Abatemtem: she's 19 yrs!an adult nt a kid !

Chubhie: Mentally she's a kid and the elder sis is like a baby adult going by the way she wanted to handle issues. I mean no disrespect on her person.

kreamidiva:

And Ebola too..