MizMyColi: What you're saying in essence is that, despite the highs and low, Mutual Respect is key to the survival of any long term relationship?

jnrbayano:

Mutual respect, yeah right but not just any type.

I mean the fraternal mutual respect. This eliminates all selfish motives like being money (material things) conscious on the side of ladies and sex conscious on the side of guys.

Just like siblings who always have moral duty unto each other.

Estimable: True talk,but the problem with most naija ladies is their strong head attitude,they won't even respect u talk more of seeing u as their senior......

MizMyColi:
I understand you.
And I've been thinking in those lines lately as to why we find it so hard to replicate such in our dating/marriage relationships.

For Example, My second brother, I love him (I'm actually trying to make it sound light)
I could go for months without hearing from him and his place in my heart never wanes.
He could offend me right now and I'll come up with the best excuse.

But when it comes to dating relationships, its more like a tit for tat thingy, which oughtn't be.
Maybe its different with my Bro and all my siblings because they're my blood?
Can't really say though.

You're spot on.

jnrbayano:

Blood has nothing to do with it.

Take for instance, you were still a child, another child who is not related to you in anyway is brought in and you guys grow up together in one home.

When grown, do you think you won't see each other as siblings (same blood) if you weren't/aren't told you are not related?

ideology: If I may comment pls remove the seniority part,
Brothers and sisters are ok.

Most relationships today is just about having fun for the meantime with the aim to give oneself a company for the meantime. (Maybe Unconciously)

So During the period, both parties are likely focusing on what one can get during the period.
When the guys pump in money, the girls would have little or nothing to offer than sex.
There after they find reasons to separate, on the other hand one person may feel cheated if he/she didn't benefit much.

When the future is in focus, you can just tell how far one could go, boundaries, investments in one another, motivations, mutual respect and commitment.

I tire for relationship stories, I just make friends, build the friendship. No time for heart breaks, am too busy.

andromida: Be truthful to yourself first then extend the courtesy of your honesty to whoever you are doing a relationship with.

jnrbayano:

I don't quite understand

andromida:

The man should be his real self and the woman should show her real self that way everyone knows who and what they are dealing with and can choose to respect,continue,improve,commit or opt out all in good time.

andromida: Be
truthful to yourself first then extend the courtesy of your honesty to
whoever you are doing a relationship with.

Erikthered: I agree