joella1: I'm a regular so I had to create a new IDd to do this; my mind is 50% made up but who knows, may still be swayed..

I met my husband 16 years ago at age 19(he was 25)while I was in my first year of Uni, ASUU did their thing and we came home to spend some time, I met him in the neighbourhood and he was a fresh graduate about to start working..
I lost my almost virginity(he asked me 2 weeks into our relationship and he was estatic when I confirmed it to him) to him about 3-4months into the relationship and it lasted about a few minutes which he explained to me was due to his consideration of my innocence and subsequent encounters he explained was the real deal and I should not believe the stories of "supermen" I read in my novels and hear about from friends and associates. I didn't think twice about his explanation cos I was still a bit naïve, we were exclusive till my 4th year when I "accidentaly" became close to one of faculty male friends.

Ladystewie: so wat happened?

LaRoyalHighness: Go on......

curiouses:
So?

RoyalRoy:





You all love super story don't you? Lol

Waiting for part two.

joella1: To cut a long story short, it was the best 6months of my "Experience".. I could have kept it going cos I felt zero guilt but I knew it wasn't the best way to start marital life so I let my other guy go(he was very sad about it but couldn't help it)
The sex with my man never improved and I still went ahead to marry him cos I had given my word and he is a solid and dependable sweet soul... I didn't hold the sexual trickery against him cos I was street smart enough to realise that he had to do what he had to do..
The crux of the matter is that the few minutes has gradually over the years declined to 20-30 seconds 2-3x a month.. And it never happens more than once at a time.... He has sought all the help available and nothing WORKS..

I'm seriously considering HELPING MYSELF

P.S--My old flame is still very interested!!

soulglo:


Buy a vibrator that runs on diesel if you have to. There's no justification to step out on your husband. You knew he was a 2 sec man before you married him.

joella1: To cut a long story short, it was the best 6months of my "Experience".. I could have kept it going cos I felt zero guilt but I knew it wasn't the best way to start marital life so I let my other guy go(he was very sad about it but couldn't help it)
The sex with my man never improved and I still went ahead to marry him cos I had given my word and he is a solid and dependable sweet soul... I didn't hold the sexual trickery against him cos I was street smart enough to realise that he had to do what he had to do..
The crux of the matter is that the few minutes has gradually over the years declined to 20-30 seconds 2-3x a month.. And it never happens more than once at a time.... He has sought all the help available and nothing WORKS..
I'm seriously considering HELPING MYSELF
P.S--My old flame(married 2years ago) is still very interested!!

RoyalRoy:





You all love super story don't you? Lol

Waiting for part two.

soulglo:


Buy a vibratorr that runs on diesel if you have to. There's no justification to step out on your husband. You knew he was a 2 sec man before you married him.

curiouses:

What's with words changing Nah...I wrote Vibratorr and Dilldo....Whatever happened to freedom of expression.

curiouses:


You actually don't need anyone to tell you that you are Onisina. You can sought yourself by other means without involving your ex. Has you man tried out Tramadol? If, Yes, then get yourself a vibrator and stop looking for trouble. Explain to your man why you need a Love Machine. I believe he'd understand. In case you really need a living soul to scratch your natural wound for you, stop looking the side of your married ex, Start following me and you shall in mean time testify to the power of young blood.


See wetin this woman de find o. Something I fit give free of charge.

soulglo:

She should include her husband in it. It's not something she should lock herself up in the bathroom to do. Couples with normal sex lives even use intimacy gadgets with each other. They could incorporate the toys for pre-intimacy and the two seconds could just be for the sake of penetration. Most women do not even climax with just penetration. pre-intimacy is the most important part. Not trying to be unsympathetic to the OP's plight but alls not lost because her husband ejaculates too quickly

joella1: Seems I left out some things.
1.You won't catch my husband with any toys.
2.He can't do long pre-intimacy otherwise all will be lost en route.
3.He used de-sensitisers for a short period but he says it kills all sensations for him.
4.He says HE enjoys what we have and I should be more understanding.
5.I suggested hand job(research)to take the initial edge off but he says GOD FORBID.
6.He bribes me with stuffs.

joella1: Seems I left out some things.
1.You won't catch my husband with any toys.
2.He can't do long pre-intimacy otherwise all will be lost en route.
3.He used de-sensitisers for a short period but he says it kills all sensations for him.
4.He says HE enjoys what we have and I should be more understanding.
5.I suggested hand job(research)to take the initial edge off but he says GOD FORBID.
6.He bribes me with stuffs.

soulglo:

Your husband is simply being selfish. Are you guys in Nigeria? If not I will suggest sex therapy with a licensed therapist. I understand now why you feel there's no hope. Your husband does not want to help himself. Start refusing his bribes. That might scare him because right now he thinks you're okay. Refuse whatever bribes he gives and express clearly to him that you are sexuall.y frustrated

joella1: Seems I left out some things.
1.You won't catch my husband with any toys.
2.He can't do long pre-intimacy otherwise all will be lost en route.
3.He used de-sensitisers for a short period but he says it kills all sensations for him.
4.He says HE enjoys what we have and I should be more understanding.
5.I suggested hand job(research)to take the initial edge off but he says GOD FORBID.
6.He bribes me with stuffs.

curiouses:
You are not getting the OP's points. Her man won't just be the man she wanted.

curiouses:
You are not getting the OP's points. Her man won't just be the man she wanted.

joella1:

You are both right and wrong. Wrong cos he is a good husband, right cos the intimacy is blah... I honestly thought it didn't really matter and I could get by.

@filiks,
Oral You want him to go into cardiac arrest? He is an African man.

@soulglo,
We are in Nigeria, & I can't refuse his bribes cos they aint bribes in the real sense, its just that he goes above and beyond for the kids and I .. He treats me with respect & his mama claims I am her son's boss.

soulglo:

She should include her husband in it. It's not something she should lock herself up in the bathroom to do. Couples with normal sex lives even use intimacy gadgets with each other. They could incorporate the toys for pre-intimacy and the two seconds could just be for the sake of penetration. Most women do not even climax with just penetration. pre-intimacy is the most important part. Not trying to be unsympathetic to the OP's plight but alls not lost because her husband ejaculates too quickly

joella1: Seems I left out some things.
1.You won't catch my husband with any toys.
2.He can't do long pre-intimacy otherwise all will be lost en route.
3.He used de-sensitisers for a short period but he says it kills all sensations for him.
4.He says HE enjoys what we have and I should be more understanding.
5.I suggested hand job(research)to take the initial edge off but he says GOD FORBID.
6.He bribes me with stuffs.

filiks:

It's ok if he can't stand oral too but its definitely not an African thing not to do it! African men love MouthAction!

joella1:

Don't get it twisted, he looooovvess to be on the receiving end(despite our church's teaching that its from the pit of hell),I used to give him till about 2-3years ago, the rationale behind me stopping is that if I aint getting, you will no longer receive!

filiks:

Oh I get it.

I left one thing out; Touching himself

If he's doing a lot of it, he won't last in the real act.

joella1:

Don't get it twisted, he looooovvess to be on the receiving end(despite our church's teaching that its from the pit of hell),I used to give him till about 2-3years ago, the rationale behind me stopping is that if I aint getting, you will no longer receive! He didn't make any comment or ask me why I stopped.

@texas,
Is there an uncircumcised man in naija?

joella1:

He will rather die, he is a conservative/spirikoko person..I suggested that to him like I got varied research that if he works on "himself" about an hour or so before the main event he could maybe go the distanced. He was embarassed and begged me not to bring it up again cos he feels like a failure and at a loss on what to do.
I can't stand to see him hurt.. He isn't a selfish person,he just has control issues.