Try your best , I mean your very best never to train your child in Nigeria alone. Things here are abnormal.

I dont want my children growing up wondering who NEPA why you can't run to the police for help, why fire stations have no water, why bus stops have no seats. There are many things lacking in Nigeria. When children are brought up in two differnet environments they can appreciate the good things in both by the help of the parents, and reject the negatives is both.

Above all its who'd bringing up the child that matters.

One question, the yahoo yahoo boys, where were they brought up? home or abroad?

We really lack the basic thing's kids need to know ranging from security to inadequate materials for kids to use in their various schools and worst of it all is the issue of transportation and Electricity, knows the meaning of up NEPA because he or she has been hearing it rite from cradle, my question is what can one do without the use of electricity? i was thought in school that there are three types of transportation but you can prove that in Nigeria.

For me I would say that the nigerian brought up child is better. He may seem to lack some priviledges . But as far as respect for our societal values go I'd rather raise my children in Naija where if "foolishness is enthroned in the heart of a child" I can use the "rod of correction" to drive it far from it, without having the authorities breathing down my neck. or what do you think

really doesnt matter if children are raised in nigeria, uk, usa it depends on the parents
and how they bring there children up in life, but i do agree children in nigeria are more well mannered
to people

i agree that better is too broad.
However children in UK are disadvantaged and it has to be said. The government has taken so much control that it is truly difficult to discipline your children the way you know will do them good in future. I taught in a school inLondon and boy o boy was it a baptism of fire. I could not believe the level of indiscpline and rudeness. The level of sickness amoung teachers in the uk, London in particular is so high because they just cannot cope with the behaviour of the kids, and this i must add was in primary school! Someone in my school was constantly being called up to her sons school, secondary, because he was always in trouble and once i passed his school and there was a police helicopter because there had been some fight with boys using bats and knives.
Everyone keeps to themselves because they are afraid of being stabbed or abused. Have you been on a bus at hometime? Gosh! These kids, thirteen and fourteen year olds were talking about graphic sex acts that theyd taken part in.It was so sickening that i had to get off the bus, as did a lot of other adults, especially some with young children. They do it to shock you so you can say something if you are stupid and then get the mob abuse of your life. Once i saw a child almost walking into the oncoming traffic while her teenage mum stood by puffing cirgerettes with her friends. When i said , ''Hey, your child, '' She hissed and said ''It aint your f***king business a**h***!''
Thank you very much. All this is just the tip of the iceberg!
True Nigerian children are not the same as we were when we were growing up. They are exposed to a lot of things. But i think the way we were brought up to respect people and property was not such a bad thing. Majority of Nigerians know what is good for their children and if you dont someone will surely teach you. In London noone cares and there arent much family values. the little there is the govt have suceeded in making people look like child abusers.
Here we are not perfect but by the time your uncle, neighbour, grand parents etc have a word or two your children will generally behave a bit better than one who is so used to not being told wrong or right.
Ultimatley its the waY YOu bring up the child AND the environment the child grows up in and i think the Nigerian environment is better.

A children been raided in Nigeria not better, so I disagree.
It depends on who you tran the child and the Enviroment is the first secondary.

Thanks.

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i think saying children raised in nigeria are better literally is an unreasonable statement, what if you raise your child in the ghetto without proper ppl taking care of him/her,what if he/she is sent under the bridge to hawk ice water or sent to roofless or window less schools?

i think IF the right schools are gotten for the child,and the right family support as some families can be counter productive and negative influence for the child then children raised in nigeria are better, your assertion is relative not cast in stone

I DISAGREE, ABROAD IS BETTER.except for the country
like where i am is hard for kid to be corrupt that much.

no be God?:

I DISAGREE, ABROAD IS BETTER.except for the country
like where i am is hard for kid to be corrupt that much.

And which country is that?!

Ghana

I think most kids that come fr Niger are worse than kids dat,re raised up here. These r da kids dat ,ll tell u dat dey don,t understand their language after few months/yr.they just arrived fr Nigeria. They r disguise by so many things they r brought up w.ie. morals. It,s sad dat our young ones & older ones 2 are emulating bad Americans character /personalties

read the whole thread. my 0.02:

1. I saw a lot of its against the law to smack your child in this thread, but I guarantee you, discipline is alive and well. You have to put your foot down. As my aunt (who lives in Dallas) says. "Call the cops, I'll kill you first." There's a difference between abuse and discipline. And as for the authorities clamping down on it, where were they when Baby P was getting the his little arse handed to him. I honestly believe that it is an urban legend and an excuse for slack parenting. Not that beating your child does anything anyway. You can't beat a bad egg good.

2. At least abroad there is machinery in place to protect children. Age restrictions etc. Nollywood has long since had age restrictions but a young person can buy a film marked 18 from the vendors. You can't buy alcohol, cigarettes or pornography until you're 18 or 21 in US/UK but go to Ikoyi Club or something and see if they card anybody (maybe they do now) or go to a department store and see if anyone will stop you. Same thing with cigs from the mallam. When I was 12-14, I bought/rented porn from various places- only one person ever called me up on it. If the cashier has morals they may let it go, but its likely they may not. I don't know where the idea that young people abroad club all the time, you only hear about it when something goes wrong. this does not mean it does not occur, but for all the people that do it, there are people who don't have fake ID or whatever and cant get in. compare this to the 15 and 16 year old types in Naija who spent every monday in my SS2 and 3 talking about this and that happened in the club.

3. We Nigerians can be quite funny at times. Ex. the legislators freaking out over BBA calling it immoral when they are robbing the people they swore to serve in the very next order of business. In the eyes of God, sex is not worse than stealing no matter what you tell yourself. American kids for instance have a higher level of integrity with regards schoolwork. Not to say people don't cheat, but they keep it on the d/l. they don't openly boast about having 'crunch' before an exam. But that's ok. He doesn't drink or smoke.

4. there's a lot more, but it's late. bottom line though, as other people have said, it is in the hands of the parents. No matter where you are. You have to be there for your child from the start, throughout the formative years, and through adolescence, especially then. The people whose parents always came to school regularly tended to do better than those who didnt. As has been said on this thread, Naija parents tend to be very busy abroad but its like they forget they weren't busy in Naija? They need to shape up, because there's no excuse for parents who have degrees to have children who don't want to go to uni. If parents don't work at being role models for their kids, they'll get it elsewhere.

5. one last point, so what if they can't speak their native tongue. i see no positive/negative to this.

Children in the west are disrespectful uncultured lazy softies and they are not sharp at all.

Also, children with foundational education in Nigeria would do better any where in the world because Nigeria takes you round so many subject/courses which expands your intellect.

yeah right

well thats not necesarily true. . . . .children raised half in nigeria and half outside nigeria are better

bawomolo:

yeah right

I would echo that too. Yeah right!!!!

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I would echo that too. Yeah right!!!!

i saw this and i was tempted to respond but my post was epic enough as it was.

if it was so free, i would have been able to do chem and physics (which i was somewhat interested in) with govt instead of doing economics and commerce (which i wasnt).

ITS NOT SO MUCH ABOUT WHERE A CHILD IS RAISED, BUT HOW A CHILD IS RAISED.

EVEN WITH LITTLE AMOUNT OF MONEY SOME FAMILIES HAVE BEEN ABLE TO RAISE WELL TRAINED AND BEHAVE CHILDREN.

ajilete:

i agree that better is too broad.
However children in UK are disadvantaged and it has to be said. The government has taken so much control that it is truly difficult to discipline your children the way you know will do them good in future. I taught in a school inLondon and boy o boy was it a baptism of fire. I could not believe the level of indiscpline and rudeness. The level of sickness amoung teachers in the uk, London in particular is so high because they just cannot cope with the behaviour of the kids, and this i must add was in primary school! Someone in my school was constantly being called up to her sons school, secondary, because he was always in trouble and once i passed his school and there was a police helicopter because there had been some fight with boys using bats and knives.
Everyone keeps to themselves because they are afraid of being stabbed or abused. Have you been on a bus at hometime? Gosh! These kids, thirteen and fourteen year olds were talking about graphic sex acts that theyd taken part in.It was so sickening that i had to get off the bus, as did a lot of other adults, especially some with young children. They do it to shock you so you can say something if you are stupid and then get the mob abuse of your life. Once i saw a child almost walking into the oncoming traffic while her teenage mum stood by puffing cirgerettes with her friends. When i said , ''Hey, your child, '' She hissed and said ''It aint your f***king business a**h***!''
Thank you very much. All this is just the tip of the iceberg!
True Nigerian children are not the same as we were when we were growing up. They are exposed to a lot of things. But i think the way we were brought up to respect people and property was not such a bad thing. Majority of Nigerians know what is good for their children and if you don't someone will surely teach you. In London noone cares and there arent much family values. the little there is the govt have suceeded in making people look like child abusers.
Here we are not perfect but by the time your uncle, neighbour, grand parents etc have a word or two your children will generally behave a bit better than one who is so used to not being told wrong or right.
Ultimatley its the waY YOu bring up the child AND the environment the child grows up in and i think the Nigerian environment is better.

my sister thank you U have said it all, you are true nigerian,i love you for that

g.

Although I disagree with you guys that Nigeria is best, BUT it all depends on the parents who is bringing up the child. A major factor is the environment in which the child was brought up, and i think it does not matter if it was home or abroad.

Children raised in Nigeria are better, "Yes" that is if the child was born in Nigeria. Very Nigeria child has the experience of African Cultures, the dress in there culture ways and dance cultural dances.

But some of our parents in Nigeria today find it difficult to show there child cultural things. Like taking them to there various town in their village it helps. With this it make our children wise and diffrent from other countries and that is why Nigeria Children are better.

Thanks.

i personaly think kids raised in Nigeria are better, cuz i think Nigerians are more disciplined, but spoony is right, it depends on who the child is raised.

I agree. In Nigeria, children are more disciplined than those that are brought up abroad. Its so because we have cultures and traditions that are strictly againist indiscipline and sexual immorality.

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Good parenting plays a role . . . . Culture plays a greater role.

nigerian raised kids are good in:

cooking, cleaning, respectful, more hardworking and rezillianct

Yankee raised kids are good in:

sports, video game, whining, cursing uuuuuuhm, I can't think of anything else for real

i personally think that kids raised in Nigeria are better.if for nothing else the child will get an idea of what shame is.every thing is always alright and nobodies fault in the UK.a child does not want to go to school ''that alrit,
how can a parent discipline a child at home and then the child goes to school where she is encouraged tricked and almost forced it talk about what goes on at home only for the teachers to say it was not right for the parent to discipline the child thus undermining the parents authority.what respect will the child have for the parent.
i beg can anybody give me a name and number for a good primary and secondary boarding school in Nigeria.

Huney:

i personally think that kids raised in Nigeria are better.if for nothing else the child will get an idea of what shame is.every thing is always alright and nobodies fault in the UK.
how can a parent discipline a child at home and then the child goes to school where she is encouraged tricked and almost forced it talk about what goes on at home only for the teachers to say it was not right for the parent to discipline the child thus undermining the parents authority.what respect will the child have for the parent.
i beg can anybody give me a name and number for a good primary and secondary boarding school in Nigeria.

it is the parents that failed the made in uk/us kids. most naija kids are worse than children in the west. they lie, steal and fornicate like there is no tomorrow.