The truth,though it may hurt is just that she's started cheating on you,it's so sad, you have to be strong,there are worse things that could happen to a man than loosing his job,and you are fortunate to know the kind of woman you married,at least you know she is not loyal to you, get a hold of yourself, focus on your work....stuff like this happen, don't let it get to you too much,people are saying you should talk to her,I doubt it will work,cos she's already playing the victim by saying you're nagging anytime you want to complain. So stop complaining,lest your BP rises over this issue.

carefreewannabe:

Is it HIS house or their house?

I'll leave that to you, keep trying to figure out the semantics my dear... Potato, Potahto.

When a woman misbehaves and wants to control a man in his house...she gets sent out.
And if she refuses, then she gets thrown out. Either way, she can't be disrespecting her husband in that house in front of the kids.

This ain't America!

crackhaus:
I'll leave that to you, keep trying to figure out the semantics my dear... Potato, Potahto.

When a woman misbehaves and wants to control a man in his house...she gets sent out.
And if she refuses, then she gets thrown out. Either way, she can't be disrespecting her husband in that house in front of the kids.

This ain't America!

I asked you a simple question. Is it HIS or THEIR house?

NairaMode: I feel like crying really.
Without being sentimental, without being judgmental and without assigning spirituality to this because sometimes we are reaping our own sins.
Remember the Bible says in the transgression of an evil man there is a snare. Which means we all dig a pit for ourselves in the future with every sin we commit today.

In the absence of the above sir, I can see you are really hurting, heartbroken and full of regret. You cannot believe our own eyes and ears. I know when you hold someone in high esteem.
Bro I have been there... They even did more than yours but bro I forgave her. I know you feel betrayed right now and you feel unloved. You feel like a fool who trusted her only to be finally fooled.

In the light of your situation, if I were you, this is what I would do:

1) it's even pretty much hard to tell you what to do but you do not have a choice. Bro you will get over it with time. What's important first is to get something doing. I know even while at work you may be wondering where she is but I bet you the more you are engaged the little you will think about it.

2) You cannot be quiet bro... This is your wife and you have to speak against what you don't like or wrong. Get a job first and then you can report her to her parents.

3) Get something doing again. It's so key and then check yourself if you can live with this realization that she doesn't completely love you (Well I don't believe love exist anyway). If you can't live with the realization I think you need to suck it up as she hasn't really committed adultery and you can't leave her.

4) Pray to God and stand your ground in your home. Whatever it takes bro. No knives or guns or batons please.

5) Get a job and stand your ground and put her in her place. If she wants to leave it is her choice. Let her know you are hurt and stop running to her vagina every night after then.

Thanks a bunch, I have gotten a job already in a blue cheap company. if not i would have ran mad, its not easy where you brag about your wife in the midst of your friends and this is happening to me. how will i say it out but really am dying in silence. i cant just comprehend and she just doesnt care about my feeling.

carefreewannabe:

I asked you a simple question. Is it HIS or THEIR house?

Theirs'
*straight face*

dytbabe:

Theirs'
*straight face*

omoyeme200:

Thanks a bunch, I have gotten a job already in a blue cheap company. if not i would have ran mad, its not easy where you brag about your wife in the midst of your friends and this is happening to me. how will i say it out but really am dying in silence. i cant just comprehend and she just doesnt care about my feeling.

Now let me even turn this all arnd

Did u care abt her feelings when u were cheating too?
Am sure she cried and begged for ur attention
Am not sayin what she's doin is right o, bt now u know how it feels
Pele, it will get better

crackhaus:
I'll leave that to you, keep trying to figure out the semantics my dear... Potato, Potahto.

When a woman misbehaves and wants to control a man in his house...she gets sent out.
And if she refuses, then she gets thrown out. Either way, she can't be disrespecting her husband in that house in front of the kids.

This ain't America!

She disrespects me infront of her niece, children and grand ma(her mother) When I really needed her most she was not there for me even embarrassed me in public when we had a function in church

carefreewannabe:

Awon lo jo nile
The house is for both and not the oko

*rolls eyes*

carefreewannabe:

I asked you a simple question. Is it HIS or THEIR house?

And I said:

I'll leave that to you, keep trying to figure out
the semantics my dear... Potato, Potahto.

And if you still want me to state it clearly... The day she decided to mess up the sanctity of her marriage first by cheating, and then later by disrespecting her husband...that's the day she ceased having any claim to that house.

omoyeme200:

She disrespects me infront of her niece, children and grand ma(her mother) When I really needed her most she was not there for me even embarrassed me in public when we had a function in church

Haaaa
Okunrin

I no go talk again
I don sign out frm here

crackhaus:
And I said:


And if you still want me to state it clearly... The day she decided to mess up the sanctity of her marriage first by cheating, and then later by disrespecting her husband...that's the day she ceased having any claim to that house.

Would you tell a woman to make her husband leave the house if she discovered that he did what the OP's wife did?

dytbabe:
Now let me even turn this all arnd

Did u care abt her feelings when u were cheating too?
Am sure she cried and begged for ur attention
Am not sayin what she's doin is right o, bt now u know how it feels
Pele, it will get better

Hey I said I was'nt a saint when I was single, I care and respect her and would not want to do anything to hurt her (because I thought she was innocent)

dytbabe:

Awon lo jo nile
The house is for both and not the oko

*rolls eyes*

No, it is always oga's house.

omoyeme200:

Hey I said I was'nt a saint when I was single, I care and respect her and would not want to do anything to hurt her (because I thought she was innocent)

Emi ni hey

Why do I have a feelin u jst lookin for reasons to leave this woman, in a way I don't blv all u wrote here
U won't like it at long run when they insult ur wife oo
Say the truth now or jst ask them close the thread

carefreewannabe:

No, it is always oga's house.

Claps hands
We both run the things in the house
So its ours
Oga ko, omo ise ni

dytbabe:

Claps hands
We both run the things in the house
So its ours
Oga ko, omo ise ni

The Western culture has brainwashed you. You are not a proper Nigerian woman.

carefreewannabe:

The Western culture has brainwashed you. You are not a proper Nigerian woman.

Yes I know

dytbabe:

Yes I know

carefreewannabe:

Would you tell a woman to make her husband leave the house if she discovered that he did what the OP's wife did?

You're so darn predictable... saw this question coming somewhere down the line.

If she can, she should. I'm not biased.

crackhaus:
You're so darn predictable... saw this question coming somewhere down the line.

If she can, she should. I'm not biased.

@bold

I am not so sure.

carefreewannabe:

@bold

I am not so sure.

Yea I figured... I guess that's why you won't reply my mails

crackhaus:
Yea I figured... I guess that's why you won't reply my mails

No, that's not the reason and you already know.

omoyeme200

Your wife made mistakes but I am beginning to think that you were also way too clingy.

Being clingy makes a relationship boring. Being clingy kills passion.

i hope this isn't karma.Some men head dey come down for house when they lose their jobs,BUT your wife is wrong in her approach.Life no be like that,oooh."Palmwine tapper wey feel so him dey untop of the world because say him climb tree,make him no forget say him bed dey ground"Young man go look for a job.Your own time dey come.

Who is this cry baby? Pls man up n face ur home joor. Wit dis kind of attitude u re displaying here who wldnt disrespect u?

carefreewannabe: omoyeme200

Your wife made mistakes but I am beginning to think that you were also way too clingy.

Being clingy makes a relationship boring. Being clingy kills passion.

Clingy in what sense? But really she gave me this long list of rules and regulations part of it was that then I spend time too much with my friends when we newly wed and cried all through now I cut them off she now comes after she has gotten a job that tell me her friends are male and she advises and talks about our marriage issues and even advise. I don't think so...

omoyeme200:
Clingy in what sense? But really she gave me this long list of rules and regulations part of it was that then I spend time too much with my friends when we newly wed and cried all through now I cut them off she now comes after she has gotten a job that tell me her friends are male and she advises and talks about our marriage issues and even advise. I don't think so...

You know what to do.. you are just dilly-dallying..

omoyeme200:

Clingy in what sense? But really she gave me this long list of rules and regulations part of it was that then I spend time too much with my friends when we newly wed and cried all through now I cut them off she now comes after she has gotten a job that tell me her friends are male and she advises and talks about our marriage issues and even advise. I don't think so...

I don't know. I am trying to read between the lines. She says you are "choking" her, she says you should go out and spend time with friends. This made me think that you might have been too clingy.

It is not about either or. It is not about spending all your free time with your wife or all of it with your friends. It is about balance.

My suggestion is that you concentrate on yourself now. Give her some time to miss you.

Agba ma a n gba no ni!
when things turn out like this, your best bet is to follow your head and be the best man you can be.
No condition is permanent.

Okay, let's see how I can put Op out of his confusion. You already have your job back so this present or erm, worse state has nothing to do with your inability to pay the bills. You read about your wife's plan B(divorce plans), her discussion about you with her ex and you see visible signs of irresponsibility. What part of your wife is tired of the marriage and definitely not committed to making it work don't you understand now?

What exactly is confusing you?

Why is marriage so problematic sef, there's always depressing news on this section