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How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by finessela: 4:27pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
I started my life as a young believer and was very devoted too. Though, I think I allowed it affect my appearance. While growing in my church, they taught us to dress well covered which is a good thing but I and my friends took ours to the extreme. We would wear ankara often to school in our university days, and even when its English wears, we would be entirely covered. We paid no attention to our hair as long as it was neatly combed, we added nothing to it not even relaxer. My face was always oily and rough, we hardly used the white powder also, we just went very natural. In my university days, I moved from my house to the class, then to the market or church. I never visited friends. I was always indoors studying the bible and praying. I didn’t really have friends except for some of my church members in my school too. People referred me and my friends as (S.U) as it popularly called in African mentality. I didn’t mind them as long as I was pleasing God. Days, weeks, months and years passed by and I got no proposal from a man. When I was in my early teens and twenties, I didn’t see any reason to be approached by a man, I saw it as a sin and I never bothered when no one came. At the age of 23/24/25 some of my beautiful friends started getting married. I kept wondering, was I not fine too? Though no one in my family or outside have told me I was beautiful but I was and it was hidden. Am sharing this story not to discourage you from being religious or the likes but let’s put a caution on how we take care of ourselves. You don’t need to put on the longest skirt and the most free blouse on earth to be a Christian. I wore a lot of Bulukus as some Nigerians called it. I wore native mostly. I was always looking extremely old at my young age. Some people looked at me as a married woman or a mama as some have mistakenly did. It continued like that and I started praying. I fasted and prayed. I went to all the programs in the church but no husband was coming. My parents and friends were singing it to my ears, “how old I had become”. I wanted to be a leading career woman and a very good Christian too holding leaderships in the church but all my dreams were crumbling in my very eyes. While I was studying for my second degree in school at the age of 32, I continued my old dressing. Some lecturers referred to me as “Madam” and I had to tell them I was still a “Sisi o”. I never knew one lecturer had been looking at me. After spending 2years in school, I could still not boast of a man who had toasted or wooed me before either a believer or non-believer. I was just ignored and seen as out of date. I cried all night for an answer but i got none. One day, our geography lecturer called for my attention and narrated how he had been watching me for years now and had picked interest in me. He was a 43years old man but was looking like he was in his 60s, so unkempt and ugly (forgive me for that word). Though he wasn’t looking nice but the minute he told me he wouldn’t mind marrying me, I quickly went on my knees and said “Yes sir”, I would marry you. He was shocked at my response but I didn’t care and in 2months we did all the necessary introductions and got married late that year. Now am 36, living with a man who looks like a stranger to me but am learning to love and appreciate me. I have an handsome son now and my husband has taught me to look nice while I taught him how to look young too*smiles*. I was sharing my story with two ladies in my neighbourhood in school after seeing how they dressed shabbily to school. I called their attention and narrated my story to them. Looking nice is very necessary. You need to look young and beautiful at all times. I must say I am a beautiful woman but I never knew it until I started looking nice in marriage. Am not saying you should look artificial like most ladies do now but you can still look nice with a nice t-shirt or blouse on a flowered nice skirt or any colour. Men want their partner or ladies generally looking nice and attractive in a godly way. If you dress like a LovePeddler like most ladies do now, you will be addressed by irresponsible men too. Get social, go for events, seminars, church programmes, go to places you can meet responsible and purposeful men not just any gathering. I was never social. I didn’t have friends and no one wanted to be friends with me. Now my friends and family make jest of my Husband because of how he looks but who cares, he has made me a “Mrs” and has taught me to look nice too. Now I take my time to look beautiful before I go out and I have seen men turn their heads, which was something that didn’t happen in my single years. Singles out there, use your singleness to become productive and active too. Your youthfulness should be channelled to your usefulness. When you do innovative things and look nice too, men would come. Don’t blame God for your situation. You just didn’t make yourself available. I presented myself as a married woman even while single. Please look your youthful years, take care of your skin, body and look good. ————————————————————————————————————— Written by Nyang Nneoma and copied from www.femmelounge.ng 16 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Tymax(m): 4:30pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
34! hmmm you see how important looks are? I don't know why some ladies will deliberately look so drab that you'd almost forget they exist. She's lucky her people didn't take her matter to the next level. She for hear am. Ladies, this is not a good example. The eggs don't come any fresher with age. 1 Like |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Greenified(m): 4:44pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
This should open the eyes of those rubber plaiters. Mtcheew. 4 Likes |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by nairalife2013(m): 4:57pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Chei! Thank God for my wife and I! At 27 and 32 respctvly we hav explored all kinds of flowery life and we hav now retired. Now nothing moves us. Al we do now we just work and relax and watch our children grow. Most grateful we both lead modest life, never extreme in anythin! And our kids are taking afta us! 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by hertz9te(m): 5:11pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
34.....and u didn't blame it on one old woman at your village??......I thought u were religious |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by pamcode(m): 5:18pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
what an eye opener i hope ladies and some guys learn frm dis |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by jmoore(m): 5:29pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Prayer without works is dead. Spiritual things are good but one should not neglect the physical side. "Na wetin dey market we go buy" 2 Likes |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Mimienudles(f): 5:36pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
[quote author=nairalife2013]Chei! Thank God for my wife and I! At 27 and 32 respctvly we hav explored all kinds of flowery life and we hav now retired. Now nothing moves us. Al we do now we just work and relax and watch our children grow. Most grateful we both lead modest life, never extreme in anythin! And our kids are taking afta us![/quote] I love this feeling |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Nobody: 5:40pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
well, you are on the right part, the better side of your life. but enough wrapper ooo. try trendy skirts instead. it will make him know that you are trying. but, chai. you no try oooo, make una no influence your son wrongly biko! |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by jennylove7575(f): 5:42pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Op This your story is some how....what are u trying to present or teach with your story.. I don't get it....so because u were a 34yrs old born again u choose to say yes to a dirty old man marriage proposal a man u don't love because u feel desperate for marriage. ....this is sickeniing...absolutely nothing to learn from ur ordeal..its pathetic. 1 Like |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Nobody: 5:54pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
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Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by priscaoge(f): 6:01pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Some girls here be singing..'I don't like makeup,I love natural,I don't apply white powder or Lipgloss etc..Well it's all their choice,as for me,Looking good is a good business. Dress beautiful n appear neat...Neatness is next to 'Godliness',U don't have to dress like an Old woman that sells smoked fish in d village market just because u are a born again... 3 Likes |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Vikky014(f): 6:04pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
dis problm is caused by ladies how will U accept a teaching dat says rubbing powder or lipstick,eyepencil,plating of attachment will take u to hell?while d man dt is preachn is well dressed in his ironed cloth?u ladies shld wake up 2 Likes |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Rapsainot(m): 6:18pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Irony of life.. There are some ladies who are well dressed and couldn't get married at the age of 40.... Aunty biola, our neighbor's first daughter is a typical example |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by naijaboiy: 6:23pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
I see many of them in school,,they don't even look as if they are interested in any man... Maybe they are waiting for God to drop down a husband from heaven |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by fruityjojo(f): 6:27pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
jennylove7575: Op This your story is some how....what are u trying to present or teach with your story.. I don't get it....so because u were a 34yrs old born again u choose to say yes to a dirty old man marriage proposal a man u don't love because u feel desperate for marriage. ....this is sickeniing...absolutely nothing to learn from ur ordeal..its pathetic.If u couldn't get the point from this very simple comprehension! Then my dear u don't have a brain! *sorry to say! 10 Likes |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Nobody: 6:31pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
finessela: Now am 36, living with a man who looks like a stranger to me but am learning to love and appreciate me. I have an handsome son now and my husband has taught me to look nice while I taught him how to look young too*smiles*. Is this a testimony? |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by benedictjohn(m): 6:32pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Hahahahahahahahaha... You over do ur sister in christ stuff... Thank God u are married. 1 of my Neighbor is 62 and she is still forcing me inside her house. She was just like u... |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Nobody: 6:36pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
benedictjohn: Hahahahahahahahaha... You over do ur sister in christ stuff... Thank God u are married. 1 of my Neighbor is 62 and she is still forcing me inside her house. She was just like u... How does she force you inside her house? 1 Like |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Nobody: 6:39pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Oh my gooness this is so sad. My heart skipped a beat... I Pray this doesnt happen to me. But a great lesson that you have taught us. I just hope you dont have any regrets, I personally would rather die single than to settle... But to die a virgin lol I dont think I could. |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by benedictjohn(m): 6:40pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
andromida:she carries cane and runs after me 2 enter her house.. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by lawrenceunaa: 6:40pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
18+ pls dress responsibly Op is not a good example cos she let religion fool her to the extent she knelt to say yes First impression matter and ladies impression firstly by there looks and appearance Be wise and think responsibly |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by jennylove7575(f): 6:41pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
fruityjojo:you must be very stupidd for throwing insult at me..are u the op? Or are you using another profile? In short you are madd...I am not in the habit of having beef with my fellow female on nl. But if you want a piece of me, you are welcome to be my guest. None sense. Don't ever quote me again to talk trash. 3 Likes |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Nobody: 6:43pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
benedictjohn: she carries cane and runs after me 2 enter her house.. Naughty |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by benedictjohn(m): 6:44pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
andromida: |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Tallesty1(m): 6:48pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Rapsainot: Irony of life.. There are some ladies who are well dressed and couldn't get married at the age of 40.... Aunty biola, our neighbor's first daughter is a typical example |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Ishilove: 6:51pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Hmmm... *pensive* |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by fruityjojo(f): 6:52pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
jennylove7575: you must be very stupidd for throwing insult at me..are u the op? Or are you using another profile? In short you are madd...I am not in the habit of having beef with my fellow female on nl. But if you want a piece of me, you are welcome to be my guest. None sense. Don't ever quote me again to talk trash.Oh well, still didn't get the point. You really don't have a brain! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by Tallesty1(m): 6:53pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
3cycle: @jenny I agree with you.Her problem was not her dressing, some dressed better, looked good but never married. She locks herself inside to read bible, now tell, will a man come out from the bible and marry her? That is the problem with misinformed religious girls, her attitude towards men was her number one problem. She didn't socialize at all, she imprisoned herself so where and how could a man see her? No matter how ugly or poorly dressed a woman is, there is always this guy who would do anything to have her but she must make herself available 8 Likes |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by jennylove7575(f): 6:56pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
fruityjojo:just as u are brainless to continue quoting me..how pathetic..your brain cells are dead. 1 Like |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by AdeniyiA(m): 7:14pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
some people wound themselves while trying to be over righteous which practically is impossible with this mortal body, the Bible expressly told us to be moderate ... Philippians 4:5 Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand. Ecclesiastes 7:16 Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself ? 1 Like |
Re: How I Got My First Relationship Proposal At 34 by fruityjojo(f): 7:20pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
jennylove7575: just as u are brainless to continue quoting me..how pathetic..your brain cells are dead.Okk. Lemme help a sister out. What the op was trying to get across was that there are some girls that don't socialise & take care of their exterior looks under the guise of religious piet. And that being a good christian doesn't mean u have to dress shabby & disassociate urself from people! Else, u might end up in op's situation where she took a decision she might not have taken under normal circumstances! That's the moral Btw am not the Op neither do I know her,I am literate enough to understand a simple piece of writing 3 Likes |
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