jennylove7575: Op This your story is some how....what are u trying to present or teach with your story.. I don't get it....so because u were a 34yrs old born again u choose to say yes to a dirty old man marriage proposal a man u don't love because u feel desperate for marriage. ....this is sickeniing...absolutely nothing to learn from ur ordeal..its pathetic.

finessela: I started my life as a young believer and was very devoted too. Though, I think I allowed it affect my appearance.

While growing in my church, they taught us to dress well covered which is a good thing but I and my friends took ours to the extreme.

We would wear ankara often to school in our university days, and even when its English wears, we would be entirely covered. We paid no attention to our hair as long as it was neatly combed, we added nothing to it not even relaxer. My face was always oily and rough, we hardly used the white powder also, we just went very natural.

In my university days, I moved from my house to the class, then to the market or church. I never visited friends. I was always indoors studying the bible and praying. I didn’t really have friends except for some of my church members in my school too. People referred me and my friends as (S.U) as it popularly called in African mentality. I didn’t mind them as long as I was pleasing God.

Days, weeks, months and years passed by and I got no proposal from a man. When I was in my early teens and twenties, I didn’t see any reason to be approached by a man, I saw it as a sin and I never bothered when no one came. At the age of 23/24/25 some of my beautiful friends started getting married. I kept wondering, was I not fine too? Though no one in my family or outside have told me I was beautiful but I was and it was hidden.

Am sharing this story not to discourage you from being religious or the likes but let’s put a caution on how we take care of ourselves. You don’t need to put on the longest skirt and the most free blouse on earth to be a Christian. I wore a lot of Bulukus as some Nigerians called it. I wore native mostly. I was always looking extremely old at my young age. Some people looked at me as a married woman or a mama as some have mistakenly did.

It continued like that and I started praying. I fasted and prayed. I went to all the programs in the church but no husband was coming. My parents and friends were singing it to my ears, “how old I had become”. I wanted to be a leading career woman and a very good Christian too holding leaderships in the church but all my dreams were crumbling in my very eyes.

While I was studying for my second degree in school at the age of 32, I continued my old dressing. Some lecturers referred to me as “Madam” and I had to tell them I was still a “Sisi o”. I never knew one lecturer had been looking at me.

After spending 2years in school, I could still not boast of a man who had toasted or wooed me before either a believer or non-believer. I was just ignored and seen as out of date. I cried all night for an answer but i got none.

One day, our geography lecturer called for my attention and narrated how he had been watching me for years now and had picked interest in me. He was a 43years old man but was looking like he was in his 60s, so unkempt and ugly (forgive me for that word). Though he wasn’t looking nice but the minute he told me he wouldn’t mind marrying me, I quickly went on my knees and said “Yes sir”, I would marry you. He was shocked at my response but I didn’t care and in 2months we did all the necessary introductions and got married late that year. Now am 36, living with a man who looks like a stranger to me but am learning to love and appreciate me. I have an handsome son now and my husband has taught me to look nice while I taught him how to look young too*smiles*.

I was sharing my story with two ladies in my neighbourhood in school after seeing how they dressed shabbily to school. I called their attention and narrated my story to them.

Looking nice is very necessary. You need to look young and beautiful at all times. I must say I am a beautiful woman but I never knew it until I started looking nice in marriage.

Am not saying you should look artificial like most ladies do now but you can still look nice with a nice t-shirt or blouse on a flowered nice skirt or any colour. Men want their partner or ladies generally looking nice and attractive in a godly way.

If you dress like a LovePeddler like most ladies do now, you will be addressed by irresponsible men too. Get social, go for events, seminars, church programmes, go to places you can meet responsible and purposeful men not just any gathering.

I was never social. I didn’t have friends and no one wanted to be friends with me.

Now my friends and family make jest of my Husband because of how he looks but who cares, he has made me a “Mrs” and has taught me to look nice too. Now I take my time to look beautiful before I go out and I have seen men turn their heads, which was something that didn’t happen in my single years.

Singles out there, use your singleness to become productive and active too. Your youthfulness should be channelled to your usefulness. When you do innovative things and look nice too, men would come. Don’t blame God for your situation. You just didn’t make yourself available. I presented myself as a married woman even while single. Please look your youthful years, take care of your skin, body and look good.

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Written by Nyang Nneoma and copied from www.femmelounge.ng

jennylove7575: just as u are brainless to continue quoting me..how pathetic..your brain cells are dead.

Kinkybraids: Oh my gooness this is so sad. My heart skipped a beat... I Pray this doesnt happen to me. But a great lesson that you have taught us. I just hope you dont have any regrets, I personally would rather die single than to settle... But to die a virgin lol I dont think I could.

jayjagz: why was it the negative side of the story you picked?

Lily4star:

*Turns on my tv*
Haaaa, its that film ooo

'Jennylove7575 Vs Fruityjojo Part 1'

Oya make I enjoy


Lololol. Just kidding babe. You girls take it easy abeg
How you dey jor?

jennylove7575: am fine joor...I just hate when babes go dey insult her fellow babe for nl... For wetin Na? That babe rude..she just picked on the wrong person.

fruityjojo:
Okk. Lemme help a sister out.
What the op was trying to get across was that there are some girls that don't socialise & take care of their exterior looks under the guise of religious piet. And that being a good christian doesn't mean u have to dress shabby & disassociate urself from people!
Else, u might end up in op's situation where she took a decision she might not have taken under normal circumstances! That's the moral
Btw am not the Op neither do I know her,I am literate enough to understand a simple piece of writing

fruityjojo:
Okk. Lemme help a sister out.
What the op was trying to get across was that there are some girls that don't socialise & take care of their exterior looks under the guise of religious piet. And that being a good christian doesn't mean u have to dress shabby & disassociate urself from people!
Else, u might end up in op's situation where she took a decision she might not have taken under normal circumstances! That's the moral
Btw am not the Op neither do I know her,I am literate enough to understand a simple piece of writing

Lily4star:

Comot eye jor, how you go allow make peron wey you no dey even see dey vex you? , she fit dey laugh where she dey, stop taking Nl serious jor, I just prepare Egusi soup with turkey, make I give you small?, but nah you go do semo, garri or buy fufu yourself oooo

Les: no one dies a virgin, life fuçks us all. Obviously, you're overfúcked.

jennylove7575: I know and understood the message the OP is trying to pass across... But the clause that ruin the story is the marriage proposal bit...what message is she tying to potray to people who falls into her category? That they could miss out on men and marry out of desperation? Just to bear Mrs somebody?... If the op had said she is in love with the guy she married it will make sense...op made it look like being unmarried is a curse, sin, taboo or crime. That's why she married out of desperation... Hmmm! Pls next time if u don't agree with peoples comment don't throw insult at them..I don't insult people because everybody is entitled to their opinion.

fruityjojo:
Lol you should learn to live by your rules ist! You used the words 'SICKENING & PATHETIC' on the op cos u didn't agree with his story
Wah is good 4 the goose is good 4 the gander!
Still yet u don't get the moral of the story. Anyways am sorry abt my no brains comment. Goodnyt

jennylove7575: I like amala..wan Yoruba bobo weh I been get spoil me with amala

jennylove7575: do you have problem with English language? This is absurd!

thandii1:

Apparently she does. There's a difference between seeing a write up as sickening and pathetic and saying someone is without brains.

Settling for anything male just to become a mrs is indeed a sickening thing to do and should never be seen as a lesson. Even after living with the so called husband for 3years, she still refers to him as a stranger. Look at the ugly description she gave about the man that proposed to her and yet she immediately said yes without thinking twice, that's some scary ish.

Anyway, the only lesson here is to always strike a balance in every aspects of our lives -academic, religious, social, and so on. the marriage part should be trashed.

Kinkybraids:

I think you should speak for yourself, everyones life experiences are different...live in my shoes for a day or two and then you can be free to make that assumption

teewai3: whao whoa whoa....
jenylove7575 and fruityjojo, una dey disturb me ooo
wetin sef, una get beef outside NL ni, make una chil na

try nd undastand each other ok?
btw, jennylove7575, hw d Amala stuff, me i dey feel hungry

fruityjojo:
Okk. Lemme help a sister out.
What the op was trying to get across was that there are some girls that don't socialise & take care of their exterior looks under the guise of religious piet. And that being a good christian doesn't mean u have to dress shabby & disassociate urself from people!
Else, u might end up in op's situation where she took a decision she might not have taken under normal circumstances! That's the moral
Btw am not the Op neither do I know her,I am literate enough to understand a simple piece of writing

jennylove7575: yes because the negative part is the cache of the story and its her supposed misfortune or rather testimony.... My point is, its very wrong to enter into marriage with a guy because of pressure or desperation. It is insane to spend the rest of ur life with a man u don't love. Op just talked about how she missed out on better men because of her born again looks or dressing..the clause I detest in the story is accepting the proposal of the man she didn't love out of desperation. The story is thoughtless.

naijaboiy: I see many of them in school,,they don't even look as if they are interested in any man...

Maybe they are waiting for God to drop down a husband from heaven

rman:

Life is not perfect. She is just a realist..
You have not walked in her shoes so you can never judge her situation objectively.

She realized she got it all wrong and she is willing to accept her situation under the most realistic opportunity that came her way to marry.

Yes she was desperate, but she is also willing to learn to love what is available. Desperation produced results under this circumstance. Sometimes, desperation is good.

However, she delayed her joy and her choice may have been different if she didn't make the assumption that she got it all figured out (through religion). The exact subtle message in your quoted post is similar to her attitude as a young religious lady if one looks at it from a different POV.

It is a beautiful write up dear.

fruityjojo:
It doesn't take a genius to realise that In the desperation/marriage part Lies the moral & the nitty-gritty of the write up. Without that there would be no story to tell, no lesson to learn!
Don't waste ur precious tym explaining again dear.
Trying to make sum peeps get the point is lyk ur flogging a dead horse! Complete waste of time.

fruityjojo:
It doesn't take a genius to realise that In the desperation/marriage part Lies the moral & the nitty-gritty of the write up. Without that there would be no story to tell, no lesson to learn!
Don't waste ur precious tym explaining again dear.
Trying to make sum peeps get the point is lyk ur flogging a dead horse! Complete waste of time.

rman:

You are just judging the write up based in your own parameters. The parameters a judgmental society passed onto you.

Whatever rocks your boat sha. Have a nice day

glitest:

Yes ooo!!...They are waiting for him to land like that Richard Lander

LoL...

Who's Richard Lander by the way