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Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by gabbytabby: 3:07pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Chillisauce:My thoughts exactly. 3 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by Nobody: 3:08pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
This thread is cold ***shivers and runs out*** 1 Like |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by remsonik(f): 3:12pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
majekdom2: But I don't think likes of okonjo , diezani, folayiwo or akinyuli would be asked to drink water from their dead spouses..only a lady seen as a liability can be asked to do all these.... When she can stand upto her right from the first day she can always overcome whatever future challenges including cheating..... Am I getting something wrong ? Well its not about being well to do or being well educated. Its the fact that cheating is bad and overcoming infidelity in marriage is not a function of how rich or well to do you are. You make it seem like cheating is a right for every man. You better change if you are the philandering man 8 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by Nobody: 3:21pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Am only of the opinion if you can't cope with a cheating partner , move on , not to make merry at his death or downfall. There are worse habits a man can have that can ruin the home with offsprings emulating such habits too. |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by frmglorytoglory: 3:23pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
Hmmm this is food for thought for all those cheating spouses who like to rub their philandering ways in the faces of their partners. Nothing kills love in a marriage faster than infidelity/unfaithfulness. I remember a friend when I was younger whose father was a confirmed and unrepentant womaniser. He flaunted his escapades to their faces as per his wife and kids. Never bothered much with them financially or emotionally but spent greatly on his mistresses. When this man died I saw sheer relief on his wife's face. Even they kids couldn't care the less after all he was never available. Its a serious lesson for all and sundry. 4 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by Nobody: 3:44pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
aisha2: I remember a scene I witnessed in the hospital once. A woman was screaming and cursing seriously at a man in coma in the accident and emergency ward. She was being dragged out by the nurses and security yet she was still cursing and cursing, the man was in pretty bad shape. This your story reminds me of pathetic news stories of married men dying while having s*e*x with their mistresses/whores in hotel rooms. When their wives hear of how they died, do we expect them to mourn these men too? Hahahahaha. What a joke and a disgrace!! The corpses of their husbands would look like refuse dump in their eyes. 6 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by thandii1: 3:45pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
chaircover: This thread is cold Lol. The first thread Op talked about this friend of her, I remember you sharing the experience you had too, with an acquaintance who you paid a visit after the death of her spouse but didn't look like she was mourning and you had to leave hurriedly. People are just giving real life instances too. They aren't advocating killing of cheating spouses na, stop shivering. 3 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by Nobody: 7:01pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
thandii1: Where is my cardigan, socks and blanket? |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by iykedare(m): 8:05pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
aisha s first comment really got me scared. So most of you will prefer that your cheating husbands die? Nigerian ladies.......what good thing can we say about you?/? |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by iykedare(m): 8:08pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
[size=18pt] bennyrazz: yes, there are countless stories of how some devil incarnates kill their spouses all cuz they want to take possession of their properties. They do it through using local charms, hired assassins e.tc its really sad and I use to tell people that if the basis of a woman's love for you is the materials you have to offer, then you are doomed if not now but in future[/size] no wonder they long for rich guys so that they will kill the guys and inherit their properties |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by iykedare(m): 8:19pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
BABE3: sensible comment from a sensible woman 1 Like |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by iykedare(m): 8:40pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
blueberryp: Na wa for una o, r u guys trying to say any man that dies was killed by the wife just because she isn't wearing black, starving and carrying a gloomy face? This is the 21st century for crying out loud, people die, we have to move on. People grieve differently pls. Will mourning and torturing urself bring the dead person back, or will it take him to heaven? I hereby confer you with the title `MUMU 1 OF NAIRALAND`. 2 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by iykedare(m): 8:48pm On Sep 20, 2014 |
beeevan: What is there to mourn about a cheating husband? The only reason I won't kill him myself is because I might be caught and I can't risk a jail term for some douche bag or worst still, my conscience might not contain it. There isn't much difference between a murderer and a cheating spouse. A cheating spouse is a potential killer as far as am concerned. If you are tired of a relationship, walk out than cheat or better still let your partner know about it and walk out. if you are caught, you can't control what happens afterwards . aderonila18: 1 Like
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Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by cococandy(f): 12:52am On Sep 21, 2014 |
Who's this thandii. The babe just dey yarn my mind Following thandii1: 1 Like |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by sheniqua: 4:19am On Sep 21, 2014 |
We can say all we want but the truth is that our nigerian culture in General is cruel to widows She could never do anything to please anyone If she cries,they'll accuse her of her pretending She is not crying 24/7 they accuse her of not being sorrowful enough She looks good,they conclude she killed her husband Even those genuinely in pain from the loss are not spared The man of God that joined us in holy matrimony died on top of his mistress leaving a wife and half a dozen kids to mourn him The whole church abandoned the wife to bury her husband People in their sanctimoniousness were more pained that he disgraced the church than the pain and agony his wife of over a decade was going through at the loss of the bread winner. Then to the topic directly I don't see any sane woman rejoicing at the death of her husband no matter how much a skirt chaser he was There must be a part of you that will mourn his loss Even if it is the loss of what you could have had together had he been faithful or the loss of your children's father I would be careful and make sure to keep far away from a woman that will rejoice at the death of her husband |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by sheniqua: 4:21am On Sep 21, 2014 |
smokescreen4: I want to hear from married folks especially women, would you sincerely mourn a man that cheats on you. I have a friend though we are not very close I had spoken about her on another thread she lost her hubby some months ago and she seem to be having the time of her life, I have ran into her a couple of times since her hubby's death and she has never looked sooo pretty and sexy. Sources close to her said her husband's cheating has always bin an issue she had told some people she would leave the marriage, the guy died suddenly he was 42 so I heard, personally I HATE cheating but this lady seem to be soo happy she is letting it show, a lot of people are talking about it, she is now a rich sexy widow with two cute kids.Over to you ladies would your tears be that of hurt/sorrow or tears of relief. If he was that bad why didn't she leave? They should investigate thoroughly,she and her boyfriend may have killed the man to get at his money. What woman will be ecstatic at the sudden death of her "cute " children's father? I can't wrap my mind around that What a cold,self centered soul? Even women abandoned completely by their husbands for years,still mourn him with their children at his death That is the more common picture we see which tells me this your friend is cold blooded |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by smokescreen4: 9:01am On Sep 21, 2014 |
UPDATE:I really dug up the cause of death he died from thromboembolism it occurs when they is a sudden cut of blood supply to certain parts of the brain, dat his was caused by cerebral ischemia. A young doctor related to them was more than happy to give the information to my source, he said it was same thing goldie died of. 1 Like |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by misssPepper(f): 12:01pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
I know y'all will judge but there was a time I would just ask God why my abusive ex wouldn't just die in his sleep or I die in my sleep, I was suicidal. Leaving d marriage seemed so hard. I wouldn't miss him if he died. I was in hell. Anyways, I finally helped myself n I left. It's Nigeria, to save face most women would rather stay. I know I'm being judged for being divorced but it isn't that bad. I dodge a few people here n there but ultimately i'm having a blast n my friends say I look better. I feel better. Don't wait 4 any1 to die b4 u take charge of ur life, it may not happen and ur life will just be wasted. I'm alive, he's alive, but he's no longer my problem 11 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:20pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
kreamidiva: Forgiving might mean the person going unpunished and I can't take such chances . I don't believe in waiting for karma, i can forgive after I have aided karma to pay the person a visit, only then can i both forgive and forget. The only way I can really move on from the deceit. 3 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:23pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
iykedare: At 40 + of age, you never get sense, why? 4 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:32pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Such corpses should be flung into a shallow grave naked. 1 Like |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by Nobody: 12:34pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
beeevan:are you so holy and righteous. do you mean you dont offend anyone ? if everyone was to think like you then no one would be living now. come on .... no offender goes unpunished. have you not heard of cheating men who develop terminal illnesses even before they are 50 .... cases of prostate cancer and the rest. they live everyday with pains wishing they are dead. let fate take it cause. |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:35pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
aderonila18: Gbam, be a good husband and she will mourn you forever!!#key sentence # . 2 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:36pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
majekdom2: are you so holy and righteous. do you mean you dont offend anyone ? if everyone was to think like you then no one would be living now. come on .... no offender goes unpunished. have you not heard of cheating men who develop terminal illnesses even before they are 50 .... cases of prostate cancer and the resint. they live everyday with pains wishing they are dead. let fate takes it cause. If I am righteous I did be so forgiving, i am flawed just like the rest of my specie . 2 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by Nobody: 12:39pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
beeevan:and so , have it in mind someone is planning ur downfall also.since u wish to aid karma. |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:40pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
Pavore9: @majekdom2, l personally feel a cheating man is taking his family for granted, he lives with the thought "what can they do to me as the head of the family?" l can't profess that l love my family & at the same time putting them at risk, such duality! Thank you! |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:44pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
majekdom2: and so , have it in mind someone is planning ur downfall also.since u wish to aid karma. Yes( if I go hurting people) , just as yours will catch up with you, stop cheating on your wife so your heart won't be beating fast wherever dead cheats are mentioned. Zip up your trousers, its not hard, humans shouldn't hump around like animals. It's obvious I struck a raw nerve with my post, repent so no one will wish you are dead, its that simple. 7 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:54pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
majekdom2: The truth remains , No matter ill a spouse could be , there is that thing you ll miss about him/her and wish then they never left. The lady might just have that outward look , she does will have some grieve. cheating is totally different from not caring , giving attention or showing love. Stop consoling yourself with this, just repent right away . 7 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:56pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
Chillisauce: Isn't it obvious? 2 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by beeevan: 12:58pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
Nashville: Agreed, nature took the cheating spouse in this case, not wify. 1 Like |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by Pavore9: 1:24pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
I still insists on living right and your loved ones will remember you with fond memory. 7 Likes |
Re: When A Cheating Spouse Dies by Nobody: 3:31pm On Sep 21, 2014 |
beeevan: Buhahahahaha. that was harsh! I would rather not touch the corpse for fear of Ebola. 1 Like |
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