Chillisauce:

E bi like say you dey the lane of cheating. Change your ways oh, if you want to be mourned .

majekdom2: But I don't think likes of okonjo , diezani, folayiwo or akinyuli would be asked to drink water from their dead spouses..only a lady seen as a liability can be asked to do all these.... When she can stand upto her right from the first day she can always overcome whatever future challenges including cheating..... Am I getting something wrong ?

aisha2: I remember a scene I witnessed in the hospital once. A woman was screaming and cursing seriously at a man in coma in the accident and emergency ward. She was being dragged out by the nurses and security yet she was still cursing and cursing, the man was in pretty bad shape.
I heard later that he travelled with his mistress while she was in the hospital taking care of their sick child. Unfortunately both he and the mistress had a horrible accident just outside the state capital and were rushes to the same hospital where she was busy nursing her baby thinking the man was on a business trip, she got called to come that her husband had an accident only to get down and discover he was brought in with his mistress whom she had several clashes with before.
Oh the woman cursed and cursed I had never witnessed that kind of thing, the mistress had multiply broken bones while the man was worse.

I heard later that the woman asked his relatives to come and care for him because their child had cancer and that was who she will care for. Sadly the man later died but the mistress spent almost 2 years in the hospital.

After the way she cursed him out in the hospital I doubt she would pretend to mourn later even though death brings about some soberness and forgiveness. You can be angry at a dead person can you?

chaircover: This thread is cold

***shivers and runs out***

thandii1:

Lol. The first thread Op talked about this friend of her, I remember you sharing the experience you had too, with an acquaintance who you paid a visit after the death of her spouse but didn't look like she was mourning and you had to leave hurriedly.

People are just giving real life instances too. They aren't advocating killing of cheating spouses na, stop shivering.

bennyrazz: yes, there are countless stories of how some devil incarnates kill their spouses all cuz they want to take possession of their properties. They do it through using local charms, hired assassins e.tc its really sad and I use to tell people that if the basis of a woman's love for you is the materials you have to offer, then you are doomed if not now but in future

BABE3:


If it was the UK or US or any developed country, and the husband's death was being investigated, she'll be the prime suspect. I've seen many cases like this and the wives ended up being found guilty of the murders.

So many die in Nigeria without their deaths being investigated; no autopsy, no nothing. The chances of getting killed by a spouse or someone close to you is very high in that country. There are no laws to defend spouses really, so it's easier for them to take the law into their hands.



Even if your husband is Adolf Hitler, and he dies, her behavior as described is highly inappropriate and abnormal; and could get any jury to fry her äss.

blueberryp: Na wa for una o, r u guys trying to say any man that dies was killed by the wife just because she isn't wearing black, starving and carrying a gloomy face? This is the 21st century for crying out loud, people die, we have to move on. People grieve differently pls. Will mourning and torturing urself bring the dead person back, or will it take him to heaven?

beeevan: What is there to mourn about a cheating husband? The only reason I won't kill him myself is because I might be caught and I can't risk a jail term for some douche bag or worst still, my conscience might not contain it. There isn't much difference between a murderer and a cheating spouse. A cheating spouse is a potential killer as far as am concerned. If you are tired of a relationship, walk out than cheat or better still let your partner know about it and walk out. if you are caught, you can't control what happens afterwards .


People can say what they like about your friend, she won't be looking so ravishing if she killed the cheat, she would have made an effort at pretense if she was the killer. Death has delivered many troubled women, death is nature, it happens to us all, you can't beat up a woman for not somersaulting for a dead spouse that would have re married instanta if tables where turned.


So because she is not hitting her head on the wall for a man that left no good memory of what they shared, she killed him? people sef.

aderonila18:

Thank you jare, what is there to mourn in a man who disrespected her throughout their marriage. Abeg free the woman, I'm sure she was putting up with him because of how this society judges divorced women. You can't blame her if she's relived that she won't have to put up with his cheating ways for the rest of her life. Personally I would rather divorce the cheat but as long as she didn't kill him I totally understand her choosing not to mourn him. I'm sure he made her cry many nights while he was alive so the poor woman is done crying

thandii1:

I was about to throw in this line of argument. Some kids do not mourn their parents because they are bitter about them, and yet they can't be judged because i did not walk in their shoes to know how badly hurt they have been with these people alive. We see these bitter kids on nl, who have terrible things to say about their parents and then people try to counsel them to let go the bitterness and bla bla. You just can not mourn someone who was a symbol of bitterness in your life. All you will feel is a sense of relief. Does that make it morally right, well, that's subjective.

I think its easier for some men to sit out while a few just come in to twist the storyline to murdering a cheating spouse because no man will put up with a cheating wife in the first place(even one time cheating sef, she's out of the house for sometime or forever, not to talk of continuous unhidden cheating) , but quite a number of women put up with cheating husbands(including the ones who rub the cheating in their faces) because of the fear of being alone, being judged, the stigma of single motherhood, and of course their favourite line 'for the kids', not realising they are living with bitterness and planting the seed unknowingly in the kids.

A lady opened a thread sometime ago about missing a spouse who died 10 years ago even though she's remarried. Another opened a thread to talk about how hard it was moving on after years of losing her fiancee. A good number of women refuse to remarry and choose to mourn their spouses forever despite the advices from different angles to move on. Of course the mourning will not bring back their loved ones, but to them its the best way to keep them in their hearts forever, they believe they owe it to them.

Bottom line, everyone has a right to mourn however he or she pleases . Aint like the one being mourned cares from his or her coffin.

smokescreen4: I want to hear from married folks especially women, would you sincerely mourn a man that cheats on you. I have a friend though we are not very close I had spoken about her on another thread she lost her hubby some months ago and she seem to be having the time of her life, I have ran into her a couple of times since her hubby's death and she has never looked sooo pretty and sexy. Sources close to her said her husband's cheating has always bin an issue she had told some people she would leave the marriage, the guy died suddenly he was 42 so I heard, personally I HATE cheating but this lady seem to be soo happy she is letting it show, a lot of people are talking about it, she is now a rich sexy widow with two cute kids.Over to you ladies would your tears be that of hurt/sorrow or tears of relief.

kreamidiva:

Yeah... you're right. But how can one move on without letting go or forgiving the hurt they feel?

I can forgive but would never forget. That way, it makes it easier for me to completely move on.

iykedare:

Sophyrocks:

This your story reminds me of pathetic news stories of married men dying while having s*e*x with their mistresses/whores in hotel rooms. When their wives hear of how they died, do we expect them to mourn these men too? Hahahahaha. What a joke and a disgrace!! The corpses of their husbands would look like refuse dump in their eyes.

beeevan:




Forgiving might mean the person going unpunished and I can't take such chances . I don't believe in waiting for karma, i can forgive after I have aided karma to pay the person a visit, only then can i both forgive and forget. The only way I can really move on from the deceit.

aderonila18:

God bless you for saying the truth. The problem with this world is people always want to sow evil thinking they can reap good. You can't disrespect your wife and treat her like garbage and expect her to mourn you. Be a good husband and she'll mourn you for ever.

majekdom2: are you so holy and righteous. do you mean you dont offend anyone ? if everyone was to think like you then no one would be living now. come on .... no offender goes unpunished. have you not heard of cheating men who develop terminal illnesses even before they are 50 .... cases of prostate cancer and the resint. they live everyday with pains wishing they are dead. let fate takes it cause.

beeevan:




If I am righteous I did be so forgiving, i am flawed just like the rest of my specie .

Pavore9: @majekdom2, l personally feel a cheating man is taking his family for granted, he lives with the thought "what can they do to me as the head of the family?" l can't profess that l love my family & at the same time putting them at risk, such duality!

majekdom2: and so , have it in mind someone is planning ur downfall also.since u wish to aid karma.

majekdom2: The truth remains , No matter ill a spouse could be , there is that thing you ll miss about him/her and wish then they never left. The lady might just have that outward look , she does will have some grieve. cheating is totally different from not caring , giving attention or showing love.

Chillisauce:

E bi like say you dey the lane of cheating. Change your ways oh, if you want to be mourned .

Nashville:

Anyone that knowingly takes another's life, does not deserve to be alive. If a person kills their spouse, that person should face the maximum penalty. No one has a right or reason to take another's life. It's never justifiable. Cheating or not!

beeevan:



Such corpses should be flung into a shallow grave naked.