Getting into a heated argument doesn’t just put you in a bad mood. It can also compromise your ability to perform everyday tasks—like driving—in ways that could be dangerous for you or the people around you. Here, top experts discuss what you should never do when under the influence of anger, with tips for regaining your composure.

1)You shouldn’t sleep on it
The saying “never go to bed angry” is valid advice. Going to sleep may reinforce or “preserve” negative emotions, suggests a study in the Journal of Neuroscience, which found that sleep enhances memories, particularly emotional ones. “We are learning that sleep seems to help us process and consolidate information we acquire while we are awake,” says Allen Towfigh, MD, a New York City-based board certified sleep medicine doctor and neurologist. So going to bed after an argument will likely cause that experience to be consolidated more effectively than if you went on to remain awake for that same eight-hour period, says Dr. Towfigh.

2)You shouldn’t drive
Operating a motor vehicle when you’re enraged can be dangerous. Research shows that angry drivers take more risks and have more accidents. “When you’re angry, you’re primed for attack, so it’s not a good time to jump in a vehicle,” says David Narang, PhD, a clinical psychologist in Santa Monica, Calif. “In addition, anger gives a person tunnel vision—you stare straight ahead and may not see a pedestrian or another car coming into your peripheral vision crossing the street.” If you must drive when angry, Narang suggests opening your eyes purposefully and looking around you to avoid tunnel vision.

3)You shouldn’t vent
Getting anger off your chest sounds like a good idea, but it may actually make matters worse. In fact, people who simply spent five minutes reading another person’s online rants became angrier and less happy in a study published in the journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking. An earlier study also showed that venting anger by hitting pillows not only increased anger at that moment but made aggressive behavior more likely in the future. “They feel validated in what they’re saying by venting,” says Narang, “but they’re not less angry

4)You shouldn’t eat
Soothing your anger by reaching for food can backfire in a couple of ways, says Kathy Gruver, PhD, author ofConquer Your Stress With Mind/Body Techniques. “When we are angry, we often make unhealthy food choices,” she says. “No one ever reaches for broccoli. We go for the high-sugar, high-fat, carbohydrate-loaded comfort foods.” In addition, a heightened state of emotions sparks the fight or flight response, where the body thinks it’s in danger. In such a state, digestion takes a backseat to the “emergency” at hand and does not function optimally, says Gruver. This may result in diarrhea or constipation.

5)You shouldn’t keep arguing
Staying in the conversation when you have difficulty modulating your anger makes it likely you’ll say things you’ll regret, says Christine M. Allen, PhD, psychologist and coach from Syracuse, NY. “If it’s possible you will say hurtful things that you’ll regret and can’t take back, ask for a ‘time out’ with intention to come back to the conversation,” she suggests. You may need 10 minutes or 10 days. “It’s the willingness to come back to the conversation and initiate that is key,” Allen says. Use the time out to actively calm the mind and the body so that you express yourself in a more mindful, intentional manner.

6)You shouldn’t post about your conflict on Facebook
When you’re angry, broadcasting your feelings to your friends and family on Facebook and other social networks will more than likely come back to haunt you, says Narang. “Posting something publicly can’t be taken back,” he says.

7)You shouldn’t drink alcohol
Reaching for a glass of wine to calm yourself down after an angry encounter often does the opposite, says Narang. “Alcohol makes it more likely you’ll act out your anger because it removes impulse control.” Alcohol lowers inhibitions by acting on the frontal lobes of the brain, which are responsible for controlling the impulses that prevent us from giving in to urges to harm others or ourselves. “This may lead to more permanent destruction by doing things you’ll regret, all from a temporary emotion,” says Narang.

You shouldn’t ruminate
Obsessively thinking about ways the other person harmed you or was unfair to you—known as rumination—does not resolve anything, says Allen. If you find yourself on the receiving end of someone else’s anger, you may be able to calm them down by first keeping your own cool, says Narang. Start out talking to the angry person in a manner that matches his or her level of emotion and then gradually become calmer and steadier as you speak to them. “This leads them to a calmer place,” says Narang.

This originaly appeared on health.con

wetin i go come do?... jump inside well?

most of d points above are actually tension relievers..

mtcheew.. if i vex now ehn.. u go hear whhhiiiiin

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8. You should not bang someone's daughter also because u can scatter d vJ wall.

See as you just tied my arms. So what should we do?

8. My mum taught me not to post letters or send emails and text messages when I'm angry; especially to the person who put me in the state.

Here's what works for me - Playing an action game helps to calm me down when I'm angry. The game characters are the ones that feel the heat. Lol. Just try it.

Tymax: See as you just tied my arms. So what should we do?

When you get angry pick a pen andd note and sttart writing CHILL continously in capital letters. It works write it abour 200 times before u do anything else.if there is no paper count from 100 to 1 #thatsjusthowifeel

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We can't keep the anger like that....we have to let it out. Or else it will consume u!!

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For those asking about what you should do, try the following so that you don't even have to get angry in the first place.

1. Talk Yourself out of being offended
In the heat of the moment, try asking yourself these questions:
“What am I getting so bent out of shape for? Does this really matter? What’s the big deal?” Reason with yourself: “Did he really mean it the way I perceived it? ‘’what is he really trying to say?”
Remember, the reason we usually feel offended/angry is because of the meaning we attach to what is said or done: “That means he really doesn’t care!” “She’s saying I am no good!” “I knew he didn’t really love me!” “She wouldn’t say that if she was …” And so the internal interpretation goes. So simply reframe it. Talk yourself out of the offense. Know that the person is simply expressing his opinion. You will be happier as you learn to talk yourself out of offence.

2. Reserve Judgment, don’t be quick to conclude. Delay your response
Delay judgment until the conversation has run its course. You just may find there is no offense to be had or nothing to be angry about by the time you get to the end.

3: Accept Imperfection

We all have foibles, idiosyncrasies and personality and character flaws. Yours just may be different than mine. So don’t hold on to the imperfections of others so tightly that you strangle yourself in the process!
Part of accepting others’ imperfections is also learning to forgive them their past mistakes (so the current problem isn’t blown out of proportion as an extension of a previous problem unresolved) Remember, people are imperfect. You are imperfect. Life is imperfect.

Noted! Nice one Op.

When you are angry bang your head or fist into the wall it helps a lot

When angry, the first three words that tries to come out øf ur mouth must not be allowed.

Nice post. Also never speak when you're angry or you will make the best speech you will ever regret.

really

Ah yaff hear

I rarely get angry... And if I do, 10mins is too much to forget about what made me angry...

Life is too short to worry about unnecessary things

You shouldn't eat, drink or drive. ..you shouldn't sleep too

so much for getting angry

When I'm angry,my phone feels the hear,I play games till the battery runs down,and by then I'm calmer.

I think people are different....but it's best to think over things before taking decisions when angry. I always try to do so cos I never really make right decisions when done hastily when angry

OK oooo i hear you....well I will just come nairaland oops! No reading too, OP this pass anger

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Simply put, u shouldnt live wiith anger 'cos its dangerous to u physically n spiiriitually

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I do not quite agree with number 4.
cos it relieves me the most when I'm angry.
whenever I'm angry I eat eat eat and eat nervously, only that way I could be relieve