lirusehn:

ya single also?

greatgod2012:


my dear, just last week, i was at my SIL place, his son just gained admission into higher institution, his dad gave him his school fees, he just collected it, without saying anything, it was as if i wanted to explode, but i tried to control myself. As if that was not enough, she(SIL) asked me to accompany her to go do shopping for his son, so along the way, i discussed the attitude of ungratefulness i observed with her son and can you guess what she said? She said in yoruba and i quote.........haaaa, awon omo aye isinyi ko leko, meaning children of nowadays lack good manners, i said no ma, point of correction, you're the one that never taught him to be well mannered, if you have instilled the sense of gratitude in him, he would have been used to it. So after we came back from shopping, the mother bought him 5 trousers, 5 shirts, underwears, shoes, sandals, slippers and varieties of provisions. To my utter amazement, he just collected those stuffs without saying anything, i had to call him back and asked him why he didn't appreciate all they did for him, surprisingly, he said.......it's their duty now, why will i thank them for performing their duties. I then asked that what if they refuse to perform their duties, will you kill them, so, i tried to educate him on the importance of being appreciative. Atleast, for that day, he went to them and thank them after my "sermons on the mountain".
What am i saying? It is the way we train these children that they will carry to adulthood.
Once again, may God help us all parents.

egopersonified:

No, thanks. LMAO.

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greatgod2012:


my dear, just last week, i was at my SIL place, his son just gained admission into higher institution, his dad gave him his school fees, he just collected it, without saying anything, it was as if i wanted to explode, but i tried to control myself. As if that was not enough, she(SIL) asked me to accompany her to go do shopping for his son, so along the way, i discussed the attitude of ungratefulness i observed with her son and can you guess what she said? She said in yoruba and i quote.........haaaa, awon omo aye isinyi ko leko, meaning children of nowadays lack good manners, i said no ma, point of correction, you're the one that never taught him to be well mannered, if you have instilled the sense of gratitude in him, he would have been used to it. So after we came back from shopping, the mother bought him 5 trousers, 5 shirts, underwears, shoes, sandals, slippers and varieties of provisions. To my utter amazement, he just collected those stuffs without saying anything, i had to call him back and asked him why he didn't appreciate all they did for him, surprisingly, he said.......it's their duty now, why will i thank them for performing their duties. I then asked that what if they refuse to perform their duties, will you kill them, so, i tried to educate him on the importance of being appreciative. Atleast, for that day, he went to them and thank them after my "sermons on the mountain".
What am i saying? It is the way we train these children that they will carry to adulthood.
Once again, may God help us all parents.

temigracie: ..hmmm....@OP...Tanks for sharing this useful and valuable information....

I am richly blessed to be Miss Grace....I'm blessed to be raised by my loving and sweet parents....

SOme of this values our parent imparted in us are fading....Children of nowadays are growing faster....They dont want to even hear about culture and values talkless of doing it....

I think parents should do and try all their possible best to impart this into their children....Like one yoruba proverb that says 'Ati kekere latin paka iroko'....It means foundation matters alot....We should not wait till when our children becomes dried fish before we try to bend them to do our wish...

shehuakafi: German Muslim scholar replies on
TERRORISM ... I liked the
answer of this German Muslim scholar
when he was asked
about terrorism and Islam : He said : Who
started the first
world war? not Muslims ? Who started the
second world war ?
not Muslims ? Who killed about 20 millions
of Aborigines in
Australia ? not Muslims ?? Who sent the
nuclear bombs of
Hiroshima and Nagasaki ? not Muslims ??
killed more than
100 millions of Indians in North America ?
not Muslims ??
Who killed more than 50 millions of Indians
in south
America ? not Muslims ?? Who took about
180 millions of
African people as slaves and 88% of them
died and were
thrown in Atlantic ocean ? not Muslims ??
No , NOT Muslims!!!
First of all, You have to define terrorism
properly... If a non-
Muslim does something bad..it is crime.
But if a Muslim
commits the same..he is a terrorist... So
first remove this
double standard...then come to the
point!!! , . . . . . I am proud
to be a MUSLIM !!! ARE YOU

Joavid: I must say, I do not understand this topic fully.
So, when I finish eating at home, I should go and meet my mum and dad and say thank you
Is that not uncalled for and unnecessary. Same as saying when I drink water I should also say thank you to my parents

I do agree on the issue of showing gratitude and saying thank you; when necessary, especially when it is money, help, and material things.

greatgod2012:



what a coincidence!
That's what my baby on my profile pics is singing presently.

And before they even get admitted in school, they already get used to it, because we have the disc at home, collection of poems.
Thanks.

expensive007:
If she chooses to use them outwardly, and not inwardly alone. you see, it is not enough to have something in mind, but it is important to use them outside. i pray God will continually help us to be more mannerful. 'thank you!'

Joavid: I must say, I do not understand this topic fully.
So, when I finish eating at home, I should go and meet my mum and dad and say thank you
Is that not uncalled for and unnecessary. Same as saying when I drink water I should also say thank you to my parents

I do agree on the issue of showing gratitude and saying thank you; when necessary, especially when it is money, help, and material things.

egopersonified: Thank you op, my last born is 2 and one of his first words was 'ta-tu'. Whenever you give him anything, even ordinary water to drink, he goes 'ta-tu'. It melted my heart so much that I would always look for opportunties to give him something. And there's this nanny in his daycare that when you give her just N1,000, she will thank you, when she gets home, she will call you to thank you again and for the next three days its thank you galore and I keep feeling embarassed, I always feel the thank you is more than the gift so I am always giving even when I dont have enough for myself. I also learnt on nl to say thank you, with a smile, to my husband after eating, you need to see the way his eyes light up sometimes with satisfaction.

greatgod2012: Hello lovely Nairalanders.
I'm gradually resuming back to NL after my unofficial vacation.
I want us to learn from one another as regards what affects every family, which is...............training of our children, whether biological, adopted or live-ins(i mean relative kids who are living with us temporarily, for one reason or the other), therefore, i will be coming up mostly on threads that have to do with child/ren upbringing and today, we want to start with "teaching our children to always be appreciative, no matter how small or little the favour shown by whoever, be it parents, relatives, friends, visitors, employees/employers, or even strangers.


First, what is gratitude?
Gratitude is the appreciation for a favour given or shown to someone. It is the act of thankfulness. It is being grateful for favour or kindness.



How can we show gratitude?

Personally, the best way to show appreciation is by saying it out............by saying thank you each and everytime a kind of favour is given or shown to someone, without saying it out, the person doing the favour may think his/her favour/kindness is not appreciated, so, the best way to let the person know that you appreciate is by telling the person that you appreciate his good gesture towards you.
Another way is by leading as example, what you don't have, you can't give, if you're the type that's always grateful, they will always copy you. For example, when any of my kids do something nice, i thank them. It means you're indirectly training them to be likewise.
Why showing appreciation?
A yoruba adage says "eni to ba dupe ore ana, a ri emii gba" i.e if you say thank you for a kindness, it is an avenue for you to get another one". However, personally, the reason for being appreciative is not basically to get another one but to show that YOU ARE WELL AND PROPERLY BROUGTH UP. I use to say this, there is no bad elder, it is a bad child that grows to become bad adult, if one does not know how to say thank you for a good deed, then such should not complain when wickedness is shown to him. If somene can go out of his way to assist in one way or the other and the mouth seems to be too heavy to utter just "thank you, such a person should not use the same heavy mouth to complain when a prospective helper refuses to help. This is in support of yoruba adage that says......."eni ti a ba se oore fun, ti ko ba dupe, ti a ba se ika fun, ko ma binu".




When do you start teaching your kids the sense of gratitude?

As early as possible, teaching our kids to be appreciative should start from when they are toddlers, so that they will get used to it. Infact, all my children's first words are...."tan tu" (thank you). They are so used to it now that it makes people , almost everyone that come across them to fall in love with them instantly. They are taught to say "thank you Lord" first thing in the morning, and that also is already part of them that no one can take away from them. Saying thank you by kids make people to conclude that, such kid is well-mannered, even though as kids, they have their flaws, but the sense of gratitude they possess has so much covered their other areas of weakness to the people outside.



How do you instill sense of gratitude into your kids?
Very simple; instist that they say thank you for whatever you do for them at home, even though, it is our duty to take care of our kids, but it's also their right to appreciate it.

Let us learn from one another, if there is any other point to add or modify, please, let's do and learn from one another.
May God help us all parents.

greatgod2012:


there is indeed no one you say thank you to that will not be happy and willing to do more.
Proved!

Last month, i was going to the salon with my daughter, and one woman admired her, gave her biscuit, we thanked her and left, the second day, my daughter wilingly requested to go and thank the woman for the biscuit given her the previous day, i allowed her, believe me, she came back with another gift, even more valuable than the former.