I was in a marriage seminar this evening where the speaker (a pastor) advised couples to watch porns so as to learn new techniques and enjoy sex more. Whats your take on this?

YES!
YES!
YES!

nooo

Noooooooo
My reasons can easily be brushed aside but I think it's not right and I won't do it
*the man might suddenly desire the superstar with enhanced boos and backside and soon his wife's once beautiful body becomes aging
*most of the moves , sounds , plays are stage managed and are not real
*the actors n actresses most times are on performance enhancement drugs
*a feeling of inferiority on both sides as the man might suddenly feel his manliness is not big enough and the lady her "assets" not charming enough
The list is endless
I fault a pastor for introducing that - pls remember it's my opinion and mustnt be followed

DWJOBScom: Noooooooo
My reasons can easily be brushed aside but I think it's not right and I won't do it
*the man might suddenly desire the superstar with enhanced boos and backside and soon his wife's once beautiful body becomes aging
*most of the moves , sounds , plays are stage managed and are not real
*the actors n actresses most times are on performance enhancement drugs
*a feeling of inferiority on both sides as the man might suddenly feel his manliness is not big enough and the lady her "assets" not charming enough
The list is endless
I fault a pastor for introducing that - pls remember it's my opinion and mustnt be followed

I also do not agree with the pastor. Nice one

Its not right, po'r'n makes it worse.....its not a sex'ua'l guide, which kaind pastor be that sef?

anyway some people lack imagination and creativity that's why they think they need p'or'n! Instead read books on the subject from trusted sources and communicate with your partner!

Hian!! A pastor preached such?
Nigeria MOG are really something else.

IF IN total agreement,why not.every thing must work well,this one inclusive too abi?!

IF U AIN'T married ,pls respect your self and leave this question alone o!

Well,well,well.........
Not saying right or wrong!
But then, drastic circumstances requires drastic approach to get drastic solution.

Well in my PERSONAL OPINION, if both the husband and wife are SOOOOO NAIVE, like virgin marrying virgin, there's nothing wrong for BOTH of them to watch it together to improve themselves, not as everyday tonic o, but maybe once or twice just for them to learn how to improve themselves sexually therein, and not for any gratification of any sort.

Abeg tell me d name of dis pastor b4 i comment.

Some porn can be quite educative, particularly those acted with the intention to guide couples to find sexual satisfaction, which have in addition to the act, instructions from the subject experts. The central theme of porn is arousal. It also shows debasement of women, which from a moral angle is totally unacceptable.
To indulge is to admit that your partner can't give u the satisfaction u crave and it is a matter of time before infidelity creeps in.

DWJOBScom: Noooooooo
My reasons can easily be brushed aside but I think it's not right and I won't do it
*the man might suddenly desire the superstar with enhanced boos and backside and soon his wife's once beautiful body becomes aging
*most of the moves , sounds , plays are stage managed and are not real
*the actors n actresses most times are on performance enhancement drugs
*a feeling of inferiority on both sides as the man might suddenly feel his manliness is not big enough and the lady her "assets" not charming enough
The list is endless
I fault a pastor for introducing that - pls remember it's my opinion and mustnt be followed

I totally agree with you. Naive people see it as educative. I am surprised a Pastor is endorsing it.

The Bolded are very true. why do we think we have a lot of rapists on rampage? why will people have the mind to have s*e*x with animals? where do such ideas come from? where do harmful s*e*xual practices come from? P*o*rn of course. The human brain is like a vacuum. You put in all sorts of ideas in your brain. You have to be careful of the type of information you put into it. It is detrimental to the marriage of anyone should he/she store ideas from p*o*rn into the brain. Most times, people are not good at filtering information into the brain. They will want to practicalise every single thing done in P*o*rn movies regardless of the consequences.

P*o*rn blinds people of the consequences of such acts. It doesnt remind people of the risk of stds and HIV. Do we know that those p*o*r*n stars give themselves stds inspite of the lab tests they do? I read a news story of a p*o*rn star sharing HIV to fellow actors and actresses unknown to their directors.

P*o*rn also portrays Humans as animals, women as sex objects and focuses on Lustful ideas and self grafitication.


Please please please, couples who value the sanctity of their marriage, who want their marriage to last, should stay away from P*o*rn or else they must be ready for the consequences that will follow. Do we Forget that P*o*rn is addictive? S*e*x addiction is a Psychiatric case. Once your partner becomes addicted to it and takes everything in P*o*rn to be what s*e*x should be, you are finished!!! You won't be the only one your partner would want to practicalise it with.

loll

Whatever gets your kpekus to rise and shine. Nothing concern moi with what two consenting adults do with their bodies in their bedroom.

Yes it's advisable

It's not good for godly couples to watch porn movie cos it's also a way of supporting the porn stars which is against God.

Yes it is! Nothing bad about it.

I will ask the question in the next church marriage seminar i attend.......

haywhy28: I was in a marriage seminar this evening where the speaker (a pastor) advised couples to watch porns so as to learn new techniques and enjoy sex more. Whats your take on this?

A PASTOR advised porn??The Church of Christ is really coming under attack! The End Times is near!

There are different ways to learn about sex. Even our Ss3 biology books show the basic sexual position and how everything is supposed to go down (Basic biology, chapter 18-Reproduction. Yeah I remember.)

However I think this pastor was trying to concentrate on the QUALITY of sex being offered by both partners. Unfortunately his only recourse for that was p0rn. Speaks a lot about his past life.

There are educative videos one can watch on improving one's sex life that does not involve viewing joysticks the size of sugarcanes. I have given example of a very good one before The lover's guide. Very mature and interesting. Genitals are mostly hidden and no outlandish acrobatics or screams are seen there. The original kama sutra was also good but the title has now been so bastardized that anyone who buys a film titled kama sutra now is bound to find out it is hard core p0rn. Other interesting books are 'The Joy of Sex' and most books by Anne hooper.

Watching p0rn especially for newlyweds is such a baaaaaaad idea. There is no way the man and woman won't feel inadequate and/or disgusted afterwards. It will make them see each other in a different and not so good light.

Which church did that for goodness sake?

Moderators, kindly move this topic to frontpage.Thanks

Godmystrength: I will ask the question in the next church marriage seminar i attend.......

Be careful when you ask o, lest they assume ....

5minsmadness:

Be careful when you ask o, lest they assume ....

i might not even stand up to ask. i will just write on a piece of paper and let it find its way to the appropriate quarter

Allahu akbar. Sheik Shekau watches porn in sambisa and fantasises about his 72 virgins in heaven and since he is not ready to die yet he goes and kidnaps several hundred secondary school girls (presumably virgins) and starts practicing how he will handle the virgins in the afterlife.
Alhamdullilah he was reunited with his virgins on 17th September, i'm very sure he has nacked over 30 now and they are so proud of the sheiks skills.

No.

If they are naive in the bizness, they can mutually agree to use porn. Afterall its a consensual sex that they are having.

Abeg op, my only aim here is to know the name of this church.

egopersonified: Abeg op, my only aim here is to know the name of this church.

Well,since you are bent on knowing, its a baptist church in oyo town

Yes, but home made ones, not all this fake nonsense where every single woman is pushing out two litres of liquid after each orga.sm.

Sophyrocks:

I totally agree with you. Naive people see it as educative. I am surprised a Pastor is endorsing it.

The Bolded are very true. why do we think we have a lot of rapists on rampage? why will people have the mind to have s*e*x with animals? where do such ideas come from? where do harmful s*e*xual practices come from? P*o*rn of course. The human brain is like a vacuum. You put in all sorts of ideas in your brain. You have to be careful of the type of information you put into it. It is detrimental to the marriage of anyone should he/she store ideas from p*o*rn into the brain. Most times, people are not good at filtering information into the brain. They will want to practicalise every single thing done in P*o*rn movies regardless of the consequences.

P*o*rn blinds people of the consequences of such acts. It doesnt remind people of the risk of stds and HIV. Do we know that those p*o*r*n stars give themselves stds inspite of the lab tests they do? I read a news story of a p*o*rn star sharing HIV to fellow actors and actresses unknown to their directors.

P*o*rn also portrays Humans as animals, women as sex objects and focuses on Lustful ideas and self grafitication.


Please please please, couples who value the sanctity of their marriage, who want their marriage to last, should stay away from P*o*rn or else they must be ready for the consequences that will follow. Do we Forget that P*o*rn is addictive? S*e*x addiction is a Psychiatric case. Once your partner becomes addicted to it and takes everything in P*o*rn to be what s*e*x should be, you are finished!!! You won't be the only one your partner would want to practicalise it with.

Speak for yourself. If you are that insecure about your body and the body of another woman intimidates you then it will be a problem for you not others. There are many couples who are ok with each others bodies and can't easily enjoy the scenes in the videos together without scrutinising the bodies of the people in the video.

I'm against watching porns. The porns we watched in our youthful exuberant days should suffice

On a lighter note, there are less lewd videos that can help couples improve on their sex life. A search on YouTube could help.