Being a good girlfriend can be tricky,
especially at the beginning of a relationship.
But whether you and your new boyfriend
are still feeling each other out, or if you're
approaching your five-year anniversary,
there are still a number of tips to follow if
you want to be a good girlfriend and to
make your relationship thrive. To be a good
girlfriend, you have to be loving and
supportive while maintaining your
independence. If you want to know how to
do it, just follow these steps!
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Method One of Three:
Be Open
1
Don't be too open at first. Easing into a
relationship is about ensuring that there
is plenty of space for the two of you to get
to know one another and trust that you're
right for one another. If you try too soon
to "make" something more out of your
relationship than it already is, premature
pushiness can scare him away and spoil
what is 'there' to be a good thing. Instead,
be patient and realize that it takes time to
nurture a solid and enduring relationship.
If you want to make it last, avoid the
following things:
Don't push him to call you his girlfriend
after a couple of dates; this risks
causing him to feel that the decision
wasn't his own. Be patient and let him
make up his own mind as to when the
word slips out. If you're compatible, it'll
happen soon enough.
Don't start talking about marriage and
children before you've even met his
friends or parents. Raising such issues
prematurely can create tension from
the outset and may stall or even bring
to an end an otherwise productive and
caring relationship.
While they say a way to a man's heart
is through his stomach, this doesn't
mean cooking him a three-course meal
on the first date. You don't need to
prove anything like this; you simply
need to be present and engaged in
listening, being attentive and sharing
your interests.
2
Be honest. While being honest to your
guy is very important, to the point of
being paramount, it is equally important
that you are honest with yourself. If you
overreact or make a mistake, you can
acknowledge your error and apologize. If
you're feeling vulnerable or upset, you can
sort through your feelings and verbalize
them to him in a non-accusing way.
And the most important thing here is
that you will be open about your
feelings as much as possible. For
example, if he does or says something
that bothers you, be open about how it
impacts you, without being accusing
or asking him to change.
If you establish solid lines of
communication from the outset, you'll
know sooner rather than later whether
this relationship will endure or fizzle
out.
3
Speak your mind. Don't be afraid to make
your desires, needs, and opinions known,
even when they may conflict with his. You
don't and shouldn't exist solely to please
him. Besides, showing that you are your
own person with your own needs,
desires, and approach to life will keep him
interested in getting to know and
understand you as a person. If you're
comfortable with speaking your mind,
then he'll be comfortable with speaking
his mind, too.
Just remember to express yourself in
way that doesn't attack anyone else's
opinion or lifestyle in any way––you
can be humble and outspoken at the
same time by using assertiveness
strategies and remaining considerate
of his feelings too.
4
Be yourself. Don't create a fake you just to
impress him. It might be tempting if you
think he'd prefer a different type of girl
but usually this is just cobbling together
snippets of things said or suggested and
you're likely to be wrong. After all, he
wants to date you, not some imagined
form of perfection. And if you really feel
tempted to change things about yourself
because he insists that you'd be better
thinner, taller, prettier, quieter, whatever,
then it's a good indication that you're not
compatible.
If he actually says such things to you in
a badgering, persistent manner, then it
is not love, but an attempt to control
you.
Don't pretend that you share his
interests if you don't. It might be
amusing or "safe" to do so initially but
it's extremely hurtful when he learns
that you don't really love what he loves;
he could be basing his thoughts about
your role in his future on something
that isn't real and it'll end up hurting
both of you.
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Method Two of Three:
Be Supportive
1
Take an interest in his interests.
Remember what he likes to do and what
he likes to talk about. You don't have to
act like you love his hobbies, but at least
try to understand why he's such a fan. If
he loves a band, try to understand why. If
he just loves to be playful and immature,
remember that it might just be his way of
releasing stress. In learning to accept his
unique way of being, you'll also be
learning more about yourself and
ultimately whether you could see yourself
spending the rest of your life with this
person.
You don't have to take an interest in all
of his interests. If he loves watching
baseball but you just can't get into it,
that's fine, too.
Just asking about his interests and
talking about the things that matter to
him can be enough.
2
Learn to work as a team. As in any
healthy relationship, you'll experience your
share of conflicts, some tiny, some big.
Remember to be true to yourself and try
to abandon any significant selfishness. A
relationship is a matter of teamwork and
a symbiotic relationship, not a parasitic
one, where a party gives and the other
one just takes without giving enough
back. In a team, you have each other's
back, you don't undermine one another
and you openly cherish each other in front
of others.
In times of hardship, a team approach
can help you to work through
problems in a less emotionally attached
way, in that both of you assume
responsibilities for fixing things rather
than expecting one or the other to fix
things.
Avoid having a "one track" relationship
in which the bond revolves around one
thing. Keep your relationship strong by
bringing variety and diversity into the
relationship. Try different and new
things together. Relationships are
about having fun together, learning
together and growing together.
3
Compliment him more than you criticize
him. If everything you say around him is a
criticism or an attack, he won't look
forward to seeing you and he'll start
reconsidering being with you. All the
same, you don't always have to agree with
him just because he is your boyfriend.
Tactfulness is a better strategy in mature
relationships and establishing boundaries
and making compromises are important
relationship strategies to learn and adopt.
Though you can bring up a valid
criticism when it feels right, you should
say at least four positive things about
him for every negative thing you say.
Don't nag him just because you're in a
bad mood or things aren't going
perfectly.
4
Learn to compromise. If you want to be a
good girlfriend, then you have to learn to
compromise instead of fighting or being
angry the second you don't get your way.
To compromise well, you both have to be
able to calmly and rationally discuss a
situation while understanding the other
person's perspective. Try to understand
where your boyfriend is coming from
instead of blindly focusing on what you
think you need.
You don't want to be that girl who
always gets her way just because your
boyfriend would rather give in than
stand his ground because you get so
angry and upset whenever things
don't go your way.
5
Give each other space. You should
support your boyfriend, but you should
also be able to "be there" for him in spirit
when you're not actually around. If you
want to be a good girlfriend, then you
have to make time to do your own thing,
to hang out with your girlfriends, and to
see your boyfriend. He should know that
you're thinking of him and rooting for
him even if you're not around. If you feel
insecure and doubt the strength of your
relationship the second you're apart, then
you have a problem.
You should support your man if he just
wants to have a night out with his
boys instead of trying to hang out at a
"boys only" event. You don't want your
boyfriend to get a reputation for being
that guy who is so whipped that he
has to bring his girlfriend everywhere.
If you feel entitled to all of his time and
attention, learn how to not be an
obsessive girlfriend. Don't be an overly
protective girlfriend; let him go out
without him feeling watched.
Remember that he doesn't need you
for everything and that you are
separate people as well as a couple.
When he needs some space, don't take
it personally––recognize it for what it
is––his time to rejuvenate and to share
different interests with others. But do
make sure he knows that you're
always there for him.
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Method Three of Three:
Be Loving
1
Be affectionate. There are various ways
to show your affection; some are more
obvious than others and the way you
approach this will depend on how openly
affectionate you like to be personally.
Affection is close to but not the same as
intimacy––affection is about openly
displaying that you care about this person
and can be shown any time of day or
night, publicly or privately. Think about
how you like to show affection to people
you care about, such as holding hands,
touching an arm, quick kisses on the
cheek, a hug, stroking hair, supportive
words, mentioning how great someone is
in front of other people, etc.
Men sometimes like it when a girl gives
them a pet name like "Baby" or
"Sweetheart." Try not to overdo this,
however. It can be a major turn-off if
you call them "Mr. Cuddle-Bear",
especially in public. Of all things, good
communication is the vital part of any
relationship, so make sure that he
knows how much you like him.
Regular lovey-dovey texts and emails
can be a plus, but too many will
become overwhelming and you may
seem clingy. These types of things do
show you're into him, and you want it
to last forever, but don't come on so
much that you scare him!
2
Be seductive. Don't be afraid to be
seductive. Most men find it irresistible
when a girl is sexy, classy and confident.
Confidence means being happy within
your own skin; you will exude this
without trying if you are accepting of
yourself and feel secure about your own
worth. You don't have to force yourself to
be the most popular, bubbly personality if
that isn't your style; rather, be the best
you on show by taking good care of
yourself and trusting that you're worth his
attention.
3
Give him gifts. When you're in a
relationship, it's fun to give each other
small gifts. Guys love to get presents and
giving him one shows that he means a lot
to you. Don't overdo it -- just give him a
gift when you're feeling loving and want
to let him know how much he means to
you. You don't want him to think you're
trying to buy his affection.
Make him something. A paper flower,
an artsy heart, something creative that
reflects your personality, so that
whenever he looks at it, he'll think of
you and smile. If you're the musical
type, or play an instrument, feel free to
play him a song or two (bonus points
if you play a song you wrote yourself).
Add a private video of your song to
YouTube.
4
Don't get jealous. You should be loving,
but not to the point where you start
seeing red the second your boyfriend
talks to, or even just mentions, another
girl. Nothing will turn your boyfriend off
faster than a girlfriend who is so insecure
that she can't stand the thought of other
women existing in the universe. Your
boyfriend will appreciate you even more if
you're nice to his female friends instead of
talking about how ugly or annoying any
girl you see is.
If he's out with his friends, don't text
him every two seconds to make sure
he's not talking to other girls. This will
only make him see how little you trust
him.

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