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Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by charles316: 11:41pm On Sep 27, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: World war? You liken this to a war? Chai. Bad stories make better news than good stories. Instead of dwelling on the bad news,why don't you pray that yours will be a success? I pray you get what you want 1 Like |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by Nobody: 11:45pm On Sep 27, 2014 |
charles316: I am not likening it to world war. I am saying that for you to fantasize about less issues in many marriages now shows you can also fantasize during world war 3. in order words, you do not pay attention to your environment. |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by crackhaus: 11:54pm On Sep 27, 2014 |
Sophyrocks ...when you're not so sure about some things, it's unwise to make claims. Your statistics on bad marriages stem from blogs? Like seriously? Don't you know the number of fake stories that litter the blogosphere? Even on NL, you can tell there are a lot of those going around. You also mentioned law courts and divorces, girl please...I may not be sure of how many divorce cases YOU have witnessed to come to your conclusions but what I'm damnn well sure of is that there are at least 50m people in Nigeria who are either married or have been married. The stories (true ones) you read on blogs or the divorces being settled in law courts would probably only account for about 3% of the 50m married people, that's about 1.5m divorces in case you wanted to calculate it. Now how's that for statistics? 3 Likes |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by crackhaus: 12:07am On Sep 28, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:Let me help you here. Truth be told, all marriages have issues...It's either it has had issues or it will have issues. The bottom line is that all marriages will have issues more than once before they dissolve, or before one/both spouses die. But do all marriages with issues end up in disaster or divorce? Hell no! Only a few do, and no matter the number of divorce stories you read or hear, it still is just a small fraction compared to those marriages that survive the weather. 1 Like |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by Nobody: 12:25am On Sep 28, 2014 |
crackhaus: The fantasy is real. Why am i discussing with the men sef? Na dem dey enjoy the marriage pass. They are free to do whatever they want, cheat anyhow they want so im not surprised with the comments from them. Lemme converse wth women who are more open jare. EOD. |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by ice234: 12:29am On Sep 28, 2014 |
This is family section. Marriage comes creats a new family. Thanks Sophyrocks: Why are we so obsessed with marriage and yet marriages end up being disasters? |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by crackhaus: 12:34am On Sep 28, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:Lol...you have a problem 1 Like |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by Nobody: 12:47am On Sep 28, 2014 |
ice234: This is family section. Marriage comes creats a new family. That answer didnt do justice to my question. Thanks anyways. |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by AfricanApple(f): 12:55am On Sep 28, 2014 |
gede7744: 1 spiritualof all things, spiritual is d least infact, its hardly ever a cause @post, one of the reasons is for a girl to be dating a guy for a very long time hoping they would get married and gosh! something unbelievable happened and they just had to quit. meanwhile she had turned down so many proposals when she was in the 'relationship', now none of them will still come back trying to woo her u know, the law of diminishing return also applies to wooing. the older u get, the lesser the men comes calling 1 Like |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by nitrogen(m): 8:43am On Sep 28, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Why are we so obsessed with marriage and yet marriages end up being disasters?Brilliant! When I check homes of those ahead, I feel like crying, infact the homes that brought us and ensured our grooming till this level were/are on the brink of collapse...... So unfortunate that one of God's many gifts to us is not really working out well for many. God dey! |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by chikeorji123(m): 8:47am On Sep 28, 2014 |
gede7744: 1 spiritual My dear you have already said enough kindly remain Bless. |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by amanda2013(f): 10:19am On Sep 28, 2014 |
crackhaus: Sophyrocks ...when you're not so sure about some things, it's unwise to make claims. Your statistics on bad marriages stem from blogs? Like seriously?you are nt really informed. Am a family lawyer so i understand wia sophyrock is coming from. 4 Likes |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by crackhaus: 12:00pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
amanda2013: you are nt really informed. Am a family lawyer so i understand wia sophyrock is coming from.Miss informed family lawyer...on average, how many divorce cases does your firm handle yearly? I assume you're in Nigeria, yes? 3 Likes |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by wealthinfos(m): 12:03pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
amanda2013: you are nt really informed. Am a family lawyer so i understand wia sophyrock is coming from. Amanda dear frm ur experience in the courts do u consent to the view that there seem to be increasing cases of marriage divorce cases in recent times? |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by gede7744(f): 2:15pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
chikeorji123: amen o and u too |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by wealthinfos(m): 2:48pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
AfricanApple: of all things, spiritual is d least infact, its hardly ever a cause Hmmm tnx for ur submission. What's ur advise for long dating spouses? |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by Nobody: 3:12pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
crackhaus:how many go to court for divorce in Nigeria? You sure are not on Planet Nigeria.... I know of a few that did not go to court before the marriage ended. 2 Likes |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by Nobody: 3:15pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
One major reason in delay marriages is..... guys no get cash.... to execute the marriage plans.. a few will impregnate the girl and do the small introduction as im pocket reach. I know of girls that are complaining that guys are dragging their feet to move down the aisle and as a result, they have a serious guy and a many side guy#Fact. MARRIAGE..... THINK TWICE BEFORE YOU GET INTO IT. 2 Likes |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by wealthinfos(m): 3:49pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
artisticallyart: One major reason in delay marriages is..... guys no get cash.... to execute the marriage plans.. a few will impregnate the girl and do the small introduction as im pocket reach. On point bro, especially the issue of most parents exploiting their son inlaws to be of all his earning just to mary their daughter thereby placing the new couples in debt after marriage. |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by crackhaus: 4:31pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
artisticallyart: how many go to court for divorce in Nigeria? You sure are not on Planet Nigeria.... I know of a few that did not go to court before the marriage ended.You people should stop giving all these beer parlor claims and statistics, give me numbers. If not all go to court, then that's a smart answer because no matter how you spin it, the number of divorce proceedings that get to court does not account for up to 5% of all marriages. So now I ask...among those that don't get to court, and limiting the test data to married people in your neighbourhood, family, or among married friends, how many marriages exactly can you say have ended? You say you know of a few, please give us a number and when you do, compare the percentage of those to the number of people still in their marriages. Like I said before, limit your test data to your extended family, neighbourhood, and friends. You don't just come here to say lots of marriages end in divorce or disaster...according to what statistics? Damn, it's like I'm trying to make a point to walls on here. 2 Likes |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by crackhaus: 4:35pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
wealthinfos:Wrong question, of course there are more cases of divorce these days...welcome to the modern world. The question you should be asking is how many are there of these divorce cases in comparison to the number of marriages that are still surviving their ups and downs? |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by wealthinfos(m): 6:44pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
crackhaus: That there are still marriages working does not mean we should not discuse about the increasing divorce cases both those in courts and outside the courts, ok? Also to guide us here, I put up this post to really exray the factors contributing to marriage delays, and not marriage divorces and continuity of marriages. Pls let's thread carefully, no insults and abuses. Peace! Lets do more! |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by Nobody: 7:13pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
@ Op: Late marriage is not a problem. If marriage is all about having kids for your parents to carry here and there, then get a baby mama- wait the minute, that's exactly what guys do now these days because that's the impression they have about marriage. Real marriage has nothing to do with the fake and selfish relationships you see atound you. It goes beyond all that- it involves true friendship,trust,compatibility, maturity, companionship,true love,patience, endurance etc. If it takes forever to find that special one,so be it. 2 Likes |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by Nobody: 7:22pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
artisticallyart: One major reason in delay marriages is..... guys no get cash.... to execute the marriage plans.. a few will impregnate the girl and do the small introduction as im pocket reach.you are just too realistic for my liking. Thank you o jare. |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by mcdreeezy: 7:24pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
Abeg make una come continue the debate oh, I jux realise say comments don finish as I reach here. And emm, regarding high rate of divorce cases, the number must be on the high side quite frankly but within my neighborhood and family n friends circle, I don't know of any divorce cases. I think I'm with crackhaus on this one, I know divorce cases are on the rise, but then again, does anyone know the amount of marriages that are still waxing strong? Not really. Why? Bcuz they're not talked about like the way divorce cases are talked about. Abeg I been no wan comment b4 but no more comments to read again, so I say make I jux drop wetin dey my mind Meanwhile make una come continue the debate oh.... 1 Like |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by wealthinfos(m): 8:17pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: Abed make una come continue the debate oh, I jux realise say comments don finish as I reach here. At least u have aired ur view. Pls send me ur number or email to 07063249904 there's something I'd like discuse with u on one of ur other posts. Tnx |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by Nobody: 8:19pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
most marriages are hell for both couples. most are not even happy but do want want to take the divorce route due to what the society will say. so for those of you that think divorce rate is low because you dont seem to know people close to you who want to get a divorce, what you dont know is that a lot of women might even be praying for their spouse to die rather than getting a divorce. 1 Like |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by wealthinfos(m): 8:50pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
sexybaby22: most marriages are hell for both couples. most are not even happy but do want want to take the divorce route due to what the society will say. Hmm dis is serious revealation sexybabe. But why would someone pray for his or her spouse to die rather than divorce? @Crackhouse, did u hear this testimony? |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by mcdreeezy: 9:39pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
wealthinfos:You can send a pm, my email works well |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by wealthinfos(m): 9:56pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
mcdreeezy: You can send a pm, my email works well Wats ur email then? The PM is here in NL is funny. It just brought a template format email so I clicked sent. Do chek ur email or send it to me |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by mcdreeezy: 10:04pm On Sep 28, 2014 |
wealthinfos:I already replied the mail you sent me |
Re: What Causes Delay In Marriages? by Nobody: 8:18am On Sep 29, 2014 |
wealthinfos: last two weeks saturday or so, saturday punch did a feature on women who shoulder the responsibilities of their homes. these women are so unhappy, get beaten and cheated upon both with other women and financially by their husbands and they confided in the reporter that though they are fed up with the marriage, they dont want to quit because of what people will say. The society seems to be more sympathetic to widows than to divorced women. Religion is also a factor as most churches do not want members to divorce. |
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