Yes if you ask me though it is not until you have a very good home. I mean.... A very good one

korel9: I have often heard and fallen a victim of this circumstance where after one has been asked and congratulated on every aspect of his life, the question is popped
"Are You Married?"

If you say "No" they scream
"What are you waiting for again?"

This often gets to me and leaves me wondering
"Is marriage a measure of success in life?"

Yes. Go and marry!

Is Dangote successful?

yes
not in the western world we dont care
sad but true

Maybe for women it is but for me NO!..Being successful comprises of a lot which a person has achieved over a vast period of his life time. They are goals which has been set to be achieved and finally been achieved, although marriage should be one of those goals.

It is a measure of success if both couple can tolerate/love each other till death do they part not like the weddings of Ini Edo èt al

Success is all encompassing and each individual defines his/her own.

Bokoharam:

Yes. Go and marry!

I'll rather join you in the anticipation of 7 virgins.

korel9: I have often heard and fallen a victim of this circumstance where after one has been asked and congratulated on every aspect of his life, the question is popped
"Are You Married?"

If you say "No" they scream
"What are you waiting for again?"

This often gets to me and leaves me wondering
"Is marriage a measure of success in life?"

The question is clear "what are you waiting for again". If one has made enough success that can sustain a marriage, then d question is worth considering.

But d fact is people may just be congratulating you thinking u have made all the success u need not knowing that u still dey struggle for some reasons

Beside only people who are closer would know that u may have been in a relatnship before but jilted and u wanna take ur time in making the right choice

ITbomb: A picture of a young man coming out of his car with his smiling family to enter his house represent a responsible and successfully man

That doesn't make him responsible. They may smile today and frown tomorrow. That could be the first time they went out together in years

ITbomb: A picture of a young man coming out of his car with his smiling family to enter his house represent a responsible and successfully man

This is not true in all cases.

@Op, yes, as a black man in Nigeria specifically, marriage is seen as such. In our society, we honour and respect marriage till tomorrow, forget the high rate of divorces you see around, most of them are caused by interference of bad friends and family, living fake lives, no respect for your spouse, incompartibility, lack of money,infidelity,lack of love, lack of tolerance and understanding , lost of job and the woman cannot cope with the new lower lifestyle ...etc.You are accorded more respect after you are married. Your boss respects you more, your colleagues too, your church members, your family, and the society at large. As a matter of fact, in some settings, if you are not married, you cannot occupy certain position.Though in some organisation, it is not an issue.Marriage gives you this air of a responsible fellow. That is why people greet you and ask you, bros how is madam, how is Oga, how is jr, how is baby doing and so on. If you are not married, people will not be asking you all that. Or they will rather ask of your television or car.....lol. So you can see why many regards marriage as success.

I know a man that is smiling with the family, though the couples are graduate, the woman earns more.The man beat the wife, even warned the wife not be be talking to her male colleagues. It is that serious. They have suv, personal house in town, at a point the woman wanted a divorce when they had just their first son. Now they have 3, the woman later give birth to 2 daughters.

Sometime ago, a topic was on Nl that asks " Would you like to marry your spouse again, if given a second chance? I remember the woman saying for her, it is a no, no.

Not all that glitters is gold ooh. It is not by seeing a man smiling with his family , wearing fine clothes in a big jeep, living in a good house, you just conclude that their marriage is successful and they are a happy family.

The hustling of modern day lifestyle is not helping matters in marriage . Our grand parents had fewer riches, lesser money, fame, wealth, houses, cars, education, no six month marriage counselling before wedding, no society wedding where 5 cows were killed for their wedding, no jeeps were used to carry the couples to church, no paying 1 to 2 m naira for a hall for reception, no registry at Ikoyi, no tradition wedding that aso ebi costs 50 to 150k, no dubai, miami, france, ghana, cotonou, SA, paris, london honey moon, no wedding budget of 10m naira,.......the list is endless, yet they were more contended, more lasting marriages, more love, more peace , more tolerance and understanding in marriages, more children...... Then no CS to give birth, no prolonged childless marriages like now, no baby factories in eastern part, no spending millions to have baby...

no

esmeralda1: Yes I believe so.
Do you know pple can lose a contract cos he is single?
Being married to some extent mean one is more responsible.

On marriage making one responsible, I doubt it. It is one thing to be responsible, it is another thing to be responsive. Some people that are not married, though not responsible, are responsive to the needs of their siblings and parents; whereas some that are married and responsible, are not responsive to the needs of their children and wives. They prefer to spend on prostitutes.

esmeralda1: Yes I believe so.
Do you know pple can lose a contract cos he is single?
Being married to some extent mean one is more responsible.

story....explain more abeg aunty....deliverance first...wetin concern marriage

No! The Nigerian Society wants you to think so.
I dont buy into the BS of if u are not married, it means u are not responsible thats a retarded way of thinking. D reason why so many people are stuck in an unhappy union.
Success is when u achieve ur dreams and u live a happy, fufilled life. Married or Single.

korel9:

What if they're frowning?

this cracked me!!!

Sometimes when I see young chaps like 25 yrs getting married I just dey laff dem..cos that same guy that got married most of them still follow us dey drbabes for hotel n street..look if u know u don't wanna marry early make a descision...ok ave seen a man who did a big wedding if u see money spent on that wedding u go fear...today the woman don run...cos money no dey again....

ITbomb: A picture of a young man coming out of his car with his smiling family to enter his house represent a responsible and successfully man

To a person, it might.

Alubosa: Marriage is a holy institution within society. Through it we connect and inter-act with society and find meaning, position and purpose of our lives. Thus, the society uses it as a yardstick to measure how succesful a man is.

If one cannot find meaning, position or purpose to his life without getting into marriage, he needs his head checked.

esmeralda1: Yes I believe so.
Do you know pple can lose a contract cos he is single?
Being married to some extent mean one is more responsible.

In a person society, that might be the rules.

Marriage is a success only to those who view it so.

TV01: As a goal it is laudable - and if done well a worthwhile achievement and highly commendable.. It has great significance and meaning, and, and is deeply enriching to the couple their families, any offspring and wider society.

A good marriage is a success in it's own right and overall can only enhance and deepen success in other areas of life.

Surprisingly, this is actually the most sensible thing said so far.

mysticgal: A person could be said to be successfull not because he is married but how much he put in,to make the marriage succeed and also the work of his hands,that on his deathbed,he will smile and say"i die a fufilled man".I think in my perspective,this person is fufilled.
i like happy endings

Majority of married people die unfulfilled.

They just live a miserable, restricted life.

zeb04: It depends on your definition of success.

Marriage is only a success if it gives you happiness and peace of mind.

Well said, girl.

sorrry, nt just a wyf bt a gud 1

Yomieluv: Yes in our society.

They believe a married man is a responsible man,and a responsible man is likely to be successful.

Thank God by now we know our society is not a sane society and it is full of fcktards. The latter is a knowledge that my missionary work on NL can be highly credited with.

ifyalways: No, it's not.

Having a life, living it and loving life is the greatest success, IMO.

Well said, baby.

AfricanApple: though everyone has their opinion and thinks differently but to me it is normally no because you can be single, successful and happy. there are lots of people who are married, poor, childless, no peace in the house etc, how successful can u classify them to be

I can't see anywhere where he said you cannot be single, successful and happy.

Nor did he say marriage was a superior model.

He just stated how marriage might be a good thing if done right.

Absolutely Yes! . . .and that's if you've got a happy home.
It's a great measure of success.

ireneidiva: So you are asking if a being married makes you successful in life? Is a married man living in a one bedroom flat with 6 children is successful in life So you mean if you live to be 60 years and in that 60 years all you have to show is marriage, you are automatically successful?

To fcktards, "YES, he is successful. He is married".

The wonders seen in the minds of gullible, simpleton followers with limited reasoning abilities.

Sunnycliff: As far as am concerned, it is o! Marriage failure is as good as life failure! What's success without a home, a happy family and happy home with ones spouse!!

Simpleton.

FreeWill01: Those who use marriage as a yardstick for success, really haven't tasted real success in life.

Fcking well said.

They are not intellectually equipped to.

They are mugus that have been coached in a certain way just like you coach a monkey to perform in a circus.