Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,194,412 members, 7,954,644 topics. Date: Saturday, 21 September 2024 at 04:22 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children (7982 Views)
Uk-based Wife Disrupts Wedding Between Her Husband & New Wife - pics / How My Stepsister And Her Husband Tricked Me And Took Egg From My Ovaries / Guys, Can You Get Married To A Lady From A Broken Home?(separated Or Divorced). (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (Reply) (Go Down)
Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by elampiro(m): 9:07pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
Breaking the Silence: Redefining Marriage Hurts Women Like Me - and Our Children by Janna Darnelle within Marriage September 22nd, 2014 Every time a new state redefines marriage, the news is full of happy stories of gay and lesbian couples and their new families. But behind those big smiles and sunny photographs are other, more painful stories. These are left to secret, dark places. They are suppressed, and those who would tell them are silenced in the name of “marriage equality.” But I refuse to be silent. I represent one of those real life stories that are kept in the shadows. I have personally felt the pain and devastation wrought by the propaganda that destroys natural families. The Divorce In the fall of 2007, my husband of almost ten years told me that he was gay and that he wanted a divorce. In an instant, the world that I had known and loved—the life we had built together—was shattered. I tried to convince him to stay, to stick it out and fight to save our marriage. But my voice, my desires, my needs—and those of our two young children—no longer mattered to him. We had become disposable, because he had embraced one tiny word that had become his entire identity. Being gay trumped commitment, vows, responsibility, faith, fatherhood, marriage, friendships, and community. All of this was thrown away for the sake of his new identity. Try as I might to save our marriage, there was no stopping my husband. Our divorce was not settled in mediation or with lawyers. No, it went all the way to trial. My husband wanted primary custody of our children. His entire case can be summed up in one sentence: “I am gay, and I deserve my rights.” It worked: the judge gave him practically everything he wanted. At one point, he even told my husband, “If you had asked for more, I would have given it to you.” I truly believe that judge was legislating from the bench, disregarding the facts of our particular case and simply using us—using our children— to help influence future cases. In our society, LGBT citizens are seen as marginalized victims who must be protected at all costs, even if it means stripping rights from others. By ignoring the injustice committed against me and my children, the judge seemed to think that he was correcting a larger injustice. My husband had left us for his gay lover. They make more money than I do. There are two of them and only one of me. Even so, the judge believed that they were the victims. No matter what I said or did, I didn’t have a chance of saving our children from being bounced around like so many pieces of luggage. Full story here: http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2014/09/13692/ |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by lomaxx: 9:11pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
With all the curves and poosies in the world, what beats me is why a man would give up his anus to another man to phuck!! It beats me. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by DickDastardly(m): 9:15pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
The world keeps getting sicker |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Eneze1(f): 9:24pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
Gays and lesbians are curse to the human existence 2 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by paul288yahoo(m): 9:28pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
pray |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Nobody: 9:34pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
1.) he pretended to be in love with this woman when he was actually attracted to other men. 2.) he was deceiving her for the number of years that they were married that he was something he actually isn't 3.) he obviously was having extra-marital affairs 4.) he caused the breakdown of the marriage And for something reason this assh*le of a judge thinks it would be in the best interests of the children to give such a deceitful person sole custody of the children. She better appeal to this rubbish. 5 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by JEITO: 9:35pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
Gross!!! One of The worst thing you can do to a child, is allow him to be adopted by gay couples. 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by cococandy(f): 9:47pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
She was actually the wronged party here. That judge is closet gay for him to make such a biased judgement. He was cheating on his wife that should count for something. Anyway this story seems 'doctored' |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by soulglo: 9:58pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
cococandy: She was actually the wronged party here. She had to have done something to not get primary custody. I don't believe her 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by freecocoa(f): 10:03pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
There's no way this story is entirely true. 4 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by nwaobitex: 10:07pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
eiya |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by cococandy(f): 10:10pm On Sep 29, 2014 |
soulglo:Yep. Most def. You're the mom(primary care giver) Hubby cheats on you, Hides his sexualityy from you(deception), And finally divorces you when you should be the one divorcing him And then the court gives him the kids because? 2 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Babygal4eva(f): 6:01pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
soulglo: What ever she did as long as it wasn't murder doesn't justify the judges decision , the mother almost always gets primary custody except in extreme cases so this is just pure bias. I hope she appeals this decision. |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by soulglo: 7:52pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
Babygal4eva: Really? As long as it's not murder? Thank God that there's a justice system that has a higher expectiond of parents |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Nobody: 7:53pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
freecocoa: There's no way this story is entirely true. This is what I also think. |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Feraz(m): 11:54pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
For some reason, I find this story funny!! I guess more of this kinda story is to be heard now that the world has accepted ish like this. . . |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Nobody: 1:27am On Oct 01, 2014 |
The heart of man is full of wickedness.. 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by DukeNija(m): 3:20am On Oct 01, 2014 |
cococandy: because the judge is Gay, or there's something we've not been told. |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Nobody: 7:05am On Oct 01, 2014 |
5 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Nobody: 7:23am On Oct 01, 2014 |
2 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by cococandy(f): 7:33am On Oct 01, 2014 |
I won't do much except ask you were you ever saw my post saying fathers are primary care givers. The way some of you wax mischievous all over the place can discourage anyone from wanting to interact meaningfully with you. Asking fathers to become more involved with their kids now means mothers are no longer primary care givers? Or saying a man who demands financial help from his wife should also try and contribute his quota in the home keeping front now makes him the primary care giver. It's really a stressful endeavor trying to talk sense with folks who DELIBERATELY want to misunderstand you. I hope you enjoying amusing yourself. Nonso23: |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Nobody: 8:08am On Oct 01, 2014 |
5 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by phadat(m): 8:16am On Oct 01, 2014 |
disgusting what is it with some men being gay , I can't quite wrap my head around it |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Nobody: 10:22am On Oct 01, 2014 |
Nonso23: http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2014/09/13692/ My ex-husband and his partner went on to marry. Their first ceremony took place before our state redefined marriage. After it created same-sex marriage, they chose to have a repeat performance. In both cases, my children were [size=14pt] forced—against my will and theirs [/size] to participate. USA Today did a photo journal shoot on my ex and his partner, my children, and even the grandparents. I was not notified that this was taking place, nor was I given a voice to object to our children being used as props to promote same-sex marriage in the media. My children are brought to gay parties where they are the only children and where only alcoholic beverages are served. They are taken to transgender baseball games, gay rights fundraisers, and LGBT film festivals. My daughter suffers too. She needs a dad who will encourage her to embrace her femininity and beauty, but these qualities are parodied and distorted in her father's world. Her dad wears make-up and sex bondage straps for Halloween. She is often exposed to men dressing as women. [size=14pt] The walls in his condo are adorned with large framed pictures of women in provocative positions. [/size] What is my little girl to believe about her own femininity and beauty? Her father should be protecting her sexuality. Instead, he is warping it. [size=14pt] My son is now a maturing teen [/size] ,and he is very interested in girls. But how will he learn how to deal with that interest when he is surrounded by men who seek _sexual gratification from other men? I guess the appropriate thing to do is to say screw the children rights and the mother's parental rights, so long we take revenge for every man that has lost custody to their children in a peaceful/messy divorce. This men violated these children's rights by forcing them to participate in something they had a right to choose to or not to attend. He forced them to attend a ceremony THEY DIDN'T WANT TO BE PART OF, all in a bid to get publicity. He went on to use them as his guinea pigs to get publicity, again the best interests of the children was violated. He builds a 10yrs marriage on deception and obviously has extra-marital affairs during his marriage and for some reason such a person is deemed fit to have sole custody of his children who are not for his union in the first place. No man or woman who is fit and proper to have sole custody of his/her would take underage children to bars or force them to go to gay film festivals. You cannot force or impose your sexual orientation on your children, its their choice to make whether they want to be part of _homosexuals society or not. Lets say screw these children's right to freedom of choice and association so long we use them to get revenge on every woman out there that got sole custody of her children, thats all that matters. Whether actions of parentals are psychologically detrimental to the children or not, its not their decision to make, so long the gay father gets what he wants. Your judgement based on sentiments is far much more important than the protection of the best interests of the child 3 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by cococandy(f): 4:01pm On Oct 01, 2014 |
Nonso23: |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by cococandy(f): 4:06pm On Oct 01, 2014 |
Mondisweets: |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by SAMBARRY: 4:28pm On Oct 01, 2014 |
I didn't bother to read the long piece of nonsense because I don't want to be nauseated however to cut the long story short he divorced his wife because the woman didn't want to get down with aenal sec so the other man was ready to give him hid anus.full stop.next 2 Likes |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by GSKing: 4:50pm On Oct 01, 2014 |
This is what happens when people are forced to stay straight because society says, agrees and expects you to be heterosexual. A lot more down low people exist. That man had two options, a chance to breathe in fresh air, or die in the suffocating farce of a conventional marriage he found himself. Yes to Marriage Rights!!! No to nairaland quoting bigotry. 1 Like |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by pickabeau1: 6:41pm On Oct 01, 2014 |
Cococandy What do you have to say to GSKing point The man was being forced by society to conform hence d deception Can't u see he was d victim |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by cococandy(f): 6:53pm On Oct 01, 2014 |
Lame excuse. One could as well ask why he married. He would have just kept having strings of girlfriends to conceal it. Which society? Their pro gay society forced him to conform? pickabeau1: Cococandy |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by pickabeau1: 6:56pm On Oct 01, 2014 |
cococandy: Lame excuse. The anti gay society Before it was decriminalized....did u not read d post before mine Seems u r on attack mode |
Re: Her Husband Divorced Her For His Gay Lover - Then Took Their Children by Nobody: 6:57pm On Oct 01, 2014 |
1 Like |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (Reply)
Solar Television For Family / This Soul Suffers Silently / Ladies, Can you marry a guy who Is Less Educated or earns less Than You
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 65 |