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Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by socrateez(m): 3:13pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
The success or failure of marriage depends on the mindset with which it is approached. If you expect problems and provide an open door for separation or divorce, that's how your marriage would be; but if you expect to live harmoniously with your spouse, that's what it will also turn out to be. So, it depends on the foundation you lay. Some of the ways you can predict how a marriage would be include 1. How you met your spouse; is it in a party? Mr Biggs? 2. What are his/her views on marriage? For instance, I will never allow my daughter marry any young man who believes in divorce. If you look around, you'll see that issues that make some marriages crumble are small compared with what other marriages are facing yet, the stay together and resolve them. 3. What are his/her religious beliefs? Don't marry anyone whose religious conviction is poles apart from yours. 4. What are his/her values? Do you have the same values? Do you attache the same level of importance to the same thing? 5. Does he/she have direction or purpose in life? I see many young people today who are loafers, without any sense of direction in life. Today they want to be a musician, tomorrow they are into something else. If you ask "where do you see yourself in 2024" and the response is a jumble mumble, you know he/she is a wanderer in life. If you jump into the same boat with a person who is drifting through life, you will find yourself where you don't expect. I must add that God never designed marriage to be a prison, its the society that labelled it so. Marriage is a wonderful experience of life in which you find joy and fulfillment. We hear so much of failed marriages because the society does not celebrate successful ones. 4 Likes |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 3:15pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
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Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by josite: 3:16pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
layi: I am married and i can tell you the only real issue is finance. You MUST get $$$ . money is stronger than 'human' luv finance is overated .what about u and ur famiuly accpeting d fact dat for now finance is lean,les do minimalist existence.the happiest couple are the ones with d least of needs.didnt u hear DADDY GO said since no meat for dinner,he psyched his kids into accepting okro meat. 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Kasieze(m): 3:17pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Man: Baby, I love you, would you please marry me? Woman: (stands up and lands a stinging slap on his face) I have waited more than 9yrs, I have prayed, fasted, sowed seeds, bought books and listened to tapes, even went out of my way to be nice to every male specie of marriageable age! I took up new hobbies, watching football and play station. I went to Daystar. From Daystar, I went to House on the Rock, from House on the rock I went to Guiding Light Assembly, Phronesis Christian Centre Int’l, MFM, Christ Embassy, Redeemed, From there I went to This Present Winners looking every where for you. I went from a size 14 to a size 10, so that when you see me you’d love what you see. I left Lagos, went to Abuja, from Abuja I went to Port- Harcourt, then I went all the way to Kano I joined hi-five, from hi-five to faceboook, then I went to twitter, I even had a blog on which I ranted, hoping yōϋ would show up! for where? I uploaded only my best pictures on Facebook, in fact I took photo sessions to look my best, all for you o! I attended all the weddings, whether the invitation was direct or indirect! The next place I was hoping to check was the moon, before you crawled out, crawled out from the house directly next to mine!............................http://www..com/m/view_joke.php?id=126 continue 2 Likes |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by josite: 3:24pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
socrateez: The success or failure of marriage depends on the mindset with which it is approached. If you expect problems and provide an open door for separation or divorce, that's how your marriage would be; but if you expect to live harmoniously with your spouse, that's what it will also turn out to be. So, it depends on the foundation you lay. so funny,when even jonathan with billions of naira doesnt know where he sees himself in 2015.u are asking a young man desiring your girl for a wif where he ss himself in 2024.you will soon learn.just pray not the hard way.the future belogns to GOD we can only work and pray ,paul seedeth,appolo water,it is GOD THAT GIVES THE INCREASE.U think jonathan saw himself as president ten years ago. |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by idu1(m): 3:25pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
QMark:how do i fit marry my frd...... Kindly trow lite small for dis line sir? Tenks |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by timilehing(m): 3:27pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
She needs to read this!! |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by idu1(m): 3:35pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
FunnyPikincom: Why should You be scared of getting married in the first place? If your papa and mama were scared, do u think you will be alive to type this Jamb Question?barakalahufihi 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 3:36pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
They should remain single forever ......yeye thread 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by kmoneyman: 3:39pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
amaprincess: One thing i like about this section is, there are so many matured minds here.The only thing I can say to u is; "If u are a perfect man or woman then don't get married".But if you have ur own faults as a human being,then you should be able to deal with another persons little faults. I Have been married for six years now and I tell u I love my wife and kid so much despite her faults. And u know what? She even loves me more despite my several faults too. So he without sin should cast the first stone 3 Likes |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 3:42pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
I'm definitely scared of marriage. It's hard to find people who're faithful and loyal out there. I've to find someone who's going to give me the same respect, otherwise I'mma stay single. I cannot stand cheaters. I've a friend whose husband (well, now, soon to be ex-husband; they're getting divorced) told her last year that he had slept with prostitutes. They're Chinese. They've only been married for 4 years. To make matters worse, he wants to go back to China to pursue a music career ( "his dream" ) and because he's a PR she's not sure if she can get child support from him. They have two 2-year old twin girls and she just gave birth to a baby boy in June, but had to sell their home and move in with her parents so they can help take care of her and the kids while she gets herself back together. She has a Lawyer now, so we'll see how it goes. She has warned me, "When it comes to marriage, please be careful with choosing a man" and gave me a bunch of advice. Anyway, seeing what she's going through now and my own experiences, I know just how important it is when finding a suitable life partner. If I don't find the right person for me, I'm ready to be single until Jesus returns. 2 Likes |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by shamsuRana(m): 3:44pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Marriage is a contract where a manlooses his "Bachelors Degree"anda woman gets her"Masters" He said:"I'm married for fifteenyears andwe neverhad an argument"Shaykh says: "I guess you are not staying with your wife I'm sure. Because even the best man had misunderstanding with his wives. Boy:"Dad, what's the difference between mum's tears & wife's tears?"Dad: "Mum's tears hurt the heart & wife's tears hurt the pocket Why do couples shake hands on their wedding day? It is a norm and formality with all boxers, they shake hands before the fight begins A man entered his room and saw his wife looking at their marriage certificate and he said, "are u cherishing old memories?" The wife said' "no, I'm looking for the expiry date" A boy asked his father, "Abba, what is the price of marriage?"The father said, "Son, Idon't know because I'm still paying. A man asked his doctor, "what is the medicine fora longlife?" The doctor said, "get married"d man said, "does it work?" The doctor said, "I don't know but it will remove the desire forlong life from u". Gentlemen and ladies,The secret toa happy marriage is not in wedding the perfect partner but rather in loving the imperfect partner"Perfectly Well" 2 Likes |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by kmoneyman: 3:52pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Yields: I'm definitely scared of marriage. It's hard to find people who're faithful and loyal out there. I've to find someone who's going to give me the same respect, otherwise I'mma stay single. I cannot stand cheaters. I've a friend whose husband (well, now, soon to be ex-husband; they're getting divorced) told her last year that he had slept with prostitutes. They're Chinese. They've only been married for 4 years. To make matters worse, he wants to go back to China to pursue a music career ( "his dream" ) and because he's a PR she's not sure if she can get child support from him. They have two 2-year old twin girls and she just gave birth to a baby boy in June, but had to sell their home and move in with her parents so they can help take care of her and the kids while she gets herself back together. She has a Lawyer now, so we'll see how it goes. She has warned me, "When it comes to marriage, please be careful with choosing a man" and gave me a bunch of advice. Anyway, seeing what she's going through now and my own experiences, I know just how important it is when finding a suitable life partner. If I don't find the right person for me, I'm ready to be single until Jesus returns.Wow! Sad story But why can't u relate with stories of those ones who have had a successful marriage? Why do people readily identify with failed marriages 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Rapture4real(m): 3:52pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
There are stories of marriage you will hear, you will run when you hear marriage.I'm married 9yrs now.But I would do certain things diffeferently If I had another chance.thespirit that made Eve finished Adam is still following some when, Don't let your partner still all your heart in the name of love,let God occupy it.so that if he/she breaks it, it won't hurt you too much.Heartbreak is not only infidelity. If you give your heart to your partner who takes you for granted, it will pain you. The goal of some women is just to marry,no ambition.This will affect d man.don't marry for beauty.In will not choose a beautiful woman if I had another chance.Satan uses everything that is good.don't marry for sex,it gets to a time,it makes no meaning again.don't marry for riches,it can disappear and a poor man today can be very rich tomorrow.marry for character and seek God's face.who you marry will determine the fulfillmentnofnyo destiny.let know woman tie youndownnwith sex and emotion.don't marry out of sympathy.I can talk for hours out of experience.God bless you.see u in heaven 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by UyiIredia(m): 3:59pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
@ Yields: You need help. Perfection resides in heaven. GO and multiply. |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 4:10pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
UyiIredia: @ Yields: You need help. Perfection resides in heaven. GO and multiply.Nowhere did I mention looking for the perfect person, just the right person for me. I believe that is simple enough to grasp. bennygreat1: If and ONLY if you find the right Woman OR Man... Then get Married,don't be scared..+1. 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by GoodFaith: 4:13pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
MARRIAGE IS A GREAT INSTITUTION THAT COME WITH LOT OF CHALLENGES: MONEY CHEATING PRIORITY TIME TOGETHER WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO U DO U SHARE THE SAME MORALS VALUES? RESPECT, CONSIDERATE, GIVE AND TAKE LYING, SECRETIVE AND MANPULATION ARE YOU GOING TO COMPARE UR MARRIAGE WITH UR FRIENDS? THERE IS NO ONE SIZE FIT ALL NOBODY IS PREFECT WHAT ARE U WILL TO ACCEPT REGARDING HIS IMPERFECTNESS "If I Were a Boy-Beyonce ft R.Kelly lyrics " WHAT WILL YOU ACCEPT AND WHAT WILL U NOT ACCEPT? “marry for character and seek God's face.”--- Rapture4Real 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by libertyfather(m): 4:16pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Let me discuss it with my wife, I will come back to comment on what she ask me to say.....and if I dint comment back definetely she ban me from nairaland again, though that's just for one month 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by DorisK(f): 4:16pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
It's not always their faults. Sometimes life nd past rships can change ur mindset |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Talkloaded: 4:17pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Bryan12: I don't know but I think mod needs to do something about this guy. U dey Madt abi? |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 4:25pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Just go ahead and do the marriage thing.Don't be afraid of life negativity-something will definitely kill a man. |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by teeghurl(f): 4:42pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
The word MARRIAGE scares shit out of me,especially wv d way pple behave ds days. It's jst outrageous n sometimes I cnt help bt ask myself, y get married in d 1st place? 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 4:45pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
MadCow1: [b]Advice for those too chicken to get married..The most sensible comment on this thread...just surprised that it's coming from madcow. 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by tommiebuck(f): 4:45pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
QMark: |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by meetchals: 5:08pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Anyone afraid to get married should remain single. |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Mclick(m): 5:17pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Fear of absolute possession by ladies and as I learnt too fear of been driven to penury plus some ladies are looking for burden bearer as husband, which is so true. some ladies ones they marry, their husband becomes their source of income aka ATM like I was chatting with a friend in the money. Where are the help mate. Just last week or so a post here also xtray that............. Ifekemmy where at thou 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 5:24pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
UchihaMadara: I am scared of 2 things:LOOOOOOL!!!!! |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by JEITO: 5:34pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
The most important thing about marriage, is to have a reason for wanting to get married. This is what will help you look beyond all physical limitations when seeking a partner. There are people who marry for the wrong reasons, eg: looks, wealth or fame. Such union won't last. Even if they do, you won't enjoy it because you may have all the material benefits, but lack satisfaction. NB: material possessions cannot guarantee satisfaction in life. When you have a good reason for marriage, you won't feel tied or bound, you will look beyond the mistakes of your partner(there should be nothing like unforgiveable sin in marriage) If you are scared of getting married, it isn't a bad thing to be scared. But it is bad to cave in because of your fears. You don't run away from challenges; you tackle it head on because in marriage you'll meet more challenges. Nevertheless, I will advise you work on your self emotionally, spiritually, mentally etc before going into marriage. IT IS WORTH WAITING FOR and shouldn't be rushed into cos others are going into it. Also, you don't choose partner randomly or mainly by what he present physically. Get to know him more. Dating or courting, is not the period where you storm all the clubs, post selfie of your boo on social media, satisfy your sexual urges, or all them aimless activities. It is the period where you get to know each other better, Ask questions, test your strengths and weaknesses, help each other grow, find out how compatible the both of you are. Get to know his family etc. This will help you infer if you are both suitable. NB: not all good eligible bachelor is suitable for you. But all in all, marriage is sweet and worth entering. 2 Likes |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by millionboi(m): 5:44pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Fear Not 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by dammytosh: 5:48pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Advice is that Do not marry a f00l. 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by DaJulee(f): 5:55pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Good 1 Like |
Re: Any Word Of Advice To Those Scared Of Getting Married? by Nobody: 6:08pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
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