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Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Henrypraise: 11:24am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: i knw more abt women dan u, d op said he does his best to please his wife n she still frustrates him, he shud stop pleasing he n pleas himsef. i dont knw wat i av said wrong now. my best relationships were d once i pleased mysefs. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 11:36am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Henrypraise: This is the problem with some people. people going into marriage with the wrongest mindsets. Always believing they know so much thinking all women are the same and thinking relationship is the same as marriage, even deceiving themselves that some women remain the same in marriage. You claim to be happy in your selfish relationships without knowing the thoughts or how the other partner feels about it. The ladies may be letting you have your way now but after marriage, you will hear another story. and that is how you want it to continue in marriage? I pity you. If everybody is interested in only pleasing themselves then divorce will continue to increase. No wonder there are many issues in marriages. Then when women complain about this, you will say they nag too much. You will come back here with your story. I doubt you even know what 'Marriage' means. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by OpalBee(f): 11:40am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Some really unreasonable comments/advices here. If you see or treat your wife as someone you did a favor by marrying her, how do you expect the marriage to work. To the op and all other men in "similar situations", check yourself...maybe, just maybe it is you that's the problem. It's normal for we women to whine and complain. You really should be worried if your wife doesn't cos maybe she's getting her happiness outside of her marital Home and you wouldn't want that. And please, if you are not married, you have no business dishing out advice IMO. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Henrypraise: 11:57am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Stop decievin ursef, all women ar same dia is no difference. N if I always please mysef in my relationship, I don't see any reason y I shud complain, any lady dat can't cope shud find her level, I plan to giv birth to only one child n I have a reason (to please mysef) once I get dat den every oda tin falls into place. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 12:00pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Henrypraise: Dnt worry. you will soon see something when you get married. Carry on. nothing do you. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 12:13pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Op, something is wrong with your wife. She has a very horrible attitude. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 12:15pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sincerely speaking, Marriage is not a poverty alleviation programme. Why must i expect my husband to spend money on my family? Where is it written that it is a must for a huband to be financially responsible over his wife's family? What sort of silly culture is that? you see why it isnt everything our mothers do that we must do? I dnt get why that is compulsory. If my husband, out of his own free will, wants to help them out, No problem. But it is sooooo wrong to compel one's husband to do that. Very wrong!! What am i a graduate for? why am i working? No wonder some men have absolutely No respect for women. Tufiakwa!! Pushing so much financial load on a man is so unfair. Nigerian women need to change this mentality seriously. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by sexybash(f): 12:24pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
What people don't know is that majority of. People are good at pretending When them show you attitude you go bow Make we just pray make God no put us for a scenario that we can't control 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Sweetlemon(f): 12:37pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Bootybuttchic: Correct babe! Don't mind all these family section NLers. I have seen through most of them and I'm no longer impressed with their "mature" posts. mtcheeeeeeeeew. 5 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by CzarChris(m): 12:39pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
This is that ishi right here, and people have the guts to call me a career bachelor. Well, I can't take this ishii, even my girl knows that. Thank God divorce is now an option. Whenever I actually get married and my wife suddenly grows balls, I'm kicking her out-a-my-house. Thank God I'm getting a pre-nup. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 12:46pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
When i tell my mother and aunts say me i no one marry,they take it as a taboo. Omo,me i no just get strength for women/marriage o.They believe everything about the marriage should be about them them them!Me i no get that kind strength to dey give woman unnecessary attention o.Those people can give you unnecessary headache. With women,small problems are always big problems 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by phlemzy: 1:04pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
It's great reading through most of the posts in this thread. Kudos to those great minds with likable suggestions, appreciation to those that even registered in other to drop their opinions/experience and to those whose suggestions aren't matrinony-friendly, it was nice having u too on board. I really think marriage issues of this nature are better solved by seeking minimal external opinion/advice, and the final decision be left in the hand of the disturbed spouse, as too many advices might get things more complicated. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by vivaciousvivi(f): 1:54pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
DukeNija: If only all men can think like you. Such a matured response. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 2:10pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
thorpido: Thats what am saying. But why such thing is happening? Its not like u dragged him to the church- both wanted same, innit? |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Henrypraise: 2:15pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Wit or wit out ur endorsement to carry on, I will carry on, If I may ask, wat ar dos tins m yet to see? All dat matas is pleasin mysef 4 instance: I will buy a car 4 my wife not cos I want to but cos I don't want her to share mine wit me, just as I will get a tv 4 my kids in dia room not cos I like to but cos I don't want dem to disturb me wen m watchin wat I want, hope u get me? All u do just ensure u please ursef n stop pleasing sumbody, a smart person will take ir further by lettin u tink he is doin u dos favour cos of u, but d truth is dat he is doin dos favours cos of himsef. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by austinike(m): 2:25pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
pls kindly check if u r giving her a good sex the way she want it. itz one of d reasons women misbehave n tlk to her |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 2:25pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Henrypraise: You are going to see that Selfish people NEVER have a happy marriage. Its always one problem after another. Selfish people are better of as singles for life so that they can satisfy themselves to the fullest. Just like the Op's wife, that woman is very selfish and she is causing pain for her husband. Same as you, when you continue to be all about satisfying yourself alone, you will cause pain to your partner and your children. Your partner will even follow suit and start satisfying herself alone too then the marriage becomes unbearable. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Henrypraise: 3:09pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: I like dis ur write up, very matured n precise, but d fact still remain its beta dat d op pleases himsef n stop pleasin his wife cos its only gonna make her get more selfish n irritated towards him. I am not a selfish person, m very kind. U av not encountered sumone as kind as me |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by kelzmaniga: 3:21pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
mk3jax:bros your wife is just reacting to just the way you treat her. check your self properly if you are doing the right thing /treating her well........ buy another TV women don't like and cant stand watching video game |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by JUBILEE2000: 3:22pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
DukeNija: Bros, u wont understand till u get married.....only married people can appreciate where he is coming from(not taking sides though) |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 3:25pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Henrypraise: You are not selfish? but you said you are concerned about satisfying yourself alone. Is that not a statement of a selfish person? hmm. Na you sabi o. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by JUBILEE2000: 3:31pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
webdezzi: See advice!!!!! o boy u wicked..oooo |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Henrypraise: 3:34pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks: Just check d meanin of selfish on d web n was surprise dats a definition of my person, yes m selfish n its gud, its bin doin well 4 me n my relationships. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Becalm(m): 3:36pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
@Sophyrocks I suspect you are either born again married now to a wonderful husband. I fell in love with all your contributions on this topic, superb and unbiased. Before now, you never believe women can do wrong, the man must always be at fault. Thank God for the transformation, I for dash you 100K but I dey broke at the moment. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Becalm(m): 3:37pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
@Sophyrocks I suspect you are either born again OR married now to a wonderful husband. I fell in love with all your contributions on this topic, superb and unbiased. Before now, you never believe women can do wrong, the man must always be at fault. Thank God for the transformation, I for dash you 100K but I dey broke at the moment. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by thorpido(m): 3:40pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
voodoo85:People change.Some actually live in deception and some are not able to deal with the reality of a marital life. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 3:48pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Becalm: What tha? Who told you that i have always believed women do no wrong? If someone does wrong it is good to say it as it is, male or female. I have many times stated the wrong some women do. My comments depend on the topic of the thread so there is no transformation whatsoever and you are sooooo wrong because i am not married I do not make comments to please anyone and every other person is responsible for whatever he/she interpretes from my comments. Sophyrocks will always remain Sophyrocks. #Uncolonised# |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Jackpott(m): 4:05pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
That's why I won't get married... I want to be in peace. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Dcmg(m): 4:16pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:ok,if satisfying my self alone is about helping the less priviledge and despising marriage,is that selfishness? If i love helping alot of people in cash or in kind which is satisfying to me, and yet i despise marriage,is that selfishness? Tell me Something! 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 4:29pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
Dcmg: I think you should answer those questions yourself. You already know the answers. Marriage isnt compulsory. I never said so. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Becalm(m): 4:34pm On Oct 20, 2014 |
@DCMG You can not be in marriage and satisfy yourself alone. Marriage is two people coming together to become one. By being one, they share almost everything joy, sadness, grow together etc. But because it is not a perfect system, crises can arise like in the case of the poster. There is no smoke without fire, there is certainly a trigger to the wife's behaviour. As meaningless or serious the trigger may be, if it can be found out, the solution to the problem is not far-fetched. But if the individual in question is being impossible as in OP's case, you can ignore her completely (withdraw attention etc) for a while as a temporary solution only. For your own good, leave Sophyrocks alone cos if she prepares for you? ........................ |
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