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Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by cherryice(f): 9:27pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Tashamania: Honestly 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by YourCoffin: 9:31pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
OP, if I'm the one in your shoes I would have divorced her since. You're the only one who can determine your happiness. Your kid will have no father if you suddenly die of depression. And never seek this kind of advice from women. If you do, you will only come out worse than you were. They will not and can never empathize with you because they don't know how to do that. It's only the wife they're seeing and therefore, everything they say will be centered around her, not you. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by DSuperWoman(f): 9:36pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
slinkky:my dear I sound weird to me too and I really pray I'm wrong. My dear my farfetched opinion was formulated from other peoples experiences I've seen. Thrice for that matter. Ladies who had slept with their fathers always compared their husbands to them no matter what they did. Being unhappy and unsatisfied with your husband is one thing but comparing him to your dad makes me remember the other ladies I know with this problem. But it might not be the case sha |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by MrsAnyanwu(f): 9:38pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Sunshinelady:hmmm well said my dear sister,God bles u 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by bonesofdavid: 9:52pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
liyuboy: Bros I am goin thru the same thing I met my wife in 1993 and we officially married in 2005 I wish I nver met her,she is such a bully may be cos she earns more than me 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 9:54pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
[quote author=Dipville post=27283476] You must b very small agewise Modern marriage....wtf is that! Can't complain my wyf nt cukin4me If u not so young like I expect,trust me...something is wrong som wia....[/quot If you want to know, I am over 50 years with more than ten years experience as a husband and father. And I have a fantastic marriage; we've never called anybody to resolve anything for us. There are no secrets in our marriage and no side dish. By Nigerian standard, I'm doing well. I cook the meals if I come back first or if my wife is occupied or tired. We are all happy as a family because there's mutual respect. Nobody is made to feel inferior or like a maid. I don't want society and men like you to define marriage for me. It is a union and not an association. Thank you. 11 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by marianazme(f): 9:59pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
coogar:and some peoples liked this ****? jeez. I can bet this guy isn't married. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 10:05pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
@op. are we there when you first fall in love with her? NO, are we there when you married her? NO, are we there when this problem started? NO. and so therefore we are not going to be there when you divorce or solve your problem. all i am trying to say is that try to seek GOD not nairaland for advice. we NL might lead you to make the worse mistake in your life time. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by vitality22(m): 10:14pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Stories about marriage these days is so scary that one gets afraid of marrying. Na waoooooo 4 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by slinkky(m): 10:17pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
DSuperWoman:Hmmmmm you have a valid reason for your assumptions. I hope for the OP sake your assumptions for his troubled marriage is wrong. But like you said earlier they need God's intervention no matter what the cause of their marital problems may be. By the way stories like the op's make me scared of marriage. God help us all. Op i pray you and your wife find peace and love in your home. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by soledadd: 10:20pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
@ scyllapatron i just checked you out. You are just a joker at your age. Anyway wisdom does not have anything to do with age, i pardon you. What is even your advice on this issue? May be that of a drunkared when there is free beer before him. I pity your wife |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by cupidora(f): 10:46pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Watch "Fireproof",its an insightful movie about how to keep a marriage/make a marriage work. 4 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by chinnygold: 10:56pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Some men Self. @ op are u sure u know what marriage is? I'm sure when u guys were dating u cook nd help wash her cloth when she visit, why can't u continue dat way. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by aspirebig: 10:56pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Well, it all depends on the two people involved. Op wears the shoe and know where it pained him. I will not advocate for divorce, though it is tempting to sometimes. My only pain is that most married people make you feel that marriage is hell. All na lie. Marriage is good, more peaceful manageable and respected than being single. In fact, get marry as early as you find your feet on ground, financially , emotionally and spiritually to build a home. Op, do not divorce your wife ooo.How old are both of you? Is she working, please check the type of friends she keeps, talk to her, let her see reason why she should join you to build a good home.Not just for the sake of the children but for the sake both of you and note that marriage should be enjoyed and not endured. I have read some funny post here. If you are NOT married, you wont understand how it is like, some character you see people call husband or wife are not what you think they are. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Henrypraise: 10:59pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
liyuboy: I won't advise u to consult anybody or ask her questions of how u have wronged her, all I will tell u is do not divorce her. Howeva, I can tell u wat u av done wrong: U av sold ur happiness by tryin to please ur wife, my friend stop pleasin ur wife n please ursef, in everytin u do, pls ursef even in s3x (don't take any enhancer to do more dan is required), ensure u pls ursef, go out wen u like n cum in wen u like, drop money if u can n don't drop if u knw u av need 4 it. Just ensure dat in pleasin ursef, u ar bin responsible, I bet u, she will call u her king. Women don't need to be pleased, a woman is pleased wen her king is pleased. 3 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 11:09pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
soledadd:fish-brain like you talking about wisdom, answer my question na, , you are here ranting like ashewo wey no get client for night. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by marriedvirgin: 12:05am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Guardianangel: you try well well. where the strength comot from 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by holysaint1(m): 12:25am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Bunsky: i neva anticipated it to be funny.. **just some of my crazy tots ** .. like aw mch "BUNS" can u be willin 2 sell if d need arises... (like assets and shiii ) NB: No offence intended oooo.. and if u still dont gerrit, its totally understandable. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Cedari: 1:16am On Oct 20, 2014 |
coogar: |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by mumubynature(m): 1:50am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Rosarie:Now this is the language we call PAYAN |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Alubosa: 3:17am On Oct 20, 2014 |
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Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by soledadd: 5:41am On Oct 20, 2014 |
@Scyllapatron If you think you are an elder with some experience you have to show it. Following your posts i saw irresponsibility even at you age. Its your kind of person that goes around pedling egocentrism all in the name of helping people sort their matital problems. At the end you lead them to destruction. I have said and still maintain that you are drunkard. Because your posts sujest it. Gone are days when women are so cheap for you to manipulate. Fool. Read other peoples post on this thread and and learn from men who know how to manage their family. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by timilinda(f): 6:19am On Oct 20, 2014 |
DukeNija: Nice!!! 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 6:32am On Oct 20, 2014 |
voodoo85:So other women that work don't do all these right? Or what are you really trying to say |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 6:50am On Oct 20, 2014 |
soledadd: answer my question, this ashewo fish-brain. stop displaying your imbecility and lack of home training. answer a simple question.. if it was your brother that has marital issues and complained to you about his wife, would you tell him to go and look into his life and see whether he has problem? answer this question or stop quoting me, fish-brain. 6 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 6:54am On Oct 20, 2014 |
Homguy:My brother it really hurts; how we lost one of the heroes in my family just like that! And sure, I did learnt some great lessons: 1. Never marry a girl from a poor/struggling family background if u are financially buoyant as a guy- most of such ladies marry for money/material reasons, not for companionship, so let them marry their kind and work hard with him to become buoyant instead of using marriage as a short-cut to becoming rich. 2. Never marry a girl u just met in the city and know nothing about her entire family background- some people have scary family issues that may harm u if u marry them, so find out who her family is b4 saying marry me. 3. Never marry a girl your parents objected to- my family welcomed the girl, but my parents advised my brother to wait n allow d girl mature first, unfortunately, they rushed it while she was below 25 and know nothing about keeping marriage. 4. Never marry a girl below 25years- many ladies would tell u maturity isn't by age, pls don't listen to them cos only few lucky girls below 25yrs behave well in marriage cos youthful exuberances are still predominant in their day-to-day life decisions/attitude. 5. Don't marry any girl out of pity! 6. Always listen to your inner voice first and obey it before obeying or taking any advice from anyone cos its u and only u that would face d consequences. 7. In as much as divorce is bad (God pls don't let me end up in a divorce in future), don't let the fear of what your children would go through if u divorce make u remain with an unworthy spouse cos if u die, those your children will continue to live happily like u never existed! 8. Have it in mind that marriage counsellors, pastors and external advisors cannot solve every marriage issues, sometimes, the only solution is separation/DIVORCE, even though its a hard decision. 9. Don't be deceived by a girl's lovey-dovey and excellent character before marriage. Don't let her presumed wonderful character during dating/courtship lure u into marrying her, instead, seek honestly for God's direction before u marry any lady cos many ladies pretend b4 marriage to secure the ring or have some sleeping evil spirits that usually wake up after u marry them, so go to God first for revelation b4 u marry any lady! 10. Don't ever make the mistake of pampering your wife; if she's fire, give her plenty firewood to burn along...if she's flame, pour fuel and possibly some methane to assist her blaze more and never pour water in the hope of making her cool when she's hot! If she's lovely, shower her with love and pamper her like a queen. If u can't pray very well, try fleece; I heard it works like magic. @homguy, yeah...somehow...things I see, read and hear contributed. Thanks @freshdude2, you made very valid points that e-marriage-counselling champions won't understand until they wear the shoe. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by EyeKandy(f): 7:13am On Oct 20, 2014 |
ShoryuKen: Haven't been on this site in forever....Had to log in to LOVE this. Nicely written. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by DSuperWoman(f): 7:16am On Oct 20, 2014 |
slinkky:you're not the only one who is scared. I share the same fears and coming from a broken home hasn't helped either. When my parents got divorced I didn't take it to mean anything but now getting closer to that age where it is expected of me to settle, I now see the effect of what their divorce has done to me. Maybe I need spiritual intervention too and some additional psycological help lolzzzzzzzz |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by onyekap: 7:16am On Oct 20, 2014 |
What you are going through is not unusua, find a way around to get a solution for your self..... Good u have aired your view which is worth it, but solution revolves within u...reason being that no other man or person can come and sleep with your wife for you, make love to her for you or treat her as a husband for you.. My experience is it is difficult to communicate with a wife, to find out an exact issue from a Nigerian wife you have to keep it on the fire and watch it get done, not always easy.. My advice is find time and means to always get to her heart to know exactly...... Reslve it reasonable and objectively with her, always let superior opinion upholds.. However your woman will want you to protect her in your arguements with her when you win her and want to always use it on you when she wins you... Don't let it border you, her conscience is always guiding her. They know the truth... Be the manager of her, mange her and don't let her be your manager.... Luck bro! 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by soledadd: 7:16am On Oct 20, 2014 |
@Skyllapatron You are not worth my answer. Drunkardspatron! Even your name is sugestive |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by MrsAnyanwu(f): 7:16am On Oct 20, 2014 |
cupidora:dat was d same tin i told OP my dear sister 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 7:19am On Oct 20, 2014 |
.............so what happened to "I saw that you were perfect and so I loved you, then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more" ? Na so marriage suppose naa..........or so I think |
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