Although no one really knows what it is, it seems like some people just can’t avoid it. Most of us, at some point in our lives, have a burning desire to be wanted (both physically and romantically) by another person, and being put in the “friend zone” is probably the most sincere, uncontrollable form of rejection that exists today. The catch is: It’s not an insult (or at least, an obvious one), but it’s also not an invitation to take the relationship to a new level. It’s somewhere in between “I think you’re really cool” and “I don’t like you like that…” but, for some odd reason, you’re usually entitled to many of the benefits that a best friend and/or boyfriend has privilege to, like innocent cuddling, sharing dark secrets or even watching them change in and out of clothes. And during this entire period of time, you can’t help but fall deeper and deeper in love with the person who you clearly have no chance with,So,how exactly do you get yourself out of the “friend zone?”
Well, you can’t. In fact, the “friend zone” doesn’t exist! It’s actually just the way another person perceives you based upon how you interact with them and how you appear to perceive your own self or worth. In addition, there are no set criteria to qualify for this bizarre yet transparent relationship status; ANYONE is capable of being “friend-zoned” by at least one other person in the world, no matter how confident or attractive they might be. And the reason is quite simple: When you consider the two main aspects involved in determining the “friend zone,” you’ll begin to notice that they’re never independent of each other. For example, let’s say you know for a fact that you’re both confident and attractive (not to be cocky, just hypothetically speaking.) You have a wide variety of options when it comes to engaging relationships with people, and you’ve also managed to develop a great amount of success that allows you the time and patience to pursue them all, if you so choose. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t find yourself head over heels for someone else who’s in a similar situation; this will almost always change your approach with this particular individual, which will also affect your personal feelings and self-awareness. Maybe you’ll be even more confident or attractive, or maybe you’ll start to realize insecurities about yourself that you were never given an opportunity to experience before.If the conditions of your relationships change, there will always be a greater probability that the relationship itself will change. Instead of trying to find a way to “get out” of this type of relationship, focus more on further developing what you already have going on with that person. Not every relationship will produce that instant, fiery attraction that quickly evolves into trust and intimacy, but that’s okay! It’s just as likely that a person you’ve shown interest in will reciprocate those feelings as it is likely that they won’t. But you can improve your chances of success by creating awesome memories and holding back any expectations that might negatively influence the interaction/self-perception ratio mentioned earlier.Sometimes, there are obstacles in our lives that, unfortunately, distort our emotional vision and prevent the best relationships for us from forming. However, when your true feelings are invested in someone, the amount of time it takes for the ideal scenario to take place should not be a deal breaker. If you find yourself getting impatient because things aren’t moving as fast as you would like, that’s most likely a sign that it might not be the best situation for you. At the end of the day, great friendships are built on a kind of trust that helps most relationships last longer, so being in the “friend zone” isn’t a bad thing after all! Try not to rush love, continue striving to be yourself and I can assure you that what you’re looking for in others will, ironically, find you.