Arguments are part of life. No matter
who you are there is no way of
avoiding them sooner, or later
conflict is going to occur. How we
handle them has often been modeled
to us by our parents as we grow up.
A lot of people deal with conflict in
ways that are not healthy, or good for
either person. Some resort to knock
down, drag out, cutting remarks that
are meant to hurt the other person.
Often it is to try and regain our
pride, and feel better about our
selves. They hurt your pride and took
a piece of you, now your trying to
save face and take it back. Three
really helpful rules for dealing with
an argument are:

1. Diffuse The Situation Quickly.
Diffuse the situation and resolve it as
quickly as possible before it escalates.
In my relationship we firmly follow
the scripture example of not staying
angry, or going to bed still mad, we
talk it out, and forgive, before going
to bed. It is not negotiable we expect
it of each other, I refuse to wake up
angry and begin another day that
way.
Eph 4:26-27 “In your anger do not
sin. Do not let the sun go down
while you are still angry, and do
not give the devil a foothold.”

2. Stick To The Issue.
Stick to the issue at hand and deal
specifically with that problem only.
Resist the urge to bring up old
problems, and compound them in,
with the new ones. In counselling I
used to call it P.H.D. Piling the
baggage Higher, and Deeper.
Bringing up and throwing the past
wrongs into a persons face only
makes the problem bigger, and is
never helpful.

3. Do Not Retaliate, instead hesitate.
Do not resort to retaliating, lashing
out, or using cutting remarks. Once
that venomous bite has been done it
is very hard to repair. The damage is
done, and once bitten twice shy. You
have hurt them in the hopes of
regaining your personal power back,
because they hurt you. Instead
purposely hesitate, take a minute to
think before you speak.

4. Seek to confront and resolve
immediately.
To resolve the argument address it
immediately before it can grow
bigger and escalate. Be the peace
maker right in the beginning. That
requires humility, but is well worth
it. Be honest and share with the
person what they did wrong. Do not
use language that is guaranteed to
make them defensive, for example
instead of saying something like
WHY? or YOU DID THIS, tone it
down, and try saying something like
WHEN THAT HAPPENED IT
BOTHERED ME, CAN WE TALK
ABOUT IT, OR HOW CAN WE
CHANGE THIS?

5. Forgive the person, or at least be
willing to try to forgive.
Even if you don’t feel it from the
heart at the time say the words, “I
forgive you.” Fake it until you feel it,
and let it go. Remember if you want
God to forgive you, you have to
forgive others, or God will not forgive
you.
That does not mean you put
yourself in harms way, or return to a
violent partner, it means you forgive
from the heart and let go of the
anger.

Real men diffuse arguements by their fist or their mouths

Don't bother argueing with women,they are always right . . I hope you know what i mean