TDN:
you are right, most times it feels like a lost cause but i'm not sure it's something anyone should laugh about. lost cause or not i will always stand by my feminist views, so you can continue mocking women who only want a better life for themselves. someone every human has the right t pursue, man or woman.

Omotola has stated what works for her marriage and is also entitled to her opinion on the status quo of men and women. some can choose to emulate, some can choose not to. we all have things to learn from people who have a successful marriage. take from it what you will but what you cannot do is force or mock others who decide to pass.

Mondisweets:
BOTH EQUITY AND EQUALITY MEAN FAIRNESS AND BALANCE!!!

iebanehita:


A simple illustration will do.

Thats equality being displayed, but is it balanced? YES;
but is it fair? NO

iebanehita:


My dear, quit backing the wrong horse. It's a lost cause. This Is Africa (Nigeria). The White man or his methodologies can't dictate how we live our lives. I am aware of the animalistic behaviours of some African men, but feminism is not the way forward.

Al these feminist on NL are bitter and ready to pul down any successful female celebrity who doesn't side their lost cause, just like the lady I engaged with. she felt good pulling down Omo T cz she never sided with her. You can imagine one of them saying Omo T should be denied her right to vote.

All these charades would only end on NL, bcz it has provided a platform for them. It can't see the light of the day.

Pls do me a favour. Google Folorunsho Alakija, Tara Durotoye, Ibukun Awosika. They are al successful women in their endeavours. Are they feminist?

Lastly, it's only a foo.lish man that would see a good thing and wouldn't want to emulate it. I am not forcing my opinion down anyone's throat. am only stating the obvious.

Cheers.

Mondisweets:


it is only a foo.lish man who does not see that if he works with his wife hand in hand as a partner he is more likely to succeed than when he treats her as his subordinate

crackhaus:

Carefreewannabe you still don't get it, you are mentally unsound.
Why should I care if you repeat it, shout it, or type it on every thread on Nairaland?

Are you not the one who claims she belongs to the school of post-feminism?

Post-feminism is the movement that signals a world “in which feminism has been transcended, occluded, overcome” (Hawkensworth).

You are also the same person who quoted an article authored by a novelist/writer of fiction to back up an argument about the brain's white matter.
The same white matter you didn't know it's function but kept asking me about very well after it had been explained more than 3pages before.

Lady you don't know who you are or what you stand for, your propensity to confuse yourself on almost every argument you engage in is enough proof of your bipolarity further made worse by your constant self-loathing and identity crisis.
You are a feminist and you don't know about the different movements and waves of feminism so you can fit yourself into one - can't you see you have issues?

Seek help, psychological and therapeutic help.

Mondisweets:
your system of law was influenced by whose methodology?

Your governmental system was influenced by whose methodology?

Africa has been Westernized a long time ago and trust me your day to day life is probably 95% influenced by West and instead of looking at it as if its demeaning rather look at it as developing and adopting to the society we are living in.
Only an under-achiever would see change as a negative thing, so please stop with that mentality.

West people have adopted positive african cultural values and they have embraced them into their day to day lives but you dont see them calling it a bad thing now do you?


we never pulled down her side we just wanted to understand why as someone who does not believe in gender equality would spend more time pursuing her career than she does taking care of her family at home and why she would be wearing skimpy clothes and kissing different men in different movies just to make money?

so i guess if i do the same thing, but still claim that i dont believe in gender equality then it means im still a "good woman" not a frustrated "feminist" like you put it?

Another question would you even let you wife do half of the things Omotola's husband allows her to do, as a man who strongly opposes feminism?

if it wasnt for the feminism movement women would still be restricted to the kind of education they can attain and the kind of jobs they can have.

If feminism could never see the light of day. The world would not where it is right now?
So remember that everytime you see a woman in a high office or doing any construction work!

and all the successful feminists how did they make it? The likes of Oprah Winfrey, one of the most successful women in the world? Africa's own Chimamanda Ngozi? Genevieve Nnaji? Your exapmle is rather lousy.

it is only a foo.lish man who does not see that if he works with his wife hand in hand as a partner he is more likely to succeed than when he treats her as his subordinant

tmosco:
Feminism opposes d view of marriage simple, dat why most of dem ar singles or lesbians. They shud ask their selves dis question why do most people support human rights but don't support or av no say abt feminism. It because we all know what u want.

cwen:
The truth is Omotola Jalade is an illiterate for saying she doesn't believe in gender equality, She really doesn't know d meaning of gender equality. It means women can aspire to be whatever they want to be same way men can. what has gender equality got to do qith her husband saying sorry or not. pppsssccchhhheeeewwww. I hate when celebrities misinterpret things and then feel dey can say whatever to get more fans. RUBISHHHHHHH!!!!!! Next tym she should use a better headline or simply say i want to advertise myself

crackhaus:

Carefreewannabe you still don't get it, you are mentally unsound.
Why should I care if you repeat it, shout it, or type it on every thread on Nairaland?

Are you not the one who claims she belongs to the school of post-feminism?

Post-feminism is the movement that signals a world “in which feminism has been transcended, occluded, overcome” (Hawkensworth).

You are also the same person who quoted an article authored by a novelist/writer of fiction to back up an argument about the brain's white matter.
The same white matter you didn't know it's function but kept asking me about very well after it had been explained more than 3pages before.

Lady you don't know who you are or what you stand for, your propensity to confuse yourself on almost every argument you engage in is enough proof of your bipolarity further made worse by your constant self-loathing and identity crisis.
You are a feminist and you don't know about the different movements and waves of feminism so you can fit yourself into one - can't you see you have issues?

Seek help, psychological and therapeutic help.

Mondisweets:
your system of law was influenced by whose methodology?

Your governmental system was influenced by whose methodology?

Africa has been Westernized a long time ago and trust me your day to day life is probably 95% influenced by West and instead of looking at it as if its demeaning rather look at it as developing and adopting to the society we are living in.
Only an under-achiever would see change as a negative thing, so please stop with that mentality.

West people have adopted positive african cultural values and they have embraced them into their day to day lives but you dont see them calling it a bad thing now do you?

we never pulled down her side we just wanted to understand why as someone who does not believe in gender equality would spend more time pursuing her career than she does taking care of her family at home and why she would be wearing skimpy clothes and kissing different men in different movies just to make money?

so i guess if i do the same thing, but still claim that i dont believe in gender equality then it means im still a "good woman" not a frustrated "feminist" like you put it?

Another question would you even let you wife do half of the things Omotola's husband allows her to do, as a man who strongly opposes feminism?

if it wasnt for the feminism movement women would still be restricted to the kind of education they can attain and the kind of jobs they can have.

If feminism could never see the light of day. The world would not where it is right now?
So remember that everytime you see a woman in a high office or doing any construction work!

and all the successful feminists how did they make it? The likes of Oprah Winfrey, one of the most successful women in the world? Africa's own Chimamanda Ngozi? Genevieve Nnaji? Your exapmle is rather lousy.

it is only a foo.lish man who does not see that if he works with his wife hand in hand as a partner he is more likely to succeed than when he treats her as his subordinant

carefreewannabe:


We will talk again when you learn to control your emotions some more.

crackhaus:

Boohoo, you should be able to take back that which you give and not whine like a little girl.

When you were bringing my unborn daughters and granddaughters into your caustic diatribe and getting cheered on for it, you didn't realize you urgently needed lessons in emotional management huh?

Please spare me the sermon you phoney.

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I also saw your reply Mondi, you called me petty for replying your caustic post in equal weight? You were not petty when you were typing yours eh?
You NL pseudo-feminists are not to be taken seriously.
You shoot first but when you get a response equal and over in weight, you take the highroad and whine.

I've got a mean mouth capable of stripping self-esteems down to the bone, don't antagonize me and assume the victim stance when I respond in kind.